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To say something or not?

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Teancake1 · 24/08/2026 16:06

New neighbours moved into the flat next door earlier this year. A nice couple with 2 boys. I haven't had too much interaction with them, just friendly greetings when we meet. In general, you can't hear much noise from next door but what I am hearing is him vomiting loudly almost every morning - so much so that it wakes me up. What I have noticed is is doesn't happen if they have overnight guests, which I do see them coming/ leaving. He's a nice guy, doesn't ever seem to be under the influence of anything. He is very slim.
It's becoming quite annoying to be woken by this or hearing it every morning. I don't know whether to say something or not?

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allgoodhere783 · 24/08/2026 17:04

Just ask if he's heard anything like a cat vomiting.... or foxes

Just to get the message across that, yes, you can hear something.

ownedbymydogs · 24/08/2026 16:54

I’m going to go against the consensus here. The assumption being made is that it doesn’t happen when there are guests. However, it may be happening, just in another part of the property.
Whether it is a physical or mental illness is irrelevant. Who is vomiting is irrelevant. Listening to someone vomiting has the effect of making me want to vomit, and sometimes actually do so, so to hear it daily it is not something I could live with.
Obviously there is a distressing issue for that family to deal with, but hearing this every day is beyond what should put up with by a neighbour, and nor is it the neighbour’s role to involve themselves in that issue.
I think you should say something along the lines of what you have suggested. They probably have no idea you can hear it.
It is a really tricky one, though.

Notaboutthebass · 24/08/2026 16:53

Might have a medical condition that potentially causes him to vomit every day for the rest of his life. Leave him alone.

PurplebudsWhitebuds · 24/08/2026 16:37

How do you know that it's the guy vomiting ?

6ate9 · 24/08/2026 16:27

It would be very intrusive to say something.

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Teancake1 · 24/08/2026 16:19

Okay, I accept that. That's all I was asking. I won't say anything.

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Indianajet · 24/08/2026 16:12

You can't say anything, this is really not your business.

5128gap · 24/08/2026 16:12

What would you be hoping to achieve? Vomiting isn't like loud music where a word from a neighbour could result in an apology and turning it down. Presumably its due to physical or mental illness which he's not going to be able to turn off so not to be a nuisance. Very unpleasant for you, but I genuinely don't see what you can do. Earplugs?

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Teancake1 · 24/08/2026 16:11

Just if I meet him, ask him has he been unwell? We had family staying recently and I just felt embarrassed they had to hear this.

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Mulledjuice · 24/08/2026 16:08

What are you planning to say? And to whom?