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Family holiday - fed up already and not even got there yet!

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Stressedmumma88 · 24/08/2026 15:29

Going on holiday with dh and dc (8 and 5)

Dh is in a strop as i have had to bring my work laptop as a back up as a couple of things in my role that the person who is covering may not be able to do due to some family things, person is a close friend of mine so have taken it purely in case I need to do it (would be an hour max) I shouldn't need to and if i do have agreed with line manager I get a days holiday back

Then we both worked half days today, I've wfh and logged on early to finish at 11, also finished packing the cases, sorted the kids bags out, sorted the pets out, done the bins a load of other stuff. Dh got home from his half way (can't wfh) and has moaned that I've done nothing all day as he spent 20 minutes trying to sort thr hive out and had to carry 2 cases down the stairs. We both loaded the car.

Now on a train and all he's done is said how I don't travel well (I travel for my role a lot so know what I am doing!) And that I'm lazy.

Would rather be at work

OP posts:
thistimelastweek · 24/08/2026 16:01

What's with these horrible men?

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 16:00

Bjorkdidit · 24/08/2026 15:59

Well assuming it's not a beehive, it's likely something he can pointlessly faff with so in his tiny mind he's 'busy doing something useful' so couldn't possibly empty the bins, or pack for his DCs holiday.

My first assumption was that it was a beehive. Not owning one, I have no idea what type of work is required with it before you leave for a holiday!

Bjorkdidit · 24/08/2026 15:59

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:55

What is the hive?

Well assuming it's not a beehive, it's likely something he can pointlessly faff with so in his tiny mind he's 'busy doing something useful' so couldn't possibly empty the bins, or pack for his DCs holiday.

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:58

Idontjetwashthefucker · 24/08/2026 15:56

Hive that controls heating etc I'd imagine

I'm in the US. We refer to it at HVAC (heating, ventilation and air conditioning). Is Hive an acronym?

Idontjetwashthefucker · 24/08/2026 15:56

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:55

What is the hive?

Hive that controls heating etc I'd imagine

TheJoyousHiker · 24/08/2026 15:56

Stressedmumma88 · 24/08/2026 15:36

He doesn't travel well but won't admit it

I have been away with the kids by myself a few times and it's been so easy

The moaning about the share of work is a usual thing

Are you the higher earner by any chance or have better working hours than him ?

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:55

What is the hive?

Ablondiebutagoody · 24/08/2026 15:50

Why not just knock off on Friday, casually get yourselves organised over the weekend, then head off today after a nice brunch?

A half day of work before finishing off the packing was always going to be a shitty way to start.

YABU because the plan was silly.

ItsStillWork · 24/08/2026 15:46

The hive, a first I thought that was a bee hive that you had but now I’m thinking it’s the heating system?

either way he’s done nothing compared to you.

i hate going away as all this packing, booking, organising falls down to me and the stress of it all makes me hate holidays.

sounds like he could have travel anxiety and that’s making him unreasonable

Whatbloodysummer · 24/08/2026 15:42

Stressedmumma88 · 24/08/2026 15:36

He doesn't travel well but won't admit it

I have been away with the kids by myself a few times and it's been so easy

The moaning about the share of work is a usual thing

I'd be asking him just wtf is so difficult about sorting hive, and carrying packed & ready suitcases to the bloody car, because that's ALL he fucking did !

I bet you actually packed his case too, didn't you OP???🙄

Favouritefruits · 24/08/2026 15:40

Ignore him! Where you off too?

Whatbloodysummer · 24/08/2026 15:39

I'd be telling him straight that if he thinks that

Packing for yourself
Packing for the kids
Sorting the pets
Working while wrangling overexcited kids all morning
Tidying and emptying bins
Stripping beds/ sorting laundry/ hoovering (or whatever else you did)

as well as no doubt being in charge of organizing & booking the holiday, making sure everyones passport is up to date etc

is bloody 'being lazy', then you simply can't wait until you arrive at your destination and fuck off for a few hours to let him actually DO something ffs!!!

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 15:38

He’s sounds like a peach! Is he always like this or just a one off? Just wondering if he suffers with travel anxiety or something?

Stressedmumma88 · 24/08/2026 15:36

He doesn't travel well but won't admit it

I have been away with the kids by myself a few times and it's been so easy

The moaning about the share of work is a usual thing

OP posts:
backs999 · 24/08/2026 15:34

This sounds like a lot of people I know!

I have always suggested an app called Equal House to them. My family use it as well so can't recommend it enough

TheJoyousHiker · 24/08/2026 15:33

Is he always like this or is it a once off/out of character ? I’d be having a quick chat and tell him to stop or you’ll go home and leave him to it. Did you pack for him or did he do it himself ?

MidnightPatrol · 24/08/2026 15:31

Trying to work a half day and then leave on holiday is universally a complete nightmare.

It leaves you too stretched. One thing if you only have to think about yourself - but if also needing to get everyone to the right place, it’s massively stressful.

nutbrownhare15 · 24/08/2026 15:31

Wow. I'd be getting off at the next stop and leaving him to it.

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