Family holiday - fed up already and not even got there yet!

He doesn't want to go away with you all. He'd rather be at home in his slippers doing whatever he wants by himself. I've no solution for you, but I'd rather be on my own with the kids if he's like that TBH.

Having read all your posts, I am genuinely trying to see how this man adds any value to your life. My dh drives me absolutely POTTY at times, and I 100% have been known to text or rant in person to a friend, but its usually ONE thing. And even as I am ranting, j very quickly am reminded that it IS just one thing.

You, in the other hand, have a list of genuinely shitty behaviours from your dh. A list. All linked to one brief period. He sounds truly awful.

OP he sounds like an annoying dick.
Honestly I would just get an uber home with the kids.
Long term - he needs to go. I can't imagine my partner calling me lazy. Silly arse.

Tell him to f off.

And no doubt he’ll moan that you haven’t packed his favourite blue shirt/his REM t shirt/his second best jeans or whatever.

You both are unreasonable in your own way.

You:
Holiday means holiday. Maybe you'd only need to be online for "an hour, max", but the underlying possibility, for the entire duration of the holiday, that someone from work might call in and disrupt your time off is suuuper not okay. Either be on holiday or don't. I'm sure your friend can manage without you for a week or two. There are other people to ask for help, why does it have to be the one person who's on holiday? Even if it's only you who can help, then she'll just have to wait. Your holiday was approved, that means your duties can wait. I would be annoyed, like your husband is, too.

Your husband:
He sounds like an ass. I assume you have a tense marriage as it is?

He needs to lighten up, there are pople with nothing but the clothes on their back who'd give their right arm and a kidney for a holiday. Anywhere. Your husband should be grateful that you have the means to go anywhere, and do himself a favour and enjoy it. We only live once, how miserable do you have to be to not be excited about going on holiday...

There's nothing more enraging that a princess in form of a man. Instead of harrassing you and telling you what you're doing wrong, or not doing at all, why isn't he pitching in and helping you out?

You don’t have a holiday problem, you have a “D”H problem 🫤

Ear pods?

DH faffed about 'logging us out of netflix'for about 2 hours while I packed on our way out of our airb&b. It's the 'lord of tech' approach to doing fuck all.

"And yes I packed his case for him"

You Silly Billy! Let him survive with no boxers or whatever.

Why? Seriously. Make this the last time.

The very first holiday I went on with DH, he griped over something minor I’d done or hadn’t on the way to the airport. I instantly said something like ‘oh shit, as I’ve ruined the holiday already I might as well go home. You crack on if you want.’ He obviously then laughed it off, and it’s become a running joke whenever there is inevitable travel tension (and it works both ways).

I hope he’s now got his head out of him bum and you all draw a line under it ahead of a great holiday!

I am very curious - why do you put up with this?

he sounds like a pain in the arse.

How long do you think you can put up with him?
However, kids need a dad - they're only young.

So I think you probably need to start learning how to be much more assertive in your marriage. You sound like a very together person & no stranger to holding your own.
But, if your marriage is to survive, your DH needs to listen up, straighten up & fly right.
I've thought for a very long time that assertiveness training should be taught in secondary schools. It's good for all teenagers and young adults but essential for girls / young women. Good luck, OP. Hope the holiday turns out OK.

Make a list of all the things you did. Make a list of all the things he did. Present him with the list with a querying look and ask “can you just explain to me how you reached due conclusion I did nothing”. Then never pack anything for him ever again.

Mmm...I think I would be tempted to adopt some weaponised incompetence here and tell him he is right and he's much better at these things so next time you going on holiday you stay at work and get him to get all the jobs done before hols. In fact, start on holiday and say he should get the kids organised for any days out because you are bound to fall short. Twat

Christ isn’t it sometimes all just a lot easier and more peaceful without them? Even with the kids to deal with. If this is the sort of shit he always pulls you seriously need to be considering the future. My blood is boiling for you.

Thanks!

Hive is a system to control your heating and hot water. You control it from an app on your phone so no need to worry about it before leaving, you could just as well do it on the train.

Oh I hope it gets better for you. I’ve got a post on at the moment and I’ve been ripped a new bum hole by many. But the holiday started very much like yours. OH in a fouls mood that they expect to to forget once they are no longer in it. Blaming me for having no insect repellent despite me making sure the kids had EVERYTHING they needed. Your husband should be glad you have a job where you’re important, it means you bring money into the home. They never are happy though are they? Work too much - unhappy. Stay at home - snide comments about not working.

Hive is a popular brand of heating thermostat. Although I'm not sure what interaction it needs at this time of year. It's very warm in the UK at the moment so Hives will have generally sat dormant for months until the temperature drops enough for people's heating to kick in again. I predict this will happen a week today, because it's the last bank holiday of the summer.

I think that Hive is the brand name for the wifi controller. So basically, he had to turn the heating off. Would have taken about 10 seconds.

Remember we all just have jobs and you would be replaced before your coffin is in the ground