AIBU to lie about my holiday plans?

I saw something the other day and it said ‘people will comment on money spent on travel like it’s a waste but they will praise the brand new Range Rover, the new kitchen they didn’t need and the £400 gym membership they can’t afford. Honestly who cares. We are the same, we spend the majority of our money on travel. I wouldn’t lie, be proud of it!

How bizarre. Who cares ?? We’ve done some quite different holidays and no one has ever commented negatively.
People are interested not jealous ime.

Think you're overthinking. Agree with other posters that most people are genuine in just making conversation and. Maybe even feeling excited for you.

You might get the odd person who is jealous or makes nasty comments. When you do, you could have a line or two to put a stop to it.

I had work friends do it to me before and it annoyed me because we were all earning the same, but they chose to spend their money on bottles of wine every night and getting their nails done and fancy car leases. They could have spent it on trips instead. Didn't like having that pointed out to them!

Genuinely surprised anyone cares tbh. We spend on travel, it's our priority. We don't have a huge house or expensive cars but we spend a lot on holidays. In the past year my kids have done a California road trip, been to the Scottish Highlands, spent a half term in St Lucia and been skiing in the Alps. There's zero reaction other than "sounds nice" from friends or at school, or maybe a bit of chat if it's somewhere they are interested in/have been to/are planning to visit. I really don't see any reason to lie about it?

I know what you mean. Once, years ago I used a (very)one off bonus to buy a plane ticket to a pretty exotic place in Asia to visit a much loved cousin who was on a working gap year (and missing home badly), overall it wasn’t that expensive as I stayed with her and we budgeted everything but for some reason every person I mentioned it too (plans for the holidays? Yes I’m visiting family in xx)acted like I’d said I was travelling all inclusive 5 star on the orient express for a month. Like I was bragging somehow, I felt so shamed that I never to this day say where I’m going on hols, lol that could be me thing but I felt like other peoples baggage was tooooo much, don’t need them sh!ttting on my plans

Telling the truth is typically the best option. That way, it’s easy to remember what you said. Also, I think you are overthinking this massively.

Absolutely none of anyone's business where you go on holiday.

Best not to say anything.

From a security point of view, anyone you tell, can easily speak to someone else (e.g. my friend John/Jane is going on holiday for two weeks to so and so, how exotic is that!), about your holiday, look up your details on Facebook, or other social media as you'll be a mutual friend, and with a bit of detective work if you're careless with your photos, e.g. your door number on display as you take your children's first day of term photos, or your garden/car, etc., you can easily be a target for a burglary (and probably take your car as well)

If work colleagues ask, then just mention you need to be at home as you've got house renovations going on.

Never tell anyone that gives the impression that your house is going to be empty.

You're living in cloud cuckoo land. It's just making conversation no one actually gives a toss where you're going. They will forget the answer in 5 minutes.

They don’t care just making conversation. If you think it’s an issue with a set person just say got a cheap deal we are looking forward to it or going to the beach or going camping or going to a cabin no other details needed.

Beyond the actual destination, no-one gives a flying fuck about the detail of your holiday.
In fact, not only do we not want to hear the detail, we really don't want to see the photos.

I feel the same when we go to very touristy places. I do think people judge about everything these days. I would lie and if someone said ‘ooh I thought you were going to Malaysia.’ I would pretend I didn’t hear 😂

If you are going to Mexico just say we are going to Mexico. The devil is in the details so as you are so sensitive- don’t mention any expensive activities/ features or for how long. If asked - be a bit vague. Many people don’t like to advertise details of their plans beforehand.
I wouldn’t comment on affordability/ prices etc myself and would dump gently any questions on that topic.

It’s unreasonable to expect a child to lie

You have a family. That family includes children. You are just going to have to down your choices and tell the truth.

We do long haul and local holidays but rarely get asked about where we are going so I am curious as to why this is an issue. I only ever ask people this if I know they usually do travel as it might be rubbing it in a bit if people are struggling to make ends meet. Sometimes they don’t prioritise holidays but sometimes it is simply there is no money spare and it would feel bad to ask and I don’t volunteer although I do put pictures afterwards on social media and what’s app our close family pictures.

FGS. No one is that interested in you.

People asking how much it costs and where I got the idea to go there. Also “oh I would never spend that much” comments which I always find a bit weird - like mate don’t worry I wasn’t gonna invite you. Some people are genuinely curious in a normal way, which is fine but sometimes you can just tell by the tone someone is being weird. My sister asks me how much flights ect cost but I know she’s just really nosey, I don’t mind genuine questions.

My husband is incredibly honest, and doesn't care what people think, so tells our plans exactly when asked

I'd suggest taking a leaf out of your husband's book, he sounds like he's got exactly the right approach.

People are so weird! I couldn't tell you where any of my colleagues or neighbours have been this year. They did tell me but I really don't care so don't retain the info.

Random comments like "oh, how exotic" or "oh, lucky you away again" sound like something I would say to be polite whilst quickly moving the conversation on as I really don't give a shit!

In what way were they weird?

I think most people don't care about travel in general or are happy with a couple of weeks a year in a reasonably priced AI in Spain. A few might be jealous but for all they know you might be spending an inheritance or getting into debt.

Travel is just so personal that I really can't see many people caring outside of a way to make polite smalltalk.

DS has a classmate who in one year has gone to Japon, Seychelles, New York, Australia and Norway. Needless to say the others are a bit jealous 😅 but they are y9 so understand that some are financially better off than others. Happy this is not a good friend of my ds because the disparity might be hard when one has unlimited fonds to spend whereas ds and his friends are happy to go out with a picknick, go to the cinema, swimming, playing football etc.

Are you referring to your hairdresser asking this standard question?

My first thought was also that you're overthinking. I really can't imagine people care that much.

nah! couldn't give two hoots what people think of my holidays