AIBU to lie about my holiday plans?

I have plenty of friends that can afford pricier holidays than me. That's life.

Up to you how you answer but i am very very grateful we can do the amazing trips we do so i don’t hide it. As long as not bragging it’s fine to say where your going.

It's divided by a lot more people though. And the decision to fly is much more discretionary (most people have no choice about using tech for work and home. Most airline travel is leisure and therefore personal choice, most people would opt out of AI and bug data if they could)

I have this too! If I ask about someone's holiday I'm genuinely interested but a lot of people know that I don't fly for leisure trips any more and so they get all defensive. It genuinely fascinates me how people put together their holidays and all the details about what they've chosen to do and where they do it and there's no judgement there*

I love to holiday both in Europe and close to home. But I have been told by certain people that my holidays are rubbish and I should go to the Caribbean where it's warmer and the drink is cheaper (I hate the heat and really don't drink enough to care that much about price of it). People are weird about holidays but don't add to the awkwardness by trying to lie about it - that would just make it worse.

*Well, a tiny bit of judgement for things like a helicopter flight over a glacier, resorts built on rainforest land, unethical wildlife tourism but even then I'd try really hard not to show it and i'd still be interested in what they were looking forward to/what they thought of it when they got back.

Are you judging every poster on this thread too? Tech & Cloud has surpassed the airline industry.

Aviation Industry: Produces roughly 1 billion metric tons of CO2 annually globally (about 2% to 2.5% of global emissions). Domestic U.S. commercial aviation accounts for around 131 million metric tons.

Tech & Cloud Industry: Responsible for 2% to 4% of global greenhouse gas emissions. Driven by rapid digitization and artificial intelligence, the cloud and data center footprint now rivals or surpasses commercial aviation.

You are being unreasonable to want to lie at all. Find domething proper to worry about

I can't say I've ever given it a second thought.

You are so massively over-thinking this.

The ONLY holiday I would raise an eyebrow to is Dubai as it is so soulless. (Yes, been there as my best mate lived there for 3 years and she also found it soulless).

Who cares what people think or say? If theyre interested then answer their questions. If they say "only" France I'd say that I LOVE France and hope they have an amazing time.

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This.

Enjoy your lovely holidays!

I get this 100%. It feels awkward. Especially when they never go on holiday but you have to say, 'and what about you?' I sometimes feel almost embarrassed especially when they say 'oh i'm so jealous' and mine aren't even far flung holidays!

Completely agree with this. How utterly self centred to think everyone cares so much about your holiday? You’re making yourself look ridiculous if you lie.
A not so subtle stealth boast, both here and IRL.

I think YABU to lie about it, but I don't think YANBU to feel this way. I think most people are just genuinely trying to make conversation; I love hearing about where people are going - I love travelling, love getting ideas and appreciate different types of holiday.

But yes, I think you can get judgy comments about this - and many other things really - and it's annoying. I think in all cases, given the simple, basic answer is the way forward. In this case, a simple 'we are going to XYZ' is enough. If people are interested in a nice way and have questions, fine, but leave them to it if not. I wouldn't lie, as you've pointed out; it just creates extra complications.
Know what you like, why you're doing it and don't feel the need to justify it.

You're giving it too much thought. People really don't care where you're going on holiday, perhaps after a little pang of jealousy. They are mostly being polite or making conversation. You're making more of a drama out of it by refusing to tell anyone.

I think you’re overthinking. I’ve only ever had positive or curious responses to holidays I’ve mentioned. Usually people will say they’ve always wanted to go/been before and it was like this. I don’t know why so many people react negatively to you, perhaps it’s in your head more than anything else.

Not sure you can really equate expensive with nice and cheaper with less nice 🤔 Some of my cheaper holidays have been way better than some more expensive ones!

I always say where we are going, if people have an issue with it that’s their problem.

YANBU to lie about it, you don't owe people the truth, but there's nothing you can reasonably do about your DH or DC telling the truth. Given they are going to give the game away I would recommend altering the way you think about others' responses to you. I don't think the question is intended as more than small talk normally, though I get that it hasn't worked out that way for you.

Maybe they think you will judge them for ‘just’ going to Spain. Maybe don’t ask about their holiday plans? Change the subject away from holidays.

My mother sometimes had a health concern if she knew I was going away, I started to call from the airport saying I’d booked a last minute trip.

The posters saying no one cares.must not have contact with dysfunctional people.

I never told my parents where I was off to on holiday. My mother would have had a heart attack if she had known I was travelling alone to countries in the Middle East like Syria, Iran and so on. I either neglected to mention I was going away or said I was off to somewhere safe like Paris or Venice. My mother never owned a passport in her life.

Lie away! None of my colleagues knew my dc went to a fee-paying school and it made their lives so much happier, the colleagues' lives I mean! I only nodded when they ranted about unfair privilege, etc. Lie away! Does not matter what your dc says at school - children often lie, so no matter.

I ask about peoples holidays to make conversation I dont care that deeply and I do wonder are they really being judgy or have you just worked that up in your own head, do people really care that much or are just resturning the conversaiton like normal people do?

It doesn’t matter where you go. I thought I was saving money by having 6 nights in croatia with a drive there. I had a car accident and had to stay longer but even then it was expensive.. I have spent more money going there than if I’d had a flight to Thailand and 9 nights in a 5 star hotel. Don’t lie.

This is a them problem not a you problem. If they are jealous they'll have to deal with that. Who cares what people you barely know think. If your friends have a problem with it I'd get new friends.