My “comeback” was equal levels rude?

What a nasty spiteful thing to say. Is your BF furious. Because I would be if you said anything like that to my aunt.

Is it time to get back to serving your man? We wouldn’t want the men in your family to think you’re only worth a fuck now, would we.

I would have asked the cousin, why did AUNT ask me my age. [And waited for the truth to come...]

She knows your age, or rough age. She knows her views on unmarried 30 something females. She was having a dig. She asked a personal question and so did you.

Respect your elders is held high..... but respect is earned and she didnt earn it.

I support you.

It was a bit rude but I do also think good on you, if she’s judgy sounds like she needs put in her place anyway.

Your aunt doesn’t know your age?

She asked a personal question that is usually ‘not done’, and considered impolite, so IMO you were entitled to retaliate.

However you were VVU to say ‘step foot’. It’s SET foot! Where TF did this aberration come from - as if I didn’t know - from across the pond, as usual.

Why do elders deserve respect just for being old?

Similarly, OP can infer that the aunt thinks she's over the hill, but the aunt has not said that.

Do you not see the irony in your posts?

“a” Madonna.

Madonna made a career out of not respecting her elders!

@Rebes you know the culture, you know this woman and you know what she was doing

she knew what she was asking.

she won’t be asking you again now will she.

ignore everything thrown at you. You’ve just put down your boundary and nobody is going to mess with you again.

I don’t know the nationality you’re from, but I lived in Egypt once and this sentiment is absolutely rife there. You’re literally on the scrap heap if you’re female over 30. You’re treated like shit because clearly you’re desperate and will have to accept whatever awful bloke and his sleazy advances comes your way.

yes it’s rude what you said, but you know the implications of what she was asking were way worse because it wasn’t called for.

are you sure about being involved with this family?

Again, does she say that in any of her posts?

This is so disingenuous. You know exactly why it's rude because you explain it: "Older people in my culture can sometimes be seen as invalid, not worth listening to." The fact that you personally claim not to feel that way doesn't negate the fact that it's rude for that reason.

And if you can understand why it's rude to point out someone's weight, you can understand why it's rude to point out someone's age. There's nothing inherently wrong with being fat either so by the same logic it should be fine to ask someone's BMI as well.

Your reply was way ruder. She could have been asking out of general interest and not being judgemental (even if she was, there was a possibility that she wasnt) whereas you were clearly saying she was fat! You are very touchy about your age. What does "passed it" mean? Childbearing? You have a decade so why so intense?

Her words upset you. And I understand why you lashed out. But. Your retort doesn’t balance things out. I understand about sticking up for yourself but in this instance the best thing to do would be to walk away. Let her words wash over you and leave it. The aggravation of the aftermath is not worth it. Let someone be judgmental. That’s their issue not yours. Their riddle to solve.

Very quick and sharp, well done OP. Will make her think twice about her misogynistic questions in future. My MIL was a misogynist too, they aren’t as uncommon as you might think.

Again, in certain cultures being unmarried in your thirties is considered to be a source of shame, so within the context provided by the OP, then yes, she would be considered old.

Consider the context put before you, not your own.

Asking someone their age is a pretty normal part of a conversation.

It really isn’t, not where I’m from anyway.

So why is she so keen to go back?

Being able to be respectful to elders doesn't make you Madonna ffs. It's like the bare minimum.

Do you find it that hard not to lash out and be spiteful when you feel aggrieved?

Same.

You can infer all you like, but the OP has not said that.

But op knows she isn't old.

I just don't think being asked your age ever justifies trying to fat shame someone and its sad that so many on here think its appropriate

No we wouldn’t. Most women don’t want to be treated like either Madonnas or whores, which, based upon your posts, appears to be the only two forms of existence open to the women in your family.

In response to you're very tall - my sister used to say and you're very fat, or you have a big nose, ears or what ever feature she felt they were likely to be most insecure about.

Asking someone their age is a pretty normal part of a conversation.

It may be in some social circles, but in others it most definitely is not. I was brought up to believe it is extremely rude to ask any adult their age.