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Do you agree with school absence fines?

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Dreamyseptember · 24/08/2026 10:43

I honestly don’t have a strong opinion either way. I work term time so I can only go away in the school holidays anyway, plus I’ve never been keen on mine missing school.

However, I can totally understand why for many people they want to go on holiday during term time. A family holiday can be a magical experience, visiting somewhere new, spending proper time together, experiencing new things, getting away from the daily grind. And for many this would be unaffordable in the school holidays. The other thing is that parents can’t always get the time off work.

I do think it’s important for children to attend school, I know they missing large chunks at school can mean them falling behind, miss out on learning as well as time with friends.

But tbh, I know people whose children missing large chunks school frequently anyway. Any sniffle, tired day, weather too hot or too cold and the parents are ringing them on sick. There are other children who attend 100% of the time and is one week away for a family holiday, possibly at a time of year when learning is wrapping up anyway, going to really make that much difference.

When I was at school in the 80s/90s it was quite normal for children to disappear for 2 weeks for a holiday abroad and no one batted an eyelid.

I’m sure that there are lots of arguments either way but do you think it’s right and fair that parents are fined for taking their children on holiday during term time?

Yabu - the fines are correct
Yanbu - it should be the parents decision

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Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 11:33

Toodoloo · 24/08/2026 11:26

So work with parents to keep their kids engaged with learning. Fining them doesn't increase attendance but does negatively affect the family.

Sadly a lot of the parents whose children are struggling don’t give a stuff no matter how much we engage with them! Their parents saw no importance of education so neither do they and will continue down to their children’s children sadly.

Dandeloosha · 24/08/2026 11:33

It’s challenging enough managing a class without having to spend time, energy, and the disruption to the other children, of teaching little Johnny long division separately because his parents chose to take him to Benidorm for two weeks in February when it was being taught the first time. Even more fun when he gets a sniffle and has to stay off for another two weeks. At this point little Johnny has missed a month of school - around a 9th of the school year, half of which was entirely avoidable.

We know that performance is linked to attendance. Why wouldn’t you want to give your kid the best chance of doing well for the sake of a few hundred quid? If the fines make at least some parents think twice then that can only be a good thing. If they removed them I can only imagine that attendance would become patchy across the board, especially from the kids who probably need to attend the most.

Dancingonlies · 24/08/2026 11:32

Dancingonlies · 24/08/2026 11:31

I disagree with them because

  1. they disproportionally impact disabled and SEN children whose needs are being so poorly met in the educational system at the moment that it’s insult to injury to then fine them
  2. where there are more ‘truancy’ type issues it’s a poor way of trying to fix them
  3. holidays in term time have no impact on attainment. The evidence is that poor attendance is associated with poor attainment but since this is also linked with SEND we can’t really say there is ANY causal link between a family holiday and attainment.
  4. Fundamentally parents know better than schools what their children need and I don’t think state parenting is a good concept.

Oh and my kids have fantastic attendance. I have also never taken my kids out of school for a holiday.
They have missed a week of school due to a bereavement and it was absolutely the right choice .

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 11:32

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 11:25

Doesn't help low paid families 2026.

It would help in the future. And for next year people need to start saving! DH and I are already saving for our holidays next year.

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 11:31

Gengha · 24/08/2026 11:30

Presumably the idea is it’s a deterrent so parents don’t do this?

Likely but will it make any difference? Most likely not.

Dreamyseptember · 24/08/2026 11:31

C152 · 24/08/2026 11:28

No, I strongly disagree with school absence fines.

Every time one of these threads comes up and, as you yourself have pointed out, it's highlighted that fines do very little to deter absence and are simply a money making exercise. If the Government actually cared about children being in school, they would invest in education and healthcare. That's the real crux of the matter.

To be honest I didn’t actually look this up before starting the thread.

I keep seeing people on SM going mad about school fines.

I am a massive believer in school attendance, however I do also think that family holidays are a hugely valuable experience.

But now that I have read that the fines don’t even make any difference to attendance, I think that they are bloody ridiculous.

Attendance should be about the children’s well being and education and nothing more.

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Dancingonlies · 24/08/2026 11:31

I disagree with them because

  1. they disproportionally impact disabled and SEN children whose needs are being so poorly met in the educational system at the moment that it’s insult to injury to then fine them
  2. where there are more ‘truancy’ type issues it’s a poor way of trying to fix them
  3. holidays in term time have no impact on attainment. The evidence is that poor attendance is associated with poor attainment but since this is also linked with SEND we can’t really say there is ANY causal link between a family holiday and attainment.
  4. Fundamentally parents know better than schools what their children need and I don’t think state parenting is a good concept.
Gengha · 24/08/2026 11:30

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 10:53

How would that help a child?

Presumably the idea is it’s a deterrent so parents don’t do this?

BirdLandedonmyHead · 24/08/2026 11:30

Weve taken our children out a few times (longest 5 days). The money didnt come into it... it was around their fathers time off work. Which was rhen authorised, as he us in the Army, and Military parents can get an exemption... which is unfair, as other jobs can have similar issues.

I dont think the fines have much effect on the larebts paying £10k for Florida or Thailand etc.

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 11:30

JustPassingThyme · 24/08/2026 11:25

The point you made "if children are allowed to take holidays during term time, then so should teachers" is a bit ridiculous.

The difference between the students and the staff is that the staff are employed by the school, they are paid to be there teaching the students. Also, the staff are adults who would be the ones booking holidays, not children who realistically have no say on when the holiday is booked.

I don't think there is anything wrong with a child missing a week of school to go abroad, it's easy enough to catch up. Home educating parents prove every day that learning can actually happen outside of a classroom.

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Why is it ridiculous? The children aren’t getting the fines the parents are.
1 child missing 1 week isn’t going to make much difference but multiply that by 30 children at different times of the year and it’s very difficult to catch everyone up!!

Writer034 · 24/08/2026 11:29

I work in Higher Education so it's clear education occupies a high value in my and my family's life. But I deeply believe that family experiences such as holiday are at least as important as formal education for a child's wellbeing (if not more). Also, what about children of mixed origins, such as mine? I'm originally from Europe and going home to see family with my kids is much more than just a vacation, it's connecting to roots, culture and some of the most important people in our life. If we couldn't afford to take them during school holidays, I would absolutely take them out of term, providing it's not exam time.

Gengha · 24/08/2026 11:28

my two have left school now but I never took them out of school for holiday. I’m very against it personally and that stems from being taken out of school myself for holidays as a child (not every year but a few times) as my dad had to take set holidays. I hated it. Teachers with their 13 weeks off a year made snide comments and although I was/am very intelligent and left school with all As in my highers so it never impacted me academically it made me stand out. Whether it’s the same these days as it seems more common who knows. I also hate going on holiday outside of school times and places still being overrun with kids. That said I don’t think I agree with fining.

C152 · 24/08/2026 11:28

No, I strongly disagree with school absence fines.

Every time one of these threads comes up and, as you yourself have pointed out, it's highlighted that fines do very little to deter absence and are simply a money making exercise. If the Government actually cared about children being in school, they would invest in education and healthcare. That's the real crux of the matter.

MandingoAteMyBaby · 24/08/2026 11:27

You should get an allowance of say 5d per year you can take without issue. Just inform and use them.

Switzerland has something like that.

Toodoloo · 24/08/2026 11:26

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 11:21

Those poorer children are ones who need to be in school more! A quick google and from my own observations in school children from poorer families are more likely to be lower achievers so holidays in term time makes it even worse!!

So work with parents to keep their kids engaged with learning. Fining them doesn't increase attendance but does negatively affect the family.

JustPassingThyme · 24/08/2026 11:25

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 10:56

Yes. I work in a school so see the other side of the coin. If a child misses 2 weeks of school they have missed 2 weeks of learning. Topics are often only covered for 1 week so the child has missed out. If you then get multiple children off on holiday over different weeks of the year plus illnesses that all children get, it’s impossible to catch everyone up so standards across the board slip.
The add in, if we allow children to have term time holidays then school staff need to be allowed the same and it just becomes completely untenable!
I completely understand that holidays are more expensive during the school holidays, DH and I just booked our holiday for next summer and it’s several hundred pounds more that if we’d have gone 3 weeks before during term time. But it’s one of those things that comes with the territory of working in a school or having children. We save every month for holidays so it’s not a big deal come the time to pay for it.
Maybe the anger should be directed at the holiday companies hiking up the prices during school holidays? Surely it would be better for them to have 1 peak season from say May to August rather than peak April-July and super peak in August?

The point you made "if children are allowed to take holidays during term time, then so should teachers" is a bit ridiculous.

The difference between the students and the staff is that the staff are employed by the school, they are paid to be there teaching the students. Also, the staff are adults who would be the ones booking holidays, not children who realistically have no say on when the holiday is booked.

I don't think there is anything wrong with a child missing a week of school to go abroad, it's easy enough to catch up. Home educating parents prove every day that learning can actually happen outside of a classroom.

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 11:25

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 11:16

The holiday companies need taking to task for increasing prices unreasonably during school holidays.

Doesn't help low paid families 2026.

Hedgehogbrown · 24/08/2026 11:25

No. Its worth pointing out here that the fines don't just apply to holidays, they apply to children who are grieving the death of a relative, children who are neuro diverse, children who are refusing school because of mental I'll health and bullying, and it's almost always the Mother who gets the fine and gets sent to court, not the Father. There is no evidence it helps the country overall, and lots of evidence to show it is cruel and damaging. Australia doesn't have fines and it's normal to go away. Their society hasn't collapsed as a result.

Maybe they need to stop punishing Mother's and look at how they should change schools so that kids actually want to attend.

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 11:24

Loubylou79 · 24/08/2026 11:17

By making sure they don't miss out on their education and stops them having a belief the rules don't apply to them.

Oh yes young children get that from getting moved to another school by school system for no other reason than a few weeks off on holiday. I see..

Dreamyseptember · 24/08/2026 11:23

Loubylou79 · 24/08/2026 11:17

By making sure they don't miss out on their education and stops them having a belief the rules don't apply to them.

I do agree with this and think that teaching children that school isn’t optional is a good thing.

However, it’s the fines and heavy handed approach that criminalises parents who just want an affordable holiday with their children.

I feel that there is a middle ground between just allowing school holidays, and criminalising and fining parents.

The fines were introduced in 2013 and from what info I can find, they haven’t made any difference to attendance. They certainly haven’t stopped persistent absences.

When I was at school there were no such thing as fine and there weren’t huge numbers of families taking term time holidays. Some children did go and they were allowed to tell everyone on their return. I don’t recall this ever being a huge issue or those children doing terribly at school.

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Hedgehogbrown · 24/08/2026 11:21

Loubylou79 · 24/08/2026 11:17

By making sure they don't miss out on their education and stops them having a belief the rules don't apply to them.

Oh lord.

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 11:21

Toodoloo · 24/08/2026 11:17

No, they disproportionately affect poorer parents and break the bond of trust between school and parents.

My ds missed months of school due to a mh crisis. Luckily we live abroad and weren't charged, only helped. I know parents in the same situation in the UK who were threatened with fines making an already stressful situation much worse.

Those poorer children are ones who need to be in school more! A quick google and from my own observations in school children from poorer families are more likely to be lower achievers so holidays in term time makes it even worse!!

Hedgehogbrown · 24/08/2026 11:20

muddyford · 24/08/2026 10:47

A better way would be three strikes and child loses school place . Either one child going in holiday in term time three times or three children once.

What would be the point of that? What would you care?

AnneLovesGilbert · 24/08/2026 11:19

I don’t agree with fines. That’s the system we have though so I don’t agree with whinging about getting one if you take a term time holiday.
We haven’t taken DC out for holidays but she did have weeks off through illness and being in hospital and she, we and her teachers didn’t think she’d missed anything major. They were extremely supportive of her absences, no stress about attendance at all and they suggested a staggered return so she continued to miss half days, no complaints at all.

Loubylou79 · 24/08/2026 11:17

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 10:53

How would that help a child?

By making sure they don't miss out on their education and stops them having a belief the rules don't apply to them.

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