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Do you agree with school absence fines?

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Dreamyseptember · 24/08/2026 10:43

I honestly don’t have a strong opinion either way. I work term time so I can only go away in the school holidays anyway, plus I’ve never been keen on mine missing school.

However, I can totally understand why for many people they want to go on holiday during term time. A family holiday can be a magical experience, visiting somewhere new, spending proper time together, experiencing new things, getting away from the daily grind. And for many this would be unaffordable in the school holidays. The other thing is that parents can’t always get the time off work.

I do think it’s important for children to attend school, I know they missing large chunks at school can mean them falling behind, miss out on learning as well as time with friends.

But tbh, I know people whose children missing large chunks school frequently anyway. Any sniffle, tired day, weather too hot or too cold and the parents are ringing them on sick. There are other children who attend 100% of the time and is one week away for a family holiday, possibly at a time of year when learning is wrapping up anyway, going to really make that much difference.

When I was at school in the 80s/90s it was quite normal for children to disappear for 2 weeks for a holiday abroad and no one batted an eyelid.

I’m sure that there are lots of arguments either way but do you think it’s right and fair that parents are fined for taking their children on holiday during term time?

Yabu - the fines are correct
Yanbu - it should be the parents decision

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Parcelpass · 24/08/2026 13:42

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 12:51

Often there is only a week given in the curriculum for an area of learning so how do you propose that your child catches it all up?
You can argue till you’re blue in the face but I’ve seen the impact of holidays on children’s education on top of days off for illness etc and you’ll never convince me otherwise!!
You’re well within your rights to want to take your child out of school for a holiday and I’m well within my rights to disagree because it harms a child’s education.

What impact do you see exactly?? These children in primary will go onto high school. How do you know what path a child will go down? How are you aware of the kids grades? No child will sudden fall behind in 5 days. Give over!

How are all our kids doing since covid? Will they fail sats? Will they not take high school exams? Honestly my child is doing perfectly fine despite covid.

You are right about one thing people like me will continue to go on holiday mean while... more serious issues fail to go unoticed within schools.

MaeshoweDragon · 24/08/2026 13:40

Supply and demand... prices go up IN ORDER TO price out would be holidaymakers because there are not enough flights and hotels for everyone who wants to go in the summer (should prices be "reasonable"). We'd all be in a queue to buy holidays - like ticketmaster for concerts.

The fines are to stop us lower middle class, always guilty, angst ridden parents from taking kids out.

Poor folks (I dragged up from there through education - ironically) can't afford holidays. Rich folk pay the fine (or holiday when you want tax).

nf4t1mf · 24/08/2026 13:39

On the whole no, I don’t like that level of state intervention into a parental decision BUT people are morons and can’t be trusted, they take the piss so I can see why they’re necessary.

Parcelpass · 24/08/2026 13:31

SonaliS · 24/08/2026 12:47

It’s not the 80s/90s. Back then school was very easygoing, and honestly some kids didn’t learn a lot. As for well-being - there was plenty of deprivation, kids neglected, etc.

Overseas Holidays are not necessary for well-being!

Parents don’t respect teachers or teaching as they used to. With the amount of entitlement amongst parents, and the high levels of harassment that parents subject teachers to, it’s easier to have a simple, enforced vacation rule so no one can complain it’s not fair, or they “have a right”, or whatever.

And parents will be straight up to the school to complain their kids aren’t getting the best results in SATs.

The more room for ambiguity in the rules, the harder it is for HT to run the school effectively.

Hard disagree. I went to a C of E primary school in the 90s. I rarely remember a naughty child. We were taught rules and disapline though. Kids were far better behaved in those days. Nothing like today what you see in some primary schools today. You would go to the headmasters head office for good work and I can remember very occasionally a child would be sent to the head masters office for misbehaving.

I have seen parents turning up at 15.20 in a dirty dressing gown to collect their kids! I don't remember that at all in the 90s.

Marroon · 24/08/2026 13:26

We don’t have absence fines and I agree with that, I think it’s overreaching.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 24/08/2026 13:25

Dreamyseptember · 24/08/2026 10:49

How would that help children?

If this is set in the school acceptance ( yes we accept a place and we will adhere to the schools conditions) then the parents have been warned.
If they are then unrolled the parents will need to find a place .
The same parents who thought missing school was a good idea to go on holiday.

mybeautifulemeraldparure · 24/08/2026 13:25

DarkchocolateAndtea · 24/08/2026 13:13

Companies just need to be banned from putting the prices so high up, it's extortionate; they're the problem.

They're not. It's more expensive at busy times. That's business!

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 13:22

DarkchocolateAndtea · 24/08/2026 13:13

Companies just need to be banned from putting the prices so high up, it's extortionate; they're the problem.

All compagnies or just travel buisness? Supply and demand isn't only about travelling.

AgnesMcDoo · 24/08/2026 13:22

Dooferer · 24/08/2026 12:59

Surely the state doesn’t intervene for poor attendance at all? I’m in Scotland - kids in primary - and the amount of parents that can’t be arsed to get their kids to school is staggering. Middle class area and atleast 2/3 kids won’t turn up, 4/5 are 15-30 mins late most days. They really need to clamp down on attendance badly here.

They can. And do.

If attendance drops below a certain level and or there is persistent lateness then school can refer the child to the Children’s Reporter to consider a Children’s Panel. The panel can the put compulsory measures in place and there are legal consequences for failure to comply.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 24/08/2026 13:22

DarkchocolateAndtea · 24/08/2026 13:13

Companies just need to be banned from putting the prices so high up, it's extortionate; they're the problem.

How? it's a private business - like a hotel can charge whatever they like and so can airlines

where does it stop - shops have fixed prices for food items so theres no competetion

thats a ridiculous suggestion to ban holiday companies charging high prices lolz

sarahlouise17492 · 24/08/2026 13:21

On the whole, yes.

A holiday isn’t a human right. It’s nice, but you’re not entitled to it. Your job can dictate when you take your leave and it’s a good precedent to set, that you need to consider other responsibilities before going away.

The parents who kick off do my head in. Save for two years instead of one and go in the holidays.

fratellia · 24/08/2026 13:19

DarkchocolateAndtea · 24/08/2026 13:13

Companies just need to be banned from putting the prices so high up, it's extortionate; they're the problem.

It’s supply and demand, they charge what people will pay unfortunately

I think if attendance is otherwise very good, child is not in year 10 or 11, the absence is no more than one week in a school year and parents will ensure missed work is caught up on, then it should be authorised

DarkchocolateAndtea · 24/08/2026 13:13

Companies just need to be banned from putting the prices so high up, it's extortionate; they're the problem.

Natbat87 · 24/08/2026 13:13

⏰ THE FINAL COUNTDOWN — ONE MONTH TO GO!

There is just ONE MONTH LEFT until this petition closes — and we need to keep talking about why fines and prosecutions are NOT the answer to school absence.

𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗽𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝘅𝗶𝗲𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱.

A prosecution won’t remove the stress, overwhelm or barriers a child is experiencing. And it certainly won’t magically ensure that their needs are understood, supported and met.

And here’s the thing: not everything is about HOLIDAYS or the COST of a holiday!!

Families need flexibility because life doesn’t fit neatly into a school holiday calendar.

It’s about:
💙 A child’s or a parents additional needs
💙 Family weddings and important events
💙 Family dynamics and circumstances
💙 Spending precious time with loved ones when that opportunity is actually available
💙 Parents who simply cannot take time off during school holidays

Fines do not address any of these things.

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Do you agree with school absence fines?
fratellia · 24/08/2026 13:05

I have one child in primary and one in secondary. Neither of their schools will fine you if their attendance is at over 95%. We went away for a week last year and no fine.

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 13:04

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 13:02

That’s fine you keep on believing it has no impact. As I said we’ll agree to disagree

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Fair enough.

MermaidMummy06 · 24/08/2026 13:03

I live in a fine free country. Schools are obsessive over attendance. Classes have competitions, win parties, prizes etc.

Fines would do nothing. The cost saving from eye watering surge pricing in holidays, and avoiding crowds, is worth it for most families. I don't see it a lot, but admit we've done it a few times - not now DS is in high school (much to his disgust!!)

The big issue is people who don't value general attendance. DD's friend misses a day a fortnight for child custody arrangements. Another's DM decided to take her 2 DC out for 3 weeks to visit a grandparent, when holiday time would have been just as easy.

It's hard to take attendance seriously, though, when schools waste so much learning time. Fridays from about 11am is craft & games for year 5 Dd10 as some kids go to interschool sports fixtures & apparently that's ok because the school says so. I'm taking DD out last Friday of this term to leave early on holiday. Why send her to do nothing?

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 13:02

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 12:58

Nobody wants you to understand it. Most just want society not to be foolish about missing a week or two of school. For most children it has no real impact what so ever.

That’s fine you keep on believing it has no impact. As I said we’ll agree to disagree

Dooferer · 24/08/2026 12:59

AgnesMcDoo · 24/08/2026 12:50

Nope.

I live in Scotland and we don’t have fines. It’s up to parents to make these decision for their families.

The state only intervenes for poor attendance / truancy

That is as it should be.

Surely the state doesn’t intervene for poor attendance at all? I’m in Scotland - kids in primary - and the amount of parents that can’t be arsed to get their kids to school is staggering. Middle class area and atleast 2/3 kids won’t turn up, 4/5 are 15-30 mins late most days. They really need to clamp down on attendance badly here.

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 12:58

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 12:54

I’m not being dramatic!! I work in schools so see it first hand!!
We’ll just have to agee to disagree as you’ll never convince me that a holiday is more important than a child’s education!

Nobody wants you to understand it. Most just want society not to be foolish about missing a week or two of school. For most children it has no real impact what so ever.

Besidemyselfwithworry · 24/08/2026 12:55

whether people agree with it or not the fines aren’t enough to deter people from taking kids out - if they want this to work the fines need to be more substantial
it is also a “postcode lottery” with some schools authorising “exceptional circumstances” and others fining - even if circumstances are exceptional eg travelling abroad for a family wedding
they all need to be singing off the same hymn sheet

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 12:54

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 12:52

Most children cope just fine for a week or two. Don't be dramatic.

I’m not being dramatic!! I work in schools so see it first hand!!
We’ll just have to agee to disagree as you’ll never convince me that a holiday is more important than a child’s education!

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 12:52

Most children cope just fine for a week or two. Don't be dramatic.

ShetlandishMum · 24/08/2026 12:52

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 12:46

Homework is still not the same as having the subject taught by a teacher. Homework is just to build on the original concept which the child won’t have been taught as they’re on holiday.

Most children cope just fine for a week or two. Don't be dramatic.

Loulou4022 · 24/08/2026 12:51

Parcelpass · 24/08/2026 12:37

Mum to one here. Single parent. I cant understand this drama about kids falling behind with school work for 5 days. Its ridiculous to suggest this. Too right I won't spend my time on holiday doing homework. My child has never fallen behind let alone due to a holiday.

The parents with choatic lives who are late to school or fail to take their kids to school are completely different issues.

Often there is only a week given in the curriculum for an area of learning so how do you propose that your child catches it all up?
You can argue till you’re blue in the face but I’ve seen the impact of holidays on children’s education on top of days off for illness etc and you’ll never convince me otherwise!!
You’re well within your rights to want to take your child out of school for a holiday and I’m well within my rights to disagree because it harms a child’s education.

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