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How can reckless teenage driving be prevented?

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UncleColm · 24/08/2026 10:31

We had that terrible crash recently in the UK which resulted in 7 deaths - RIP to the two Police Officers who were on duty.

In Ireland we had a very similar crash the previous week where five boys died - aged 15 to 17. All were wearing balaclavas at the time of the crash and were 'well known' to Guards. The family they crashed into were three sisters and a seven year old son of one of the sisters (on the way to the airport go to a family wedding) - they are all still in hospital and are very seriously injured.

The previous week, in Ireland, a car carrying eight teenage boys aged from as young as 13 crashed into a car being driven in the correct direction by one young man who is now seriously injured.

The boys seem to be from a mix of poor areas and Travellers. In death they are being celebrated by their families but where were these families when they were alive? Who lets their teenage boy out all night? And let's them produce tiktoks of their 'exploits'? Parental supervision is clearly not in place.

How can this reckless driving behaviour be stopped?

In Ireland there is a huge shortage of jail spaces and places to detain a child under 18. These kids couldn't care less if the Guards catch them - sure what's another Juvenile Caution to them? One of the boys who died was supposed to stay in his own County but had ignored it. They have no fear of the Guards or the law.

I work in a school and there is a huge amount of help available to Traveller children in particular but they still tend to not engage with any after school activities, don't do homework, don't go on school trips, leave school early, high absence rate, etc.

I read recently that, in Ireland, 50% of Travellers don't live beyond 39. In 2026 this a shocking statistic. I don't know what the statistics are for the poor, disadvantaged areas but I do know that the taxpayers provide Social Housing, child benefit, medical cards, free education, free school books and hot lunches, back to school allowances and a whole other host of allowances. There are many initiatives available to help people to stay in education and gain independence.

What more can be done? Is there any way of reaching these young males?

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AnonyMumAuDHD · 24/08/2026 12:30

Toon27 · 24/08/2026 12:28

How about killing someone by intentionally driving the wrong way should be an automatic murder sentence.

Effectively it is, isn't it? Driving without due care and attention. Issue is that if the police take pursuit they can aggravate the situation and are more likely to trigger an accident, so they are damned if they respond, damned if they don’t. And given that these kids end up dead themselves, criminal liability is futile?

Backedoffhackedoff · 24/08/2026 12:29

Toon27 · 24/08/2026 12:28

How about killing someone by intentionally driving the wrong way should be an automatic murder sentence.

What about when you’re a confused old lady?

Toon27 · 24/08/2026 12:28

How about killing someone by intentionally driving the wrong way should be an automatic murder sentence.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 24/08/2026 12:25

The eldest two were 23. And the car was stolen. Not sure you can do much about this level of stupidity, recklessness or the likelihood they were drunk/high, sadly. I do think SM also needs to be made responsible - tiktok/insta etc need to take down any and all videos glorifying dangerous driving, hanging/death dare games etc and be prosecutable under some sort of law.

I have always felt that parents should be legally liable for the actions of their offspring and stand in the dock beside them, and only be let off if they can produce expert testimony as to the efforts taken and support obtain to manage their children (ie, they’ve initiated and proactively worked with school GP, social services etc to try and manage their child’s behaviour). They are legally liable to feed, clothe etc and even beyond 18 are expected to financially support them in higher education, so why not be held culpable for their actions if it is obviously that poor/inadequate parenting is in part to blame?

Backedoffhackedoff · 24/08/2026 12:25

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 24/08/2026 12:19

What the heck has Diogo Jota, beloved Liverpool player and father of three got to do with teenage car thieves. People speed all the time.

Someone died in a crash caused by his reckless driving? It’s totally related to the conversation

ruffler45 · 24/08/2026 12:25

Cant imagine any current scenario that prevents cars being stolen and driven illegally.
Dont think the technology has been invented yet...when it is expect the bad guys to be able to get round it quite soon after.

Dollymylove · 24/08/2026 12:23

RumNotRun · 24/08/2026 11:39

From what I have read about the UK case, the police did stop chasing them. The police car that was hit was going the correct way on the motorway looking for the car.

Edit: spelling

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Thats correct. The pursuit was called off and seconds later the other police car, which wasnt involved and was driving on the correct side of the road, was hit by the stolen car.
Tragic for those 2 men, both fathers of young children 😢

LikeThisTime · 24/08/2026 12:22

Dollymylove · 24/08/2026 11:15

I dont know how we can reverse the decline in respect for authority, its been slowly coming apart for the past 30+ years.
The breakdown of the traditional family.
Single motherhood. The lack of strong father figures. The acceptance of smoking weed/drugs. Generations of families on benefits.
Parents/teachers no longer permitted to discipline wayward children and put them back on the right track.
The lack of visible policing. Soft sentences meted out in courts.
The huge rise in ADHD. ( Never heard of it 20 years ago)
Add a generous splash of social media, give it a stir and this is the result

I agree. (Except I am a very decent, professional single parent (through no fault of my own) who has brought up two, amazing boys).

I would add, accountability of parents, from the child being young. More social workers, tougher measures including removal of benefits, much more onus on fathers to pay for their own child, harsher sentences for drug and other criminal offences.

This requires taxes to improve services including building youth institutions and prisons, employ more social workers. (Who also have to be accountable).

WerewolfOfLoudon · 24/08/2026 12:21

ThatJadeLion · 24/08/2026 12:14

Curfew for drivers under the age of 21. 17 is too young to be responsible driving a car.

The driver who killed 2 policemen was 23.

WerewolfOfLoudon · 24/08/2026 12:19

dustabsorber · 24/08/2026 11:19

Lefty Green's latest idea, ban the police from having tazers

Worse than that in Scotland, Kate Nevans MSP Edinburgh and Lothians East, wants all prisons abolished. List candidate so no one actually voted for her specifically. She's Equalities (and international) spokesperson.

Q Manivannan is the Culture spokesperson (doesn't even know Scottish law never mind culture) for the same region, no one voted for him either. Yet this is the shitshow in charge.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 24/08/2026 12:19

6ate9 · 24/08/2026 10:52

You get men speeding in their twenties.

Footballer Diogo Jota (father of three) and younger brother André Silva died in 2025, when their Lamborghini suffered a tire blowout while overtaking a vehicle in Spain. Diogo Jota was speeding.

What the heck has Diogo Jota, beloved Liverpool player and father of three got to do with teenage car thieves. People speed all the time.

dustabsorber · 24/08/2026 12:19

Ohcrap082024 · 24/08/2026 12:11

This.

We have a divided society. Those who want to be a part of a functioning society. Those who couldn’t give a fuck.

OK. So they don't get any of the benefits of a functioning society. No social housing, no UC, no Internet, no social media. No use of the roads. Nothing.

Backedoffhackedoff · 24/08/2026 12:15

iwishtoo · 24/08/2026 11:28

This. There are parents who are not parenting, instead they want to be their child's best friend. In the school I work in CCTV was installed last year. You can only imagine the amount of time it has saved. Being able to show parents what their child has done - all permissions are in place etc. - has saved hours of parent meetings where the parent repeatedly insists that their child would not do what multiple witnesses have seen them do. And yes, we offer lots of parenting support but parents who have unparented children do not want to engage in the support offered.

This is too much and will be unsuccessful because it’s overwhelming and trying to do too much.

you can target resolving teen reckless driving without needing to change the world. It doesn’t work like that.

ThatJadeLion · 24/08/2026 12:14

Curfew for drivers under the age of 21. 17 is too young to be responsible driving a car.

Backedoffhackedoff · 24/08/2026 12:13

Education and awareness is proven to change behaviour but you don’t get snap your fingers and it happens- it takes decades to change society. Look at drink driving.

Ohcrap082024 · 24/08/2026 12:11

Shatenoeuf · 24/08/2026 11:19

Parental authority/respect for teachers & police/obedience with rules has to be ingrained ien people from an early age. By the time a child is old enough to stop wanting to please parents & has their own view on things, its too late.

Often the children & teens who break big rules (eg driving without license etc) see parents openly flout rules through their childhood - parking on double yellows, sneaking into places or without paying. The same parents often flout social rules so will tolerate homework being skipped, take term time holidays, let DC break school rules on uniform & hairstyles. All these things teach DC that if you dont like rules its ok to break them.

This.

We have a divided society. Those who want to be a part of a functioning society. Those who couldn’t give a fuck.

Whorulestheroost1 · 24/08/2026 12:10

DD best friend was killed last year when a 19 year old driver showing off to his mate by zig zagging lost control, mounted the pavement and killed her - she was 21. He pleaded guilty last month to death by dangerous driving. Needless to say the fall out has been massive, parents, family and friends left devastated and a life robbed because of the foolish actions of a stupid teenager. He will have this on his conscious forever and I cannot fathom how that will feel plus of course his prison sentence and for what? A moment of youthful madness.

Kadiofakit · 24/08/2026 12:06

And local policing should tackle the incredibly anti-social behaviour of stupid car meetups at night, where young people with supped up cars, bomb around empty car parks or even carriage ways every weekend. All filmed and shown on TikTok and not only total noise nuicanse to neighbours but so dangerous.

In my area, the local police claim they haven't got the necessary ANPR equipment to tackle it. FFS

WerewolfOfLoudon · 24/08/2026 12:06

dustabsorber · 24/08/2026 11:47

Facial recognition technology. The car won't start if you aren't authorised or don't have a licence or isn't insured. Car starts to slow down if speed limit exceeded. Convicted drink drivers have to blow into a box once they get their licence back.

Who pays and how is this being funded? Not all cars are compatible with such software, some don't even have inbuilt sat nav or still required an actual key to be turned in the ignition. Older drivers might not even have a smartphone if using Bluetooth tech on an app for this.

In a world where we'd all be microchipped and DNA coded and no one would be able to steal anything or enter anyone else's property without being scanned and approved first. Cars would be self driving and criminals wouldn't be permitted access or able to speed or kill anyone including themselves. Apparently to most of MNs that's a dystopian nightmare though.

Howmanycatsistoomany · 24/08/2026 12:00

SadiraOfTyr · 24/08/2026 10:47

Both of these crashes were in stolen vehicles.

Exactly. The thugs that are doing this are driving stolen vehicles so as if they're going to give two hoots about insurance or dash cams or any laws intended to improve safety for new drivers and other road users.

The police and legal system need to stop pandering to lawless travelling communities. And come down hard on the parents.

Happyinheels · 24/08/2026 12:00

It’s a pointless point. The car was stolen, had fake plates and seriously you think changing the law to
upping the driving age is gonna stop people like that?! That suggests that they are law abiding citizens in the first place when it couldn’t be further from the truth!
Given their track record it was sadly only a matter of time before something like this happened.
What needs to change? The law needs to change in regards to tougher sentences to stamp on antisocial, organised crime activity. They had histories. They thought they could get away with it, because they had been getting away with it. The videos on their social media show past police chases. And social media needs taking into consideration- no idea how - but the glorifying of police chases and a ‘gangsta’ lifestyle needs clamping down on.
And lastly the parenting. All I’m seeing all over social media is these men being glorified and balloon releases etc!!
I’m local. I’m a parent of a young police officer. And my god there’s so so much I want to say about this! I am so so angry.

WerewolfOfLoudon · 24/08/2026 11:52

RumNotRun · 24/08/2026 11:39

From what I have read about the UK case, the police did stop chasing them. The police car that was hit was going the correct way on the motorway looking for the car.

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That's what I thought too, the police chase was through residential streets (there is doorbell cam footage) and they stopped when the car headed onto the motorway.

The other police car was hit head on.

@UncleColm There are no laws these criminals won't break, wasn't that long ago 3 traveller boys walked free after gang raping a 12 year old girl because the judge decided they were too stupid to understand.

What's the answer? Mass sterilisation of everyone with a low IQ or learning disabilities? Isn't there a word for that ...

Maybe arming the police is needed, but then the parents of the driver would claim wrongful death and sue.

Law abiding people are going to become terrified of driving at night though.

Schoolchanging · 24/08/2026 11:50

Aposterhasnoname · 24/08/2026 11:00

Honest answer, you won’t like it, but at the first offence I’d enrol the little scrotes in the army to teach them proper discipline, and take any younger children away from the waste of space parents.

This is basically what my 80 year old dad said to me about it, he thinks that national service is what’s needed

fumingrightnow1 · 24/08/2026 11:49

Its about stopping kids getting so out of control in the first place. A kid doesn't just wake up one day and go for a joyride. Lots of parents have zero control over their children and hide behind labels and just genuinely don't give a shit what their children do. Start fining parents for their childrens behaviour then the parents might step up.

Moros · 24/08/2026 11:48

LillyPeaceFlowerSun · 24/08/2026 11:45

That may be so, but it means if the police see a young person in a car that doesn’t meet the legal requirements they can intervene before there is an issue.

...or that young person decides to make a run for it.

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