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To feel fed up about us struggling on DH low salary

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HumphreysGang · 24/08/2026 08:08

Does anyone else have a DH who earns as little as £56,500 salary?
My DH does and it is so difficult to survive financially on his low salary in the SE.
I am surrounded by friends whose husbands all earn well in excess of £100,000+ a year. The difference in lifestyle, including affordability of house size, extensions, cars, holidays, etc. is huge. They are all living the dream and we are struggling to death.
Just wondering if anyone else has a husband on this level of low salary?
And yes I work. 30 hours a week. My money pays for extras. His is the main income to cover the major costs (except it doesn't and we are permanently in the red).
He'll never earn more as he's at top of his salary point.
Nor will I due to our SEN DC and their needs which have severely thwarted my previous plans for career progression.

OP posts:
NervousSheepy · 24/08/2026 08:13

That isn't a low salary. Don't believe everything you see and hear. If yours is only needed for extras then you are probably doing okay anyway and, in the end, it doesn't mean someone is happier.

Shaynac · 24/08/2026 08:13

I’m amazed anyone is taking this post seriously.

On the off chance it’s not a wind up, that’s a perfectly acceptable salary, and happiness doesn’t come from having a better car or an extension.

Lexibletheflexible · 24/08/2026 08:13

What are you prepared to do to earn more money given your limitations?

ilikeeggs · 24/08/2026 08:12

That’s not a low salary!

Sailawaygirl · 24/08/2026 08:12

I am the main bread winner and my salary is k53 my husband works full time for k32. I struggle emotionally being main bread winner but also the main emotional support but we have had a tough time recently. I guess I have just adjusted my aspirations. What is it about your life you want to change other than the money ? Money is normally just the easiest thing to point to.

shellyleppard · 24/08/2026 08:12

It depends on your incomings and outgoings. To most people that salary is an absolute fortune.... maybe you need to stop comparing yourself with your friends?
Is your life happy?:
Because surely that's all that matters.....

Itsa10fromLen · 24/08/2026 08:10

My OH earns about half of this!

Cantstopeatingjaffacakes · 24/08/2026 08:09

I wouldn’t describe that as a little amount…..