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I wouldn't reverse

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whyyyyyisitmonddayy · 24/08/2026 02:30

driving home from work about midnight. meet another car on a country lane I know really well. Woman I meet has her brights on and will not turn them off, despite me flashing her (?). She's coming uphill towards me, meaning it's so bright that my eyes are watering and I can't make out the verges clearly or even my bonnet. I've never experienced this before so I'm a bit discombobulated.

I know that if she reverses a few feet she can go into the passing place and let me go. My nearest passing point is very far back and I can't reverse safely as I've been really badly dazzled. I stop 5m or so in front of her, turn off my lights entirely hoping that it will remind her to switch her brights off, and wait. she does not and starts revving her fucking car!!!!

She's not got her window down and is having a right proper go just shouting at me to drive and waving. just reply that I'm dazzled really badly and can't safely proceed unless she switches off her lights temporarily so I can see into my rear view and past her car (to see if I can squeeze past or reverse back). I also tell her that there's a passing place just to her left, could she go into it please? I just keep asking her to please lower the lights / turn them off so I can get my bearings! but she wouldn't. she's swearing at me at this point despite my calm tone. she screams "move" at me, so I just say "no". at this point I'm seeing splotches and can't see my gear shift anyway, and If I could see around me, I would happily reverse five miles back if only it meant to get away from her.

She eventually turns off her brights, slams on her accelerator, clipping me with her wing mirror, coming very close to hitting me properly, and possibly damaging her car against the verge. she's slamming on the horn and still raving. she's driving a nice car so no clue why the fuck she did that?

OP posts:
Anxioustealady · 24/08/2026 05:19

Littlegreywolfcub · 24/08/2026 05:14

😂😅

I think you need to read the OP again.

How am I wrong?

Littlegreywolfcub · 24/08/2026 05:14

Anxioustealady · 24/08/2026 03:35

Brights = full beams in Britain

It was midnight in the lanes and you turned all your lights off? You are very lucky no one came from behind and hit you because they couldn't see you

And you were talking this much from within your own cars? If you weren't shouting I'm surprised if she heard a word.

😂😅

I think you need to read the OP again.

Iriseee · 24/08/2026 04:38

Some people are extraordinarily twattish. Me and DP turned into a narrow country lane and met some twat in a massive car coming the other way. He drove up fast and stopped close and his stubborn aggressive face said that he fully expected us to get out of his way. We tried to indicate to him that there were no passing spaces behind us, instead there was a queue of about 5 cars behind us and only one of him. He twattish expression said it all. I kid you not all 5 cars spent about 15 minutes reversing back down this lane and BACK ONTO THE MAIN ROAD in order to let the twat through. When we came back up there was a huge passing place just behind where we had initially met him. We could not believe our eyes!! Absolute cunt.

BlueManakin · 24/08/2026 04:33

You were in the wrong and unreasonably obstinate. Rule 155 of the highway code includes “Give way to road users coming uphill whenever you can. If necessary, reverse until you reach a passing place to let the other vehicle pass.”

itwasyourshowallalong · 24/08/2026 04:29

Ilovemyshed · 24/08/2026 03:38

According to the highway code, uphill has right of way, so you were in the wrong.

It also says that you should only manoeuvre when it’s safe to do so

And if you can’t see because some twat won’t turn their full beam off then it’s not safe

DragonsFurry · 24/08/2026 03:53

From what I've heard, there seems to be more of this on country roads lately. Is it younger drivers maybe?

Really odd behaviour as gossip also seems to be a thing in rural areas.

4I'm wondering if the woman was drunk.

Ilovemyshed · 24/08/2026 03:38

According to the highway code, uphill has right of way, so you were in the wrong.

Anxioustealady · 24/08/2026 03:35

Brights = full beams in Britain

It was midnight in the lanes and you turned all your lights off? You are very lucky no one came from behind and hit you because they couldn't see you

And you were talking this much from within your own cars? If you weren't shouting I'm surprised if she heard a word.

Brideofclover · 24/08/2026 02:42

Well done!! I hope she has a nice few scrapes down the passenger side of her car from the hedge - serve her right!
You did the absolute right thing @whyyyyyisitmonddayy 👍

krustykittens · 24/08/2026 02:32

She's a twat and she drove very dangerously, I hope you have a dash cam? I wouldn't move my car either if I couldn't bloody see!

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