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To wonder when boobs went out and bums came in?

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PrincessOfPreschool · 23/08/2026 22:40

Just come back from a beach holiday in Italy and both Dsis and I commented on lack of topless women. In 11 days I didn't see one! (Tbf, I wasn't scouring the sun loungers on the beach but not noticing even one seems odd). In the 80s and 90s when I was a teen/ young woman there were loads of topless women on European beaches. However, I did notice a huge number of thong bikinis, or the ones that really go up your bum and show off bum cheeks (even very young girls - preteens). Almost everyone wore one.

What's caused this change? Just fashion changes? Why has it changed? Sis thought maybe greater US influence on Europe?

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rocklivia · 24/08/2026 09:11

This kind of body shape is common in many parts of the world eg J Lo. Latin women tend to be like this. Many black women are built like this and it is a desired look. As others have said it used to be all about the wanting a no hip, no bum look as pushed in the fashion and TV world - now it's different. The Kardashians added to this with their exposure but also look at all the rap videos featuring women's backsides. Love Island type programmmes also add to this type of swimwear. As for the body positivity movement it seems anyone and everyone can show it all.

hardshoulderr · 24/08/2026 09:11

Your daughter wouldn't wear a bikini in front of you @PrincessOfPreschool

hardshoulderr · 24/08/2026 09:10

JayJayj · 24/08/2026 08:18

To be honest, after my last holiday, I’d get a thong bikini bottom for next time. I don’t want such a big white line and no one seems to care.

Also, no one cares if you have tan lines

DeftGoldHedgehog · 24/08/2026 09:03

jimmyateworld · 24/08/2026 00:31

The kardashians made big bums popular, even though their’s are fake !

That is pretty hideous. I mean, not like some sights you see on the beach but horrible that someone had that much added to their natural bottom, and that was the effect. I'd rather have my little natural 50 year old bum any day.

PrincessOfPreschool · 24/08/2026 08:58

Lots of good explanations, thank you.

I agree with pornification of women and intimate waxing on increase affecting the 'bums on show' trend. Most thong bikinis are very skimpy at the front too. I think even if we go back to theskinny look, the bums will still be on show.

I think I felt more comfortable with topless as men go topless too so it felt more equal somehow, rather than sexual. All boobs were on show as a way to avoid tan lines. I didn't see one male in thong bottoms (though PP did refer seeing it in Spain). There were a lot of young men showing the waist band of their designer underpants they were wearing under their swimshorts - which I thought must be very uncomfortable. Pants take ages to dry, unlike swimshorts and this was a double layer so they must be constantly damp. Ughhh!

My DD is 17 and would never wear a thong bikini so it isn't everyone young but I do wonder where trends will go next. It's very interesting.

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BibbityBoppityTwo · 24/08/2026 08:55

PurplebudsWhitebuds · 24/08/2026 06:36

Only acceptable to who?

How did we get to the position of ignorant people on social media dictating to others what they should and shouldn't do and what they should and shouldn't think?

Why does anyone actually watch these influencers or give a damn what they say?
It would be laughable if it weren't so sinister.

Oh, I think it’s laughable. And I doubt very many people over 25 are paying much attention to it. I just thought it was funny in an eye rolling way.

BogRollBOGOF · 24/08/2026 08:53

There have been medical concerns over silicon leakages from breast implants requiring reversals and deterring that type of cosmetic surgery.
While bum lifts and implants are another minefield of surgical safety, being the body's largest muscle, there is more chance of enhancing it naturally with weight based exercise which at least much healthier.

I'm sticking with my bum whether it's trendy or not. Grin

I really could do without standing behind a thong bikini bottom on steep steps at a water park. That was far too much information a foot away from my face! It also must surely have rubbed on the water slides that don't use floats.

Justwondering4 · 24/08/2026 08:29

I’ve just come back from holiday and was quite shocked by the bare arses on show. In my day (the 90’s), I owned a cardigan that I referred to as my ‘bum jumper’. It’s purpose was to be tied around my waist (on top of my mini skirt) to cover my enormous bottom (I had a tiny behind).

I'm equally perplexed by the lips that look like inflamed bum holes.

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 08:20

Superhansrantowindsor · 24/08/2026 08:09

In the 80’s I remember thong bikinis being a thing in Brazil. Not one of my friends or me would have ever worn one in the 90’s when I was a teen. Grew up by the beach so was there a lot and had a lot of bikinis between us. Now they are everywhere and also on much younger girls. I think it’s just the further pornification of society. I’m not saying people who wear them watch porn - just that stuff that used to be quite niche is now accepted as perfectly normal. It has evolved to be acceptable in the mainstream society.

It can evolve all it likes, although I agree with you. I think those thing bikinis are bloody awful. It's up to each woman what they wear though.

JayJayj · 24/08/2026 08:18

To be honest, after my last holiday, I’d get a thong bikini bottom for next time. I don’t want such a big white line and no one seems to care.

Superhansrantowindsor · 24/08/2026 08:09

In the 80’s I remember thong bikinis being a thing in Brazil. Not one of my friends or me would have ever worn one in the 90’s when I was a teen. Grew up by the beach so was there a lot and had a lot of bikinis between us. Now they are everywhere and also on much younger girls. I think it’s just the further pornification of society. I’m not saying people who wear them watch porn - just that stuff that used to be quite niche is now accepted as perfectly normal. It has evolved to be acceptable in the mainstream society.

Additup · 24/08/2026 08:04

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 07:41

She didn't like it when those photos were released!

I'm not surprised. Why anyone would have surgery to make their backside look so comically massive is beyond me.

I suppose its comfortable to sit on though with all that padding 🤷‍♀️

hahabahbag · 24/08/2026 07:58

No idea, the thong ones just are so inappropriate unless you are still because you get an eyeful of what they are supposed to be covering as women (or men, yes men’s thongs in Spain) as they walk past your lounger - i suspecting cheap mass produced and poorly fitted. Lying still not the issue as I say. I’m sticking to full coverage as no one wants to see mine ( though I do swim naked in appropriate places, that looks better than ill fitted bottoms

Whorulestheroost1 · 24/08/2026 07:58

summater · 24/08/2026 07:08

I have a big bum even though I quite thin unfortunately this is all much to late for me.

Me too - mine sticks out. I always hated it as a teen but now I would be adored, shame I am knocking on 50 now 😂

hardshoulderr · 24/08/2026 07:53

Hence the expression. - Does my bum look in this?

hardshoulderr · 24/08/2026 07:53

Yes, back in the 80s an early 90s small bums were good and large bums kinda accurately -were just fat

utahsainthood · 24/08/2026 07:52

I think the thong bikinis look awful. I wouldn’t have worn them even when I was young with an amazing figure and my DD16 would never wear them either. She looks lovely in all styles of bikini. I hate the leggings people wear to the gym as well that are designed to make your bum stick out.

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 07:41

jimmyateworld · 24/08/2026 00:31

The kardashians made big bums popular, even though their’s are fake !

She didn't like it when those photos were released!

AmIReallyTheGrownup · 24/08/2026 07:40

Tamtim · 24/08/2026 04:23

I don’t understand why people wear them, they are unflattering even on the perkiest bum.

The ones I don’t really understand are the tanga ones that you gather into your bum. It just looks like an unflattering wedgie to me.

Having said that, Next sells them so perhaps I am hugely out of date!

www.next.co.uk/style/sv051872/v04023

Namechangetry · 24/08/2026 07:32

Palomiino · 24/08/2026 05:33

Kardashian effect. Which is good because it has meant that the look popular in the 00s (stick thin with stuck on boobs) is out of favour. We live in an era of everyone wanting an athletic shape and going to the gym.

Topless sunbathing is extremely passé.

Not sure why stick thin with stuck on bum is better than stick thin with stuck on boobs tbh. And the Kardashians have got stuck on boobs and bums anyway. To me an athletic shape is someone shaped like a tennis player or a sprinter, not a Kardashian

Gettingbysomehow · 24/08/2026 07:14

I cant understand the big bum thing. Ive spent my whole life trying to get rid of my large bottom which I hated. Ive finally done it and got the small bottom of my dreams and everyone is walking around with massive arses. Whats with that.
Ive also list my large chest (mounjaro) but thats another story.

Rainyatlast · 24/08/2026 07:10

It’s probably that fashions change. Like in the 1920s slim, straight up and down was the fashion then in the 1950s it was big pointy boobs and a small waist and in the 1960s breasts were out and legs were in with mini skirts.

I agree that with the weight loss jabs it might change again to super thin. I notice all the celebrities are slim these days even those who were not overweight eg Demi Moore.
The Kardashian look doesn’t fit in with that.

Beachlover1993 · 24/08/2026 07:09

Toodoloo · 23/08/2026 22:51

I don't think topless bathing has ever really been popular in Italy- maybe more Spain and France?

Certainly spain and also eastern europe when ive been on holiday in recent years

Girlintheframe · 24/08/2026 07:08

Bums have been in for a while now, that’s why everyone is at the gym. Think it was the kardasians tbh. Every young women I know practically is going to the gym to try to get a similar physique

summater · 24/08/2026 07:08

I have a big bum even though I quite thin unfortunately this is all much to late for me.

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