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To wonder when boobs went out and bums came in?

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PrincessOfPreschool · 23/08/2026 22:40

Just come back from a beach holiday in Italy and both Dsis and I commented on lack of topless women. In 11 days I didn't see one! (Tbf, I wasn't scouring the sun loungers on the beach but not noticing even one seems odd). In the 80s and 90s when I was a teen/ young woman there were loads of topless women on European beaches. However, I did notice a huge number of thong bikinis, or the ones that really go up your bum and show off bum cheeks (even very young girls - preteens). Almost everyone wore one.

What's caused this change? Just fashion changes? Why has it changed? Sis thought maybe greater US influence on Europe?

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Minasama · 24/08/2026 12:24

Wrong country, no? Or maybe the part of Italy you were in? I spent significant time on the beach in Italy in the 90s (southern Tuscany) and women didn’t go topless. I think that’s more south of France.
I assume it has to do with MeToo but also the Kardashian’s. Bums are anonymous, no one is looking at your face while they’re looking at your bum!

Lotsofthings · 24/08/2026 12:20

I think the fashion relates to a lot of prevalence of gym and fitness culture. It’s hard work in the gym to get the perfect bum.

jimmyateworld · 24/08/2026 12:16

EspanaPorfavor · 24/08/2026 11:04

As someone who was born this way (my bum looks exactly like that naturally) and spent their entire adolescence and young adulthood being so ridiculously self conscious that she would ensure she was always the one walking at the back so nobody could look at her bum, I find it hurtful to read such comments on the internet from other women.

Can we not call other women “hideous”? It’s nasty. Or if you must, post your bum alongside your judgy comment.

I’m sure you look lovely though and in proportion with the thighs to match your bum, those like Kim will BBLs look ridiculous due to having skinny legs with huge arses ! Very insect like

CrispySquid · 24/08/2026 11:40

canuckup · 24/08/2026 02:27

Thought the same thing the other day

Boobs are out, bums are in

Yes it’s strange isn’t it! I once overheard a group of males joke that it’s all about the arse now and that big breasts are “out of fashion” and that “nice/big tits are so 90’s coded”. Thinking about it, it was all about the legs until the 80’s came along then legs got replaced by breasts. Maybe these things come and go in cycles! I remember growing up in the 90s that you wanted to have the smallest, skinniest bum possible.

WonderfulSmith · 24/08/2026 11:38

I noticed this on holiday earlier this year. Not the lack of boobs but the bums everywhere. No one wants to see my bum in one of these bikinis - it would be like a pound of cottage cheese in a string bag.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 24/08/2026 11:32

Ugh, I don't want to be in danger of nearly seeing someone's poo hole thanks. I don't know why you would have to wear a thong to show off your bum. You can see what someone's bum looks like in a normal bikini. Can you imagine the outrage if nearly all men started wearing a thong? 😂

daisydaisydais128 · 24/08/2026 11:27

hardshoulderr · 24/08/2026 07:53

Yes, back in the 80s an early 90s small bums were good and large bums kinda accurately -were just fat

What if a woman is naturally slim with a larger bum though, like Beyoncé, Shakira, Jennifer Lopez etc? How are they ‘fat’?

daisydaisydais128 · 24/08/2026 11:23

Yello24 · 24/08/2026 06:41

Agree this has happened in my lifetime. Maybe also related to the resistance to only one type of body being seen as desirable in the media. Thin white women with big boobs. Other cultures celebrate the bum more! It might be quite healthy- all sorts of shapes being appreciated.

I agree with this, couldn’t have said it better. I was a teen and then in my 20s through the 2010s, and I saw the change from thin + massive boobs to tiny waist + bum. It did help me a lot with my body image, which was terrible for me as a teen.

daisydaisydais128 · 24/08/2026 11:19

EspanaPorfavor · 24/08/2026 11:04

As someone who was born this way (my bum looks exactly like that naturally) and spent their entire adolescence and young adulthood being so ridiculously self conscious that she would ensure she was always the one walking at the back so nobody could look at her bum, I find it hurtful to read such comments on the internet from other women.

Can we not call other women “hideous”? It’s nasty. Or if you must, post your bum alongside your judgy comment.

👏

daisydaisydais128 · 24/08/2026 11:18

canuckup · 24/08/2026 02:27

Thought the same thing the other day

Boobs are out, bums are in

If that’s the case it would be good for me 🤣 Yet sadly for me I don’t think boobs will ever go out.

EspanaPorfavor · 24/08/2026 11:04

DeftGoldHedgehog · 24/08/2026 09:03

That is pretty hideous. I mean, not like some sights you see on the beach but horrible that someone had that much added to their natural bottom, and that was the effect. I'd rather have my little natural 50 year old bum any day.

As someone who was born this way (my bum looks exactly like that naturally) and spent their entire adolescence and young adulthood being so ridiculously self conscious that she would ensure she was always the one walking at the back so nobody could look at her bum, I find it hurtful to read such comments on the internet from other women.

Can we not call other women “hideous”? It’s nasty. Or if you must, post your bum alongside your judgy comment.

DoraSpenlow · 24/08/2026 10:25

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Monty36 · 24/08/2026 10:10

Kim Kardashian. For the bum.

PrincessOfPreschool · 24/08/2026 10:07

Yeah I don't call her a prude to her face. She has some quirks. I'm not allowed to see her in a bra but a bikini is OK 🤷🏼‍♀️. She has the most enviable hourglass shape so I'm glad she's growing up now and not in my day when her bum would have been considered big. She has the boobs to balance it all out and seems to like her body so I'm not worried. Bit of a digression, sorry...!

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DarkchocolateAndtea · 24/08/2026 09:59

nomas · 24/08/2026 09:58

I don't think she's a prude. She just wants to be comfortable in her own body.

Agreed, not everyone is comfortable with that, and that's okay.

nomas · 24/08/2026 09:58

PrincessOfPreschool · 24/08/2026 09:51

Perhaps. But she's a complete prude even with her same age, same sex cousin! (Shocked cousin walked round the hotel room NAKED). Just the way DD is and that's ok. She does wear a bikini but a 'normal' one.

I don't think she's a prude. She just wants to be comfortable in her own body.

DarkchocolateAndtea · 24/08/2026 09:58

Pistachiocake · 23/08/2026 22:58

Don't think boobs will ever go out really, but I hope one day they stop telling us which body parts we need to focus on. There was some scientific "research" recently showing that what apparently attract partners is bigger breasts in comparison to waist, so it's not the bust/waist/hip difference (can't remember exactly what it was as couldn't be bothered to read it properly, and whatever trends in bumscrunch trousers they say we should wear, tough).

I read it is an hour glass shape, a primal and child bearing hips thing 🙄 Honestly alot wear thongs on beaches who really shouldn't, all of while men completely covered up with shorts. Bring back normal bikini bottoms!

Maomee · 24/08/2026 09:56

It was sometime around 2010, these things go very much in cycles somit will.probably flip in another 10 years or so

PrincessOfPreschool · 24/08/2026 09:51

hardshoulderr · 24/08/2026 09:11

Your daughter wouldn't wear a bikini in front of you @PrincessOfPreschool

Perhaps. But she's a complete prude even with her same age, same sex cousin! (Shocked cousin walked round the hotel room NAKED). Just the way DD is and that's ok. She does wear a bikini but a 'normal' one.

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Cerralin · 24/08/2026 09:27

I blame Sir Mix-A-Lot. We can date the turning point very precisely to May 1992, with the release of "Baby Got Back." Rapping "I like big butts," while standing on top of a giant gold arse, was a bold move at the time, but the sentiment has now gone completely mainstream.

One of the great underestimated cultural giants of our era.

Bogstandardname · 24/08/2026 09:19

These big fake out of proportion bums make me laugh. They remind me of something you would see in the Hall of Mirrors at a fairground.

Angelic999 · 24/08/2026 09:16

It's been a while now. It was boobs and bum for a good while, but now Gen Z fashion trends rarely show off cleavage or wear push up bras etc like was the fashion in the 00s. This generation prefer to minimise their boobs in clothes but emphasise the bum. I'm sure at some point it will come back round.

itsgettingweird · 24/08/2026 09:15

Judging by the shorts I’ve seen throughout this lovely hot summer it’s not just the bikini bottoms designed to flash enhance your arse cheeks 😂

JayJayj · 24/08/2026 09:13

hardshoulderr · 24/08/2026 09:10

Also, no one cares if you have tan lines

Err I do?

PurplebudsWhitebuds · 24/08/2026 09:11

Sorry @BibbityBoppityTwo but I don't think it's funny that a lot of people are stupid enough to hang on every word of random people on the internet who have cottoned on to the fact they can make a living off manipulating and exploiting them.

The fact that people are actually doing dangerous and ridiculous things, using unsafe products and undertaking unsafe procedures because they are in thrall to these influencers is not a joke.

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