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To wonder when boobs went out and bums came in?

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PrincessOfPreschool · 23/08/2026 22:40

Just come back from a beach holiday in Italy and both Dsis and I commented on lack of topless women. In 11 days I didn't see one! (Tbf, I wasn't scouring the sun loungers on the beach but not noticing even one seems odd). In the 80s and 90s when I was a teen/ young woman there were loads of topless women on European beaches. However, I did notice a huge number of thong bikinis, or the ones that really go up your bum and show off bum cheeks (even very young girls - preteens). Almost everyone wore one.

What's caused this change? Just fashion changes? Why has it changed? Sis thought maybe greater US influence on Europe?

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Girlintheframe · 25/08/2026 08:36

jimmyateworld · 25/08/2026 07:22

But the Kardashian’s don’t have thick thighs, that’s why their fake bums look so silly as the legs don’t match lol

I’m not sure if it’s due to her thighs. Looking back on pictures of her in her younger years, she didn’t have the snatched waist that she has now. Her waist looks tiny which makes her hips and bum look bigger. Tbh I think she looks lovely. Maybe not a physique I would aspire too due to my build but I think it suits her.
Edited to say, I’m talking about Kim not the others.

jimmyateworld · 25/08/2026 07:22

Littlemissstar90 · 24/08/2026 18:41

Big bums/thick thighs have been in for quite a few years, partly in thanks to the Kardashians. The tide might be changing though due to weight loss injections with many celebrities adopting a more 90s 'heroin chic' look..

But the Kardashian’s don’t have thick thighs, that’s why their fake bums look so silly as the legs don’t match lol

hardshoulderr · 25/08/2026 06:50

@shadowsinthegroceryline on this "ridiculous thread "where you are, thru do mention that song but that's not very long ago -in fact it's comparatively recently. We're talking about the comparison to the late 70s and early 80s.

Gettingbysomehow · 24/08/2026 18:43

Madonna ruined her lovely figure by having an enormous BBL. It looks like someone just stuck a fake bum on with glue. Ridiculous.

Littlemissstar90 · 24/08/2026 18:41

Big bums/thick thighs have been in for quite a few years, partly in thanks to the Kardashians. The tide might be changing though due to weight loss injections with many celebrities adopting a more 90s 'heroin chic' look..

shadowsinthegroceryline · 24/08/2026 18:37

jimmyateworld · 24/08/2026 18:19

Ew Nicki is maga

Fortunately, that isn't particularly apparent in her music, especially the songs from a few years ago which are the ones I actually listen to! Also, she's always been a bit of an oddball so I'm charitably putting the MAGA madness down to that, it's the same logic that means I won't be removing 212 by Azealia Banks from my playlist, because it's still a banger and I know what Azealia Banks is like! Heck, people were shrugging indulgently at Kanye West's bullshit for years before he went full-on Nazi so maybe I should be more vigilant, but I'm not willing to cancel Superbase and Starships just yet!

poachy · 24/08/2026 18:23

I’m always amazed when women wear thong bikinis at the pool where my kids have swimming lessons. I view them as for the beach so you could get a tanned bum. I always have to tell my kids not to stare, but I understand how it’s a bit hard to look away, it’s a bit fascinating why it’s all out there.

daisydaisydais128 · 24/08/2026 18:21

flutterby1 · 24/08/2026 17:26

I would say it’s more a LATINO culture thing, culturally central and South American countries have admired big bottoms. I think men naturally have (generally) always been attracted to breasts more though

They’ve been more ‘naturally’ attracted to breasts in the US and Europe, over the past 50 years or so… not in Africa or Latin America.

jimmyateworld · 24/08/2026 18:19

shadowsinthegroceryline · 24/08/2026 18:02

I find it amusing how culturally out of touch posters on here seem to be if they think that nobody ever admired or coveted larger bottoms before the Kardashians came along! Poor Old Sir Mix-a-Lot, forgotten so soon by so many, some of us still remember your moving ode to big beautiful bottoms!
At least this ridiculous thread has inspired me to go and listen to Anaconda, any excuse to indulge in a bit of Nicki Minaj is welcome, even a thread as dripping in internalised misogyny and good old-fashioned body shaming as this one!

Ew Nicki is maga

daisydaisydais128 · 24/08/2026 18:05

@CrispySquid I still think that men equate ‘nice tits’ with big though, so they’re still kind of in in that respect

shadowsinthegroceryline · 24/08/2026 18:02

I find it amusing how culturally out of touch posters on here seem to be if they think that nobody ever admired or coveted larger bottoms before the Kardashians came along! Poor Old Sir Mix-a-Lot, forgotten so soon by so many, some of us still remember your moving ode to big beautiful bottoms!
At least this ridiculous thread has inspired me to go and listen to Anaconda, any excuse to indulge in a bit of Nicki Minaj is welcome, even a thread as dripping in internalised misogyny and good old-fashioned body shaming as this one!

Jane379 · 24/08/2026 17:50

SewYellowLikeButter · 24/08/2026 17:37

Phones. Nobody wants their tits blasted all over TikTok

Well I wouldn't want my bum blasted over either. I agree it's Kardashians and rap among other things.

Jane379 · 24/08/2026 17:50

StrawberryBunnies · 24/08/2026 00:49

Kardashians, I prefer it as I don’t really like seeing women topless think it’s definitely far more “naked” imo

What about topless men? Is that OK? Personally I don't want to see either unless on the beach.

SewYellowLikeButter · 24/08/2026 17:37

Phones. Nobody wants their tits blasted all over TikTok

Gowlett · 24/08/2026 17:36

Kim Kardashian. I noticed lots of teens wearing thing bikinis on the beach this year. While the lads were in shorts, of course! We wouldn’t have worn them in my day (90s), no way… But I suppose we had “Hello Boys” instead.

flutterby1 · 24/08/2026 17:26

I would say it’s more a LATINO culture thing, culturally central and South American countries have admired big bottoms. I think men naturally have (generally) always been attracted to breasts more though

bookofbookies · 24/08/2026 17:07

Namechangetry · 24/08/2026 07:32

Not sure why stick thin with stuck on bum is better than stick thin with stuck on boobs tbh. And the Kardashians have got stuck on boobs and bums anyway. To me an athletic shape is someone shaped like a tennis player or a sprinter, not a Kardashian

Agree!

And the Kardashians have all slimmed down somewhat

DeftGoldHedgehog · 24/08/2026 14:26

EspanaPorfavor · 24/08/2026 14:24

It was a picture of an arse almost identical to
mine with “that is hideous” as the comment.

Thongs have more class than a lot of the commenters on this thread do.

I can see why you might have taken it the wrong way if you didn't read it properly, but I'm not going to apologise for something I didn't say, so take it or leave it.

EspanaPorfavor · 24/08/2026 14:24

DeftGoldHedgehog · 24/08/2026 14:13

It was not aimed at people who have a naturally large bottom. The 'hideous' comment was that someone should want to change their body so much in such an exaggerated manner.

It was a picture of an arse almost identical to
mine with “that is hideous” as the comment.

Thongs have more class than a lot of the commenters on this thread do.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 24/08/2026 14:13

EspanaPorfavor · 24/08/2026 11:04

As someone who was born this way (my bum looks exactly like that naturally) and spent their entire adolescence and young adulthood being so ridiculously self conscious that she would ensure she was always the one walking at the back so nobody could look at her bum, I find it hurtful to read such comments on the internet from other women.

Can we not call other women “hideous”? It’s nasty. Or if you must, post your bum alongside your judgy comment.

It was not aimed at people who have a naturally large bottom. The 'hideous' comment was that someone should want to change their body so much in such an exaggerated manner.

hardshoulderr · 24/08/2026 14:05

I don't think people go topless now because the phone cameras

PrincessOfPreschool · 24/08/2026 14:03

LejlaKapovic · 24/08/2026 12:44

Why does it matter? Either way, it's objectification of women...reducing them to either ass or tits. Let's stop doing it.

I've never done either personally! Just interested in how it's changed since I was young - and looking for reasons why. I actually think the topless trend was less objectifying and more about freedom for women, reclaiming the breast for ourselves (like not wearing a bra) etc. rather than showing off. I'm not sure why, but the bum trend feels different to me. Maybe cos I'm old.

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LejlaKapovic · 24/08/2026 12:44

PrincessOfPreschool · 23/08/2026 22:40

Just come back from a beach holiday in Italy and both Dsis and I commented on lack of topless women. In 11 days I didn't see one! (Tbf, I wasn't scouring the sun loungers on the beach but not noticing even one seems odd). In the 80s and 90s when I was a teen/ young woman there were loads of topless women on European beaches. However, I did notice a huge number of thong bikinis, or the ones that really go up your bum and show off bum cheeks (even very young girls - preteens). Almost everyone wore one.

What's caused this change? Just fashion changes? Why has it changed? Sis thought maybe greater US influence on Europe?

Why does it matter? Either way, it's objectification of women...reducing them to either ass or tits. Let's stop doing it.

Ferryovetheotterplace · 24/08/2026 12:32

Topless for me in the late 70s Spain however I never felt comfortable so never did it again. Now I am 60+ and my bum seems to have migrated to my belly I’m wondering as to whether I could get away with full front coverage and semi cheeky bum for my winter holiday. I just looked like a shapeless frump in last years full bottoms. But I need to cover the fat at front so if anyone can suggest anything I’d be grateful! Plus the fat at side of vag area I hate that no idea what it’s called but I won’t inflict that on anyone 🤣

Last year on holiday my worst sights were a guy in a red thong thing walking about the beach and a young woman in thong on a boat trip which meant when I was sat down and she stood up her arse was eye height and I thought that was a tad unnecessary if I’m honest.

The beach was full of all shapes, ages, sizes but no one was topless (Canaries). Plenty of anything went for the bottom half! So I thought I might as well join them!

Minasama · 24/08/2026 12:27

CrispySquid · 24/08/2026 11:40

Yes it’s strange isn’t it! I once overheard a group of males joke that it’s all about the arse now and that big breasts are “out of fashion” and that “nice/big tits are so 90’s coded”. Thinking about it, it was all about the legs until the 80’s came along then legs got replaced by breasts. Maybe these things come and go in cycles! I remember growing up in the 90s that you wanted to have the smallest, skinniest bum possible.

What a charming group of men. Clearly very 90s coded themselves, although there was a vestige of gentlemanliness and respect still back then that meant they didn’t usually have those conversations in front of women.

Agree with you on the skinny bum though, I was always really embarrassed about my huge round bum until I met my husband who liked it before it was fashionable. Now I find I am right on trend!

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