Upper Middle Class not well travelled AIBU?

It’s middle class people with lots of money.

But apparently they are quite happy to share their business on this thread in a not so subtle way. Funny that!

These type of posts demonstrate how little understanding of wealth and its subtle signifiers most people on MN have. They're very telling.

Stop tying yourself up in knots about class. What wealthy people choose to do is their business alone.

It’s because your OP was judgemental in itself, which you seem weirdly in denial about. You would have had different responses if you’d simply said ‘Is going on winter and summer holidays to the same few places a usual UMC thing?’

There's a lot of bitchy comments on this thread isn't there 😂.
We do things properly as opposed to the type who don't. We go for quality as opposed to the type who'll sleep in any old shack. We do a deep dive on the culture as opposed to those who like to do tick box touristing staying in a resort.

So insecure isn't it? You'd think if you were going on holiday it would be all about the things you like as opposed dismissing all the things other people ( the poor) like.

Class based posts are brilliant on MN - all the people trying to gently assert their social positions (without boastingmuch because that wouldn't be classy) - but they get the markers in - even on an anonymous forum - it's none of your business! Funny - thank you OP - very good! 😂

To be fair though OP, your original post used terms that were inherently judgmental, such as "not well-travelled" as opposed to a more objective statement that they like to go to the same places.

You were trying to needle in the way it was worded. It went beyond an innocent question.

Some people use holidays for experience and learning, others use them for pleasure, some do both. These different attitudes are about personality, lifestyle and what people enjoy. I don't see a link to social class.

For me it can be someone with a title, Sir, Lady. But not aristocrats. So upper middle. Sometimes the title comes with the job. Or inherited.
Pretty much at the top of their profession. Or old money.
Someone who has a professional job eg. KC barrister. Senior consultant.
That is upper middle class.
New money will not be upper middle class. But might marry someone who is and have a chance to elevate themselves in doing so. They might not always be successful though.

I really dislike the verb "done" when it comes to a country! Even "doing" a single city is annoying, but to say you have "done" a whole country really rubs me up the wrong way!

What is also interesting is this terminology "done": we have "done this place."

It jumped out at me, too.

I am now middle class but grew up working class/lower middle. DH the same. We very rarely go back to the same place twice (I think one hotel in Thailand pre kids as we got a great deal on it to return and of course that middle class staple center parcs!) and I feel exactly the same as you 😂. People at work who earn loads of cash and could clearly go anywhere going back to the same places. I have wondered the same thing, is it familiarity? Saw some other posters had suggested language learning which is a point I hadn’t thought of but it’s not that in most of the cases I know. I get really excited about taking us and the kids to new places! Not that I care or judge what other people do, but I’m glad it is not just me that is curious about this.

It's their life. They can do what they like.
If that's what they enjoy why does it matter?

I find the " one upmanship" about holidays extremely annoying. The idea of a holiday is to get a break from your normal routine. And if you achieve that what does it matter to other people where you go to or how much you spend?

A lot of people seem to make holidays their hobby. Fine if they want to do that. Their choice. But it's frankly quite boring when they bang on about their holidays ad nauseum.

I think wealthier types travelled more from a younger age and had the chance to discover what really suited them. Then they stuck to it. I think lots of people are like that.

I've occasionally stayed in National Trust holiday cottages. When you read the guest book, so many people write "We come to this cottage every year", or'This is our sixth visit to the cottage". There's a lot to be said, when you have a young famiy, or when you are elderly, to stick to a place that suits your needs well.

Perhaps the time fortravel experimentation is when you're young and fancy free!

You do realise other people can be different to you?

I'm very much on the same wavelength. I don't think I'd ever pass as upper middle class (whatever that entails), but we do by now have a decent amount of money to throw at holidays. We tend to stay in really nice houses in the Lakes, the Scottish Highlands or the south of France - and we'll often go back to the same place twice or more - basically places that are driveable so we can take loads of gear and where we know we'll have a great time.

We have been further afield a few times but each time have come to the conclusion that it was more hassle and not actually any better as a holiday than our regular haunts. Plus even though we have been to the Highlands and the south of France many times there's loads of it we haven't seen - I guess we like filling in the detail of places (vs the type to spend a weekend in Paris, get a photo of the Eiffel Tower and pronounce they've thus 'done France').

I will say, though, that I am looking forward to being able to spend much longer chunks of time abroad once I've jacked in work, at which point I expect we will be heading off to much further-flung climes.

I think this is the key. What are you looking for from your holiday?
If fancy foreign holidays are a luxury, and you dontk now you can go every year, it makes sense to maximise your experiences and go to different places.
If you know you'll be going on four holidays a year and moeny isn't a big deal and you've had a few years of trying different places, probably done the exotic stuff at a younger age anyway, then consistency has an advantage. You know the place, you can probably be more relaxed about the kids doing stuff (and my understanding of skiing is that yo can offload the kids as much as you like), you're paying for something you know you'll enjoy, the kids can learn to ski / speak a language etc. And if yo mu ever fancy a change, you can just book a couple of weeks in Mauritouor a cruise around the arctic circle and it won't affect the rest of your holidays.

We go to Wales every year because we're poor working class 😂 so if I had moeny for fancy holidays I'd want to go every where, but I can why you'd develop comfortable favourites if you knew you could always just book something.

I agree with this, and add that the "professional social media travelers" give most people I know the ick

I think being upper middle class and wealthy gives you all the comfort of choices. Nothing to prove, go where they want to go, do what they want to do.

They probably want comfort and luxury guaranteed and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I don't think it's a class thing, I've been on many holidays and seen families there that go every year without fail, know all the staff by name, have fancy dress costumes in their luggage etc. I think part of it is just not having the faff of aclimatising to a new environment. Not my cup of tea, but each to their own.

Travelling widely is not an obligation. People have different preferences.

I have not noticed that extensive travel makes people more sensible or well informed, though it gives them plenty to bang on about.

We have family that go Disney World every year. We like to go back to a different country each time. Different boats for different folks. Neither are right or wrong

For us the advantage of going to the same place is that we get to know it better and get to know people there. We go to a small town in Normandy and it seems familiar. We are recognised there.

Their holidays, their choice. No one has a right to implement their choices on other people!