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Am I use to strange ways of dating or is something going on ?

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Fairycake95 · 23/08/2026 20:44

I’m almost starting to think I’m being crazy. I’ve known a guy I’ve been seeing for about 8 months. Life got in the way while we was dating so 2 months of that 8 we wasn’t talking. we started talking consistently again for 3 months. We very rarely speak on the phone, he doesn’t ask any intentional questions to get to know me, he’s very busy and we’ve not once had a conversation about where the relationship is going.

Ive asked him what’s going on as a feel like it’s strange. Usually by now I’ve experienced casual chats about how much you and the other person like eachother and we’ve had none of that. Either my way of dating is unconventional or something is up

is this normal?

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Fairycake95 · 23/08/2026 20:54

When we do get to meet. It will be surface level or he will start talking about himself

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RemindMeIn15Minutes · 23/08/2026 20:54

It’s not clear what your ‘dating’ consists of. Do you meet? Do you have sex?

ColdAsAWitches · 23/08/2026 20:52

You said you're dating, so you must act meet sometimes. What do you talk about then? Is he silent while you prattle on, or do you have conversations?

Fairycake95 · 23/08/2026 20:52

I wrote a message telling him how I’m feeling as I feel I can communicate it better and put the conversation out there and he tells me “you know I’m not going to read all of this”. The message wasn’t even that long.

Im genuinely starting to think maybe I’m weird for asking these question from him

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