Sisters children and step child and our holiday

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why would the stepchild’s mother let her daughter go away in this type of circumstance?
imagine something happened to the child, going abroad is a huge responsibility?
cheeky of your sister to ask!

It's crazy to let a child go with with someone they've only met twice! Def wouldn't be a holiday for you. I'd say no to all three if she wants them to be treated the same.

I agree with you. 7yo can be an unpredictable age. She may hate it and want to be taken back home. I remember asking to go home at that age.

Please don’t risk your well earned holiday so that your sister feels like step-mum or wife of the year at your expense.

For me, it would be all three or none. I would treat the step niece as my niece, not make a distinction between them.

Nope! So not take any of your sister’s kids with you.

Your parents have moved away, if they are so desperate to see your nieces they will come back for a while - even if they are at school to see them or otherwise, wait until Christmas.

The step child really has nothing to do with you and the child’s father should be ensuring there is care for them over holidays.

Your sister’s position is not your problem to solve.

This!

I would say no for lots of reasons, additional checks at the airport, what happens if the child is sick or injured? The way the child may feel being out of the country with people they don’t really know, what is her Mum like? Would she even agree?

Does the stepchild even have a relationship with your parents, considering they aren't her grandparents?

Don't take any of them.

In which case tell them you'll take her over when she turns 13 and not before.

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Nope the 7 year old isn't your child, but more over she's MUCH younger. It's not about not wanting the responsibility even, it's that she is fundamentally a totally different age from all the other children. I have a 13 year old, and I have a goddaughter who's 6 and her sister is 8. When we do things as a group we do very different things from what we would do as a family or with other friends with kids our son's age. We have done a camping weekend with them last year and we are going to do Blackpool illuminations later this year and saying over there, but activities have to be very carefully planned and are largely different from what we'd do ourselves.

I think if it was me I'd say no to taking any of them. It gets you out of the "treating them the same" thing for one thing, but also you are not childcare. I mean will your parents take over care for your sister's kids once they are there or will it be up to you to do it? Yes they are teens but they will still surely need some supervision and so on? Clothes laundering, curfews enforcing, some kind of knowledge about where they are and what they are doing?

Absolutely. I have two grandchildren this age. They do require looking after.

Your sister’s partner should have saved some annual leave to look after his child. Don’t take her because you will definitely be looking after her. Just tell your sister that you don’t want to look after her because of her age not because
she is a step. If the older kids can’t come then so be it but I am sure they will pressure their mother to let them go.

A seven year old you hardly know? On what planet?! That’s got all sorts of implications.

I would tell your sister straight up: I don’t want to go on holiday with a seven year old and I’m not prepared to take responsibility for her. It’s either the elder two, or none of them.

You are talking absolute rubbish

That poor wee 7 year old.

Just say no to taking any of them. It's your holiday, not your time to be general family facilitator. Have they ever offered to take your kids anywhere?

It’s a shame for our nieces and parents to miss out on seeing each other when taking them isn’t a problem at all. It’s only taking the younger one that brings issues.

Your sister will just have to take them another time.

Holidays are so precious. You were looking forward to the holiday and now you're not. Your sister has spoiled that for you already. Other people's children, blood related or not, on holiday, just no.
Stick to your original plans and let your sister sort out her family's holidays without involving you. Your parents have made a choice to move abroad. It is not up to you to compensate for that either.

Does the mum even know that you're being asked to take her child abroad without her dad or stepmother?
You know that you would need signed permission from both of her biological parents to take her out of the uk.
Tbh I'd refuse to take an unrelated 7 year old to a family holiday when its in a foreign country

Think about it from the child’s perspective. Very young . Away for a week in a strange country , different food etc with people she hardly knows responsible for her . Desperately homesick . No way would I do this.

No way would I take a 7 year old I barely knew on holiday. 7 yr olds have completely different needs on holiday. She’ll be awake early and someone will have to get up with her, whilst you and the teens might want to sleep in until 10am. Day trips you might like to do with the teens will be completely different to trips a 7 yr old wants to do. Late, lazy dinners out which can be fab with teens, will be ruined with a tired 7 yr old. It’s completely different being on holiday with teens va young kids. And your DSis knows this full well.