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Husband has ruined dinner

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OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:24

I’m been upstairs packing for a holiday so asked husband to cook dinner, all of the ingredients for a shepards pie are in the fridge/cupboard.
Came down and thought.. That smells nothing like shepards pie. He has poured an entire jar of Passata and half a jar of parsley into the meat.
Im going to beans on toast. My AIBU is this..
YABU.. Sounds fine to me.
YANBU.. He has made bolognese with mash potatoes and gravy.

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BuildbyNumbere · 24/08/2026 17:23

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:29

He’s eating it and so is DS, DS said it tastes nothing like shepards pie but is nice. I’m not touching it, grim.

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If it’s beef mince, then no, it won’t taste like Shepard’s pie!

BuildbyNumbere · 24/08/2026 17:22

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:30

I’m not making a point, beans on toast is nicer, why would I eat a dinner that in my opinion tastes disgusting.

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God … sounds like this is going to be a great holiday 🙄🤣

BlondeBanshee · 24/08/2026 17:10

I can’t work out if you’re all so upper class that you only use fresh parsley or your food is so bland because you’ve never heard of dried herbs and spices. I don’t think I’ll ever get over what a crazy world it is out there.

Justanothermum42 · 24/08/2026 16:36

At least he cooked? Breathe on repeat. Have your beans on toast. And a large glass of wine. Tomorrow is another day.

Rufusisturnedon · 24/08/2026 16:13

Ungrateful. You had a meal cooked for you. If your DS can eat it so can you.

you are being ridiculous.

Acommonreader · 24/08/2026 16:01

Mumalala · 23/08/2026 16:40

I'm not the only one on this thread who is surprised by parsley in a jar. I assumed it was some sort of paste, like the jars of minced garlic and ginger you can buy.

We've got all sorts of dried herbs and spices, but not parsley. Recipes normally ask for fresh parsley, so we buy that frequently. Our guinea pigs also love fresh parsley, so get any leftovers. Not sure what they'd make of dried parsley.

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Exactly. I don’t think anyone has never heard of dried herbs- just parsley sounds an odd one! I always have fresh and share with the guinea pigs too.

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:57

I knew that dried parsley existed, but in my opinion, if you can't get fresh parsley then it's better to leave it out than to use dried. Some other herbs work fine in their dried state, and of course spices are a different matter.

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:55

TheForbiddenMoon · 24/08/2026 15:53

They were room mates.

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Who were?

TheForbiddenMoon · 24/08/2026 15:53

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:14

That's the strangest part of this.

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They were room mates.

MostlyChickpeas · 24/08/2026 15:49

YABU because you bought dried parsley.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 24/08/2026 15:44

I would get it eaten, tomatoes in a Shepherd's Pie are rather nice.

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:43

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Does anyone else have any idea what the above means?

TheForbiddenMoon · 24/08/2026 15:36

lol came back online to find THIS on the 14th page.

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OP are you ever found in the kitchen crushing glass with a rolling pin?

FrostyPalms · 24/08/2026 15:14

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 17:43

Always do on a Sunday.

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That's the strangest part of this.

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Pherian · 24/08/2026 15:10

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:24

I’m been upstairs packing for a holiday so asked husband to cook dinner, all of the ingredients for a shepards pie are in the fridge/cupboard.
Came down and thought.. That smells nothing like shepards pie. He has poured an entire jar of Passata and half a jar of parsley into the meat.
Im going to beans on toast. My AIBU is this..
YABU.. Sounds fine to me.
YANBU.. He has made bolognese with mash potatoes and gravy.

Does he not know how to cook or has he done this on purpose so you don’t ask him again ?

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OnAJetPlane26 · 24/08/2026 07:25

HouseBee · 23/08/2026 21:59

Last time I made a comment along those lines on MN, I got obliterated.

Because your dh made the effort to cook dinner. It might not be what you thought it would be but you wouldn’t have appreciated if your dh made a similar comment to you and you were tge one cooking.

Tbh being that difficult over a bolognese with mash potatoes is over the top.

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But I wasn’t “difficult” I simply made beans on toast and ate it, nobody cared!
If I made dinner and my husband said… This is gross and made himself a sandwich I also wouldn’t have cared, I certainly wouldn’t expect him to sit down and eat it anyway, he’s not 4.

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itsallaroundus · 24/08/2026 06:52

YABU. I put tomatoes in my shepherds pie/cottage pie all the time.

DarkForces · 24/08/2026 06:41

Timeforachange26 · 24/08/2026 06:38

Sounds interesting. Might try that

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I use a mix of potatoes and sweet potatoes to top mine and chuck in a tin of tomatoes. I use dried rosemary rather than parsley though as it's lamb!

Timeforachange26 · 24/08/2026 06:38

Octavia64 · 23/08/2026 21:02

I quite like Jamaican shepherd’s pie that uses either sweet potato or yam for the topping and coconut milk and jerk seasoning for the filling.

(Listens carefully for the lynching mob)

Sounds interesting. Might try that

Timeforachange26 · 24/08/2026 06:37

TerrysCIockworkOrange · 23/08/2026 19:02

I love a tin of baked beans stirred into shepherds pie mince
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Lol thought it was only my partner did that

HouseBee · 23/08/2026 21:59

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 21:00

I did try some of my husband’s so I know I didn’t like it. Bit harsh to call me a brat, I didn’t throw my plate on the floor and demand a new dinner. I simply said.. Babe why have you made Shepards pie taste like spaghetti bolognaise, I’ll have beans on toast instead. Is that really that bad in your eyes?!?

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Last time I made a comment along those lines on MN, I got obliterated.

Because your dh made the effort to cook dinner. It might not be what you thought it would be but you wouldn’t have appreciated if your dh made a similar comment to you and you were tge one cooking.

Tbh being that difficult over a bolognese with mash potatoes is over the top.

HouseBee · 23/08/2026 21:56

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:29

He’s eating it and so is DS, DS said it tastes nothing like shepards pie but is nice. I’m not touching it, grim.

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I’m sorry but if you haven’t tasted it, you can’t say it’s disgusting 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

And no it’s not a shepherd’s pie but as your ds said ‘it doesn’t taste like this but it’s still good’

I think you’re making a mountain out of a molehill tbh.

ThisStarHere · 23/08/2026 21:53

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 20:56

I seem to have confused a lot of people with the wording Jar of parsley. I’ve posted a picture of what I mean, would most people not describe this as a jar?

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It was the most wilful 'confusion' I've seen on MN in a while Grin

Gallowayan · 23/08/2026 21:46

Mumalala · 23/08/2026 16:28

How do you get parsley in a jar?

You can buy dried parsley in a jar