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Husband has ruined dinner

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OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:24

I’m been upstairs packing for a holiday so asked husband to cook dinner, all of the ingredients for a shepards pie are in the fridge/cupboard.
Came down and thought.. That smells nothing like shepards pie. He has poured an entire jar of Passata and half a jar of parsley into the meat.
Im going to beans on toast. My AIBU is this..
YABU.. Sounds fine to me.
YANBU.. He has made bolognese with mash potatoes and gravy.

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TheChosenTwo · 23/08/2026 16:50

I read the bit about half a jar of parsley and joined the other people who had never heard of it before! Until someone pointed out it’s just dried parsley which I’ve definitely heard of, and realise it does come in a jar 😂
Ive just never thought of it or heard it called a jar of parsley, I think I was imagining like prechopped garlic in a jar or something.
Anyway, it doesn’t sound nice but I’d probably have just eaten it anyway for ease.

HerbyWitch · 23/08/2026 16:49

Error404FucksNotFound · 23/08/2026 16:28

Dried parsley comes in a little jar. Its in the herbs and spices section of supermarkets

They know that. Nobody doesn't know dried herbs can be bought in jars. It's just a way to show they think they're superior. dried herbs? oh my, horrifying. aye ok.

Vulturesoverhead · 23/08/2026 16:49

Mumalala · 23/08/2026 16:40

I'm not the only one on this thread who is surprised by parsley in a jar. I assumed it was some sort of paste, like the jars of minced garlic and ginger you can buy.

We've got all sorts of dried herbs and spices, but not parsley. Recipes normally ask for fresh parsley, so we buy that frequently. Our guinea pigs also love fresh parsley, so get any leftovers. Not sure what they'd make of dried parsley.

I imagine you can get it frozen and as a paste. I always use frozen coriander as it saves having to time recipes and just adds to the ease of a store cupboard.

I think quite a few comments are faux horror at a fairly normal herb in a freeze dried state. As a fellow guinea pig owner, mine go crazy for herbs 😁, but not the dried variety, but as they like dried grass I imagine dried parsley would pass the taste test

NegativeFreak · 23/08/2026 16:49

You haven't even tasted it?!

You sound like an ungrateful toddler.

SpidersAreShitheads · 23/08/2026 16:48

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:41

The sauce consistency, it was really thick and the parsley was overpowering. He did this last time I asked him to cook.. I’d made a curry and asked him to cook some rice so it was ready when I finished work, he added Turmeric to the rice because he thought it would taste nice, it didn’t.

The sauce is supposed to be thick otherwise it’s just runny mince and gravy 😂

Also, adding turmeric to rice is common - it’s a popular addition that adds a bit of flavour to the rice.

It sounds more and more as if you just don’t like the way he cooks rather than him doing anything actually wrong 🤷‍♀️

bakingdisasterqueen · 23/08/2026 16:48

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:41

The sauce consistency, it was really thick and the parsley was overpowering. He did this last time I asked him to cook.. I’d made a curry and asked him to cook some rice so it was ready when I finished work, he added Turmeric to the rice because he thought it would taste nice, it didn’t.

Dry turmeric tastes like sour dust, you only need about 1/4 tspn in anything and it needs to be well cooked in to be palatable.

use92438567 · 23/08/2026 16:48

The Delia Smith recipe has tomato puree, so I don't see the problem with tomato? I think the parsley thing is because the way it was phrased made it sound like the jars of minced garlic or ginger as @Mumalala said. If the op had said half a jar of dried parsley, it would have been clear. Like a lot of us, I have many dried spices, but tend to use fresh parsley.

Raptors · 23/08/2026 16:48

PeachMelbaYoghurt · 23/08/2026 16:45

Our local market charge £5 for a measly bunch of parsley! I wouldn't call that cheap at all.

Our local supermarkets all sell fresh parsley for less than a quid, your local market sounds extortionate.

Lovelyview · 23/08/2026 16:48

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:29

He’s eating it and so is DS, DS said it tastes nothing like shepards pie but is nice. I’m not touching it, grim.

Sounds like you're behaving like a spoilt child tbh. Hope you're not always this nasty.

SleeplessRoads · 23/08/2026 16:47

Itsa10fromLen · 23/08/2026 16:30

It’s giving middle class isn’t it? 😂

It's not even that, it's giving Hyacinth Bouquet ... my very working class household growing up never had a single jar of dried herbs or any parsley, so I would have totally believed it came in a jar. My children's very middle class household does have a jar of dried parsley in it (and sometimes fresh parsley, but they're almost two different ingredients used in different dishes).

ednaclouda · 23/08/2026 16:46

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:24

I’m been upstairs packing for a holiday so asked husband to cook dinner, all of the ingredients for a shepards pie are in the fridge/cupboard.
Came down and thought.. That smells nothing like shepards pie. He has poured an entire jar of Passata and half a jar of parsley into the meat.
Im going to beans on toast. My AIBU is this..
YABU.. Sounds fine to me.
YANBU.. He has made bolognese with mash potatoes and gravy.

he’s done it so he doesnt have to cook
theyre the same way with ironing …...
lazy pig

PeachMelbaYoghurt · 23/08/2026 16:45

Raptors · 23/08/2026 16:32

To be fair I have plenty of dried herbs but some things like parsley are ridiculously cheap to buy fresh so never thought to buy a jar of dried parsley, nothing middle class about me. 🤣

Our local market charge £5 for a measly bunch of parsley! I wouldn't call that cheap at all.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 23/08/2026 16:45

I am aghast that people haven’t seen dried herbs in jars at supermarkets.

Are herbs in jars a poor person thing that we have to pretend don’t exist?

I am intrigued.

Mammyloveswine · 23/08/2026 16:44

I don’t like mince and gravy so always do a bolognese for my shepherds pie 😂 it’s lovely!

Dancingsquirrels · 23/08/2026 16:44

MelonSorbet · 23/08/2026 16:29

LOL at all the incredulity about jarred parsley!

Food snobbery at its best !!

Springtimeinsunshine · 23/08/2026 16:43

He needs to cook more often then @OnAJetPlane26 , at least twice a week until he can produce decent meals for everyone to eat. Practice makes perfect 😉

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:41

strawlight · 23/08/2026 16:35

Gross in what way?

The sauce consistency, it was really thick and the parsley was overpowering. He did this last time I asked him to cook.. I’d made a curry and asked him to cook some rice so it was ready when I finished work, he added Turmeric to the rice because he thought it would taste nice, it didn’t.

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CaptainMyCaptain · 23/08/2026 16:41

Askandyforcompo · 23/08/2026 16:26

Surely it's not inedible?

I didn't know you could get parsley in a jar.

You've never heard of dried parsley?

Mycatisreal · 23/08/2026 16:41

Parsley doesn’t taste of much does it?

SpidersAreShitheads · 23/08/2026 16:41

I make cottage pie quite regularly and have a phenomenal recipe that so far, has always led to a clean plate with everyone who’s eaten it (not a brag, not my recipe - I tried several and hit on this one as a winner!)

The recipe has passata/tomato puree in it along with the usual stock, garlic, onions, etc. I’ve occasionally been a bit heavy-handed with the passata and it’s still fine. I also add dried oregano (the horror).

You can balance out the passata by adding more stock/marmite/worcestershire sauce, then reducing.

Are you stressed about getting ready for holiday or are things a bit strained in general? Just asking as this sounds like a massive overreaction tbh.

Aldi, you haven’t answered OP whether your DH knows how to make cottage pie? Does he regularly cook - has he made it before?

Messedupmyusernameagain · 23/08/2026 16:41

Raptors · 23/08/2026 16:32

To be fair I have plenty of dried herbs but some things like parsley are ridiculously cheap to buy fresh so never thought to buy a jar of dried parsley, nothing middle class about me. 🤣

I don't really like parsley so don't use it that often, so if I bought a bunch Id chuck most of it away. I'm the same with coriander. Hate it so have dried. £2 a jar is a rip off I agree! Buy own brand for 80p!

Tryagain26 · 23/08/2026 16:41

OnAJetPlane26 · 23/08/2026 16:30

I’m not making a point, beans on toast is nicer, why would I eat a dinner that in my opinion tastes disgusting.

What tastes disgusting? Is it all the parsley? I agree it's a lot but those jars are not very big and the taste will be diluted by the tomato anyway.
I can't imagine what in it tastes so disgusting? Do you eat Bolognese? Other mince dishes besides shepherds pie?

TreesinthePark · 23/08/2026 16:41

I think maybe have a read of some of the other threads on here to see what type of vile oafs some women live with.

And then there's your husband who has made a "quirky" dinner that your child is enjoying...

Stormyrose · 23/08/2026 16:40

i am not sure how you think you come across but you sound really mean and demeaning to him. Crack on with your miserable beans on toast.

WildlyInappropriate · 23/08/2026 16:40

All the dried herbs and spices virgins - are you genuinely meal planning to the degree you buy the same variety of herbs I use in a week fresh each time, with no wastage? Or are you just not using herbs in your cooking? How do you manage without dried spices? Do you genuinely prefer pretending to be purists while in fact creating bland and unseasoned food? Extraordinary.

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