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Husband won't drive

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Tdp123 · 23/08/2026 13:18

My husband has a driving license but decided about 15 years ago that he doesn't like driving, so he hasn't been behind the wheel since.

We are currently on holiday in a remote part of the UK—a destination that he chose and booked. We both enjoy having a drink with dinner.

Tonight is our last night, and he is currently throwing a massive strop. He even called me a "cunt" because I am refusing to drive 30 minutes each way to go out for dinner, which would mean he gets to drink while I have to stay sober to drive us back.

I have cooked, served, and washed up every single evening on this holiday. I am happy to do the same tonight, especially since we have plenty of nice food and drink right here in our beautiful accommodation that will otherwise go to waste.

Am I being unreasonable here?

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Loulou4022 · 23/08/2026 13:25

He’s rude and spiteful!

Tink3rbell30 · 23/08/2026 13:25

Never mind that, why is he name calling and why has he not cooked or washed up once? The bar is so low.

Softcream · 23/08/2026 13:25

He is being massively unreasonable.

Also, if my DH ever calls me a cunt I will divorce him.

PussInBin20 · 23/08/2026 13:24

Well I would pick a holiday where no driving is required tbh but then again I wouldn’t be with someone that called me that name (or anything else).

Dunnocantthinkofone · 23/08/2026 13:24

Anyone who called me a cunt in those circumstances would be finding his own way back from the holiday tbh.
Unless his apology came in fast and without my demanding it in the VERY near future

But I’m guessing its the tip of an iceberg?

FieryA · 23/08/2026 13:23

Name calling is absolutely not ok. Also, why have you been doing all the jobs- couldn't he do the washing up? I mean that itself is bad.

Dearg · 23/08/2026 13:22

Oh I couldn’t be doing with that. Book the solo holiday you want next time.

Tdp123 · 23/08/2026 13:22

Dunnocantthinkofone · 23/08/2026 13:21

You know you aren’t.
so are you just venting or what?

Well, you doubt yourself sometimes when the other person is so sure. Just wanted to garner other opinions.

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Globules · 23/08/2026 13:21

Nope.

Calling you a cunt for not doing his bidding is awful.

Either cook dinner for yourself or go to a restaurant alone and have a last night on holiday with amenable company.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 23/08/2026 13:21

You know you aren’t.
so are you just venting or what?