Husband won't drive

So OP is too old to want to have a drink with her dinner (nowhere has she said that she wants to get drunk) but you have no harsh words for her DH who called her a cunt because she refused to drive him to a restaurant where he would be drinking and she couldn't?

You haunt these threads with your male perspective, and you have been very rude to OP.

Binge drinking? Maybe OP just wanted a large glass of wine?

Oh look, it's someone who just got here from the manosphere.

@Tdp123 Tonight is our last night, and he is currently throwing a massive strop. He even called me a "cunt" because I am refusing to drive 30 minutes each way to go out for dinner, which would mean he gets to drink while I have to stay sober to drive us back.

I think you are far too old to be getting into a huff over not being able to get drunk. Most people grow out of binge drinking after their early 20s and the novelty wears off.

He would be dumped for calling me a See you next Tuesday - I’m over 40 years married and he has never called me names - ever!!
He sounds absolutely awful and I feel very sorry for you.

Somebody called me a cunt I'd drive off and leave his nasty ass there and be hitting a lawyer's office first thing.

Most people find wimpy men deeply unattractive. He sounds pathetic.

If my husband ever called me a 'cunt' we'd be over. He'd be bloody walking home!

Your husband is horrible! You are not being unreasonable and he can bore off. He should have chosen a holiday home closer to shops/restaurants instead of expecting to use you as a taxi!

Sorry but I couldn’t be with someone who doesn’t drive but that’s just me and as for the name calling I have no words.

I have a non driving husband too. If he'd called me a cunt he wouldn be finding himself being divorced!

Do you have doormat tattooed on your forehead?

Where is your dignity.... he is walking all over you, refusing to drive and bitching at you when you won't.

I’m not a keen driver so dh does most of the driving. However, I woukdn’t get cross if he didn’t want to drive, and there’s other options to eat. W’d either get a taxi or eat more locally.

Simple then- husband can drive! Selfish prick.

More fool you, OP. The opting out of driving is pathetic enough. The calling you a cunt is something you should see as the death knell. Why on earth would you question if this is ok?

How does it all work at home?

Do you live in London where there is a lot of public transport?

It's been convenient for him to have you drive him round for 15 years and today you've decided that's enough. I quite agree. He wants to travel to somewhere without the hassle of driving for 30 minutes and having to stay sober to drive home. Of course he wants to go. Very understandable. It's an easy option for him.

What is unforgivable is calling you the C word. Completely unacceptable for a husband and one who's benefited from his wife as a free taxi for 15 years. Instead of being grateful he calls you the C word. I'd stop the taxiing today and refuse to do anything other than drive him home until he's driven you enough times to make up for the last 15 years. What a shit. That's what he really thinks of you, your time, your efforts and your preference to have a drink with dinner.

I wouldn’t be ferrying him around ever again after that.
Tell him if he wants a personal chauffeur he can pay for one the nasty piece of work!

perhaps this happens regularly as a matter of course and not just a one off
as we are assuming

mine whilst going back out to work after being sexually inappropriate
and me rebuffing him, called me a prickteaser - I was so shocked I
couldn’t speak - it wasn’t just the words, but the twisted look on his face
whilst he spat out his venom
divorce didn’t happen immediately but it was a watershed moment
he phoned later to apologise but the harm was done - the mask had
not so much dropped as been snatched off

I was waiting for my flight call when a middle aged well dressed attractive
couple, wife clutching toddler, dad trailing couple of kids came rushing past
us all down an escalator, they were late, he was screaming!
you cunt, I’ll get you for this, cunt, on and on, going on holiday together,
to have a lovely time, relax, be together, children crying, wife appeared immune
Ive never forgotten this, vitriol, unpleasant for everyone, his contempt

Dr Greer famously wrote that women have no idea how much men hate us

Why is it ok for him not to drive for 15 years but you can’t have a night off ? He sounds a real prince.

What’s the difference between him not wanting to drive tonight and you not wanting to drive tonight? Why is it alright for him but you’re a cunt?

Have you had children with this scumbag?
If not, what are you doing in a clearly verbally abusive relationship?

Take absolutely everything else out of it, he'd be an ex for me the first time he called me a cunt (or any other name in anger quite frankly).

I don't do relationships with people who set out to intentionally hurt me. Why are you willing to put up with it @Tdp123

He called you a cunt.

Your husband is not bothered about booking something so far away as he has his own taxi driver.
Are you going to cook him a dinner after he called you a cunt?