AIBU to change schools over my husband helping a neighbour?

Why are people calling @Schoolchanging a bad mother?!

She has moved her kids, who are happy to move, to a better school where they already have friends, with better wraparound care and close to her work so.........if husband is cheating then her life as a single mother will be easier. If he isnt then life is still easier for everyone and the predator neighbour (if she proves to be) has been removed from the equation.

The wording of the OP does sound a little unhinged but the updates make a big difference.

Always trust your gut instincts. If she's blanking you while at the same time being friendly to your husband, something is definitely off.

Horrendous! You obviously should have prioritised your dc and their stability. I feel really sorry for them!

Then you have a husband problem.

The care pack is odd. You should have mentioned that in the OP.

ETA especially odd if it had condoms in it, but thankfully you didn't mention that.

Actually it's all easier now, as it isn't the mum of a classmate.

OP this is unbelievably weird.

Yanbu

get your life easier for you and the kids and the school run
if he does something still with this person you will have that side of things organised, we all know people that would try it on with other peoples partners. You told your DH it was making you uncomfortable he should have stopped seeing her.

Most parents worry about their kids starting primary school, then secondary school, plus any necessary school changes due to relocation etc.

OP uses changing school as a way to get 1 over her neighbour. Absolute insanity, poor parenting and I feel incredibly sorry for their poor kids having to go through another, completely unnecessary school change. I would be in bits about this - OP just sees it as a solution to a relationship issue!

Hope you don't get divorced - you're using your children as pawns now, I can only imagine how awful you would be if separation was involved, not giving them a second's thought, only how it benefits you.

Poor husband agreed with it it seems which is just as odd

I wish you would reread your posts. You sound unwell. What will you do when he speaks to another school mom you don't like? You do know that if he truly does want to continue this friendship with the mom, he still will find a way, right?

I just read the posts - you don't have a school problem. You have a husband problem. This was the easiest vote I have ever cast in AIBU.

I'm very confused. Was he doing the drop off and pick up in his nip? Were they snogging as the kids walked to the car?

What stood out for me is her demanding to know why he hadnt told her, like she was owed this. Sounds more than "neighbours chatting on the school run" to me even if only to her.

ETA the "care pack" is her pissing on your territory. That would be going in the bin, in a very obvious way where and when she is watching.

What a terrible reason to muck about with your child’s schooling which is essentially to avoid having an adult conversation with your DP.

I'm convinced this can't be real.

Nobody is this psycho surely.

If you think he's shagging the neighbour he certainly won't be doing it on the school run.

There's nothing odd about her comment. Any reasonable person would tell their neighbour the kids are changing school, especially if you normally car share.

I can only conclude that this is rage bait.

First post nails it.

If posters bothered to rtft, they'd know that the kids were fine with the move because they already know people at the new school, that OP is not making her own life harder because if it all goes tits up with the h, this new school allows OP to do the school run and has wraparound care, she did try to speak to the h, who was a complete fucking wet lettuce and has prioritised the neighbour, thus proving it's sensible for OP to organise her life so that she can get her kids to school and it wasn't just jealousy over a perfectly normal school run interaction - crazy bitch neighbour ignores OP and fawns over the h and has left her 'care package' in their car!
Personally I'd be inclined to shove her care package up husbands arse, so I think OP has been quite restrained in just moving schools.

The kids will be fine - moving to a school where they already know people is not akin to being sent down the mines. The way some posters put the boot in, largely without bothering to read OP's posts is shocking!

Definitely bonkers, but reading OP's updates she needs to deal with her dick of a DH.

You sound nuts 🥜, nowt like putting yourself first!

I trust him
No you don’t.
And this is where you need to start addressing issues.
You told him you were uncomfortable and asked him to stop and he carried on. He disregarded your feelings.

You sound extremely insecure in your marriage, that’s not your neighbours issue, it’s yours. Your poor child having to uproot schools because of you insecurity’s, madness.

This has to be a made up story by some attention seeking, bored woman.. surely.

I think you really need to get some help as this is not normal behaviour ! And as you think this is Normal and justified is even more worrying .

wtaf have I just read. You’ve moved your kids school for the second time in 2.5 years, for this. Moving schools is a big thing for a child. Honestly, you sound insane.