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AIBU to change schools over my husband helping a neighbour?

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Schoolchanging · 23/08/2026 11:46

Dh had always done school drop off and pick up due to my work hours and over the last 18 months I’d got increasingly irritated by him walking with or giving a lift to a neighbour whose child goes to the same school.

So I decided we would change dc to a different school a little further away and they are due to start there in a couple of weeks.

I didn’t want to spend time on discussions and boundaries and wanted to just eliminate the stress on our relationship. I told him I wasn’t comfortable that I’d asked him to stop and as he wasn’t I was changing schools to which he said ‘fine that’s your choice’. Dc are ok about it as we know people who go to the new school as well.

Neighbour has just spoken to us as we were leaving at the same time and she said to dh ‘back to the usual routine soon then!’ And I said ‘actually no, dc are going to be at a different school so all change for us !’ To which she turned to dh and said ‘why haven’t you told me this already?’ Which I found odd.

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MelonSorbet · 23/08/2026 11:50

Your poor kids if this is real!

Raptors · 23/08/2026 11:49

Surely no one is that insecure that they'd move their children to another school just so their dad didn't talk to a neighbor and their child ...

Flumposie3 · 23/08/2026 11:49

Massive over reaction to move schools.

rwalker · 23/08/2026 11:49

Your poor child being uprooted to another school
have a word with yourself

Cardhey · 23/08/2026 11:48

You are very bizarre… your poor kid

RoseField1 · 23/08/2026 11:48

Your poor children

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 23/08/2026 11:47

are you doing the school run now?
what if he talks to someone at the new school ?! 😱

feathermucker · 23/08/2026 11:47

Unless he has previous form for cheating/lying, this seems an extreme reaction.

what bothered you about the neighbour?

Atschjvkbgj · 23/08/2026 11:47

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