AIBU to change schools over my husband helping a neighbour?

No it's even more batshit than that. She trusts her husband but not this woman....no me neither.

Op you win. You are clearly even more nuts that "snapped and farted"

If this doesn't make classics it's an absolute shame.

Changing a child’s school is a massive upheaval and should only be considered if there is a genuine need. I cannot believe you’d move your child to a new school purely to avoid a difficult conversation.

Why the hell should he not talk to her, or walk to school with her, when they are just friends, just because the OP demands it?

If it were a man telling a woman who she could, or could not, walk to school with, there would be uproar on here and he would be called controlling. And if then then switched the children's schools because of it the woman would be told to get her ducks in a row and leave the abusive bastard.

No-one says he has to disregard her feelings but why does she get to tell him who he can, and cannot, talk to? Especially when, she admits herself, that there is no real reason for her to suspect any wrongdoing from either party.

MN is mental about men and women having friendships, or their partners daring to find another woman pleasant company.

OP claims to trust her partner so this, to me, is massively overreacting to something about nothing.

You sound like a bitch.

This is utter rubbish.

Men who are not able to talk to women tend to either be incels who can’t relate to the opposite sex or men with very rigid, faith-based morality who think any interaction with a woman other than your wife is a slippery slope to sex.

Neither is healthy.

Men who are able to talk to women without imagining themselves are more likely to think of women as human beings as opposed to sex objects.

Wow. I hope this isn’t real. I’d split up with you if I was your DH. You actions are scary

I dont think you are being unreasonable as such. This person is an issue and you are taking the scenario away. Your husband is being a limp lettuce though. If you have an issue with her, he should be able to address it and have respectful boundaries which, he has not. He has not put this woman in her lane.

The new school sounds better for you all anyway but if he oversteps in the future. What next? Sometimes it is just about that one person

Ypu need help op ! You are a massive 🚩🚩🚩🚩

Sorry you moved your children to a different school because you don’t trust your husband? That’s madness, you need to address the main issue rather than it affecting your children .

You changed your DC school because you didn't like your DH doing the school run with a neighbour?

That is one of the most bonkers things I've read on MN this year.

Sort out your DH problem and stop using your DC as pawns.

You are being ridiculous to move the children's school and ridiculous to think there’s anything wrong with her comment. If I normally walked to school with a neighbour, presumably chatting on the way, I would think it was very odd if I discovered they hadn’t told me they were moving their DC's school.

I think you have misunderstood the comments about you needing to move house. I read them as being sarcastic, not genuine suggestions!

Incidentally, does your DH not get a say in which school his children attend? You sound as if you made a big decision like that without even consulting him.

Clearly you don’t trust him. If you trusted him, this woman’s antics would be an irrelevance.

@ForRedPoet it's not impossible to start an affair from the school run. I think intuition exists for a reason - if OP was saying that she didn't want her dh to have any friends or hobbies outside of the marriage, I'd think she was controlling. But she's got a feeling about this particular woman, has asked her dh to distance himself and he's refused. So he's telling her that this contact is more important than it should be, more important than her discomfort. It's the thought process behind that which needs addressing. Obviously OP is worried enough to do something quite drastic. They need to address the root cause of this - clearly OP doesn't trust him and I wonder what the background to that is.

Very weird and controlling behaviour @Schoolchanging

@Schoolchanging
Going by the way I read your message
I think you picked up on something that couldve been subtly there going by the way she asked him about the changes
But
I think uprooting the kids to another school because of it is extreme
And as your husband seems a convivial sort of chap, you might find yourself in the same boat yet again........

Why was it a problem?
Your poor children 😞

This isn’t normal, OP.

Why should he?! He sees this woman literally walking to the school! With kids and other parents around! No great affair going on there.
Unless there is a massive drip feed coming, the OP sounds selfish and frankly unhinged.
Upheaving the children from friends and routine because she has some weird issue with someone she barely knows.
V v unreasonable.

I think it's weird that your husband wouldn't stop doing something that was upsetting you. He is the problem here - moving the kids' school kicks the can down the road, when what you need to address is why your husband wants to spend time with this woman and won't stop, even though she makes you feel uncomfortable. Something isn't right there - it's not like you were asking him to ditch a longstanding friend. She shouldn't be important enough for him to disregard your feelings on the matter.

@NullaEffugium a man who is genuinely willing to not speak to women and not also a misogynist, as usually the two go together.

That's just false. The most sexist men are those who talk to lots of women and try to have multiple partners, not the men who don't talk to people.

This cannot be real? Unless there’s a lot more going on here than the OP has explained, it’s seriously weird!

No, that's not enough. The whole family needs change their identity too. Perhaps plastic surgery as well as name changes.

In answer to your question @Schoolchanging

Hell yes, totally unreasonable.

that’s enough internet for me today….

I’d home school AND emigrate. Cant take any chances.