AIBU to think a 10pm bedtime and 6am start is relatively normal in your 40s?

Thats early to go to bed but everyone needs different amounts of sleep. Do whatever makes you feel best. We all have different body clocks.

It is nothing to do with his life or your previous work.
Some people are larks. You are. Some are owls.

Or, you have a preference to getting up early and going to bed early.
Unless you are from the Med. Who seem to be able to burn the candles at both ends and get up early and go to bed late. Perfectly with ease.

To clarify in my second paragraph when I say ‘you’, I don’t mean you personally.
But people generally. In case of confusion.

I am a night owl, and I’d never think your hours are normal! I can work until 3 am, but only get up at 6 am in a month of Sundays!

When DC were children, I had to get up at 7.30 am to get them to school; and I never took a job, which started before 9.30 am. For the last 16 years, I worked in DH’s office in London, where we did flexi time - mainly, we caught a train off peak after 9.30 am, stopped at Pret for a coffee and then worked from 11 am - 6.30 pm.

Now we are late 60s and only wfh part time. We have a cup of tea in bed at 8.30 am, read the newspapers on our tablets for an hour and get up at 9.30 am for breakfast. We go to bed 11 pm - midnight.

It’s bliss!

I think 11pm is more usual for adult bedtimes.

That is what the thread should be about

Why is this person taking up space in your head?

I get up at 6am on my work days because I start at 7am, still in bed now.

I don't see what age has go to do with it. Even when I was going to college or university, I used to get up by 6.30, as classes started early. Its not a matter of choice. Yeah, what time you sleep is personal. 10pm is pretty normal.

About half of Britons (48%) go to sleep from around 10pm to around 11pm, while one in eight (12%) go to bed at around 9.30pm or earlier. Just over one in four (27%) go to bed between around 11:30pm and around 12.30pm, while 11% of Britons turn in at around 1am or later.
Men are more likely than women to go to bed later at night: 43% of men go to bed from around 11:30pm onwards compared to 32% of women.
Younger Britons are the most likely to go to bed very late (at around 1am or later): 17% of 16-24 year olds say they do so, compared to 12% of those 25-39 and 8-9% of those aged 40 and above.

from YouGov but irrelevant as I don’t think that’s the issue with your ex

6am is when my alarm goes off on weekdays. That’s a perfectly normal time for an adult with a job and responsibilities. When I was wfh during covid it was perhaps an hour later.

Well I spent my career in corporates / professional jobs and never needed to get up at 6am, and that was living in many cities in many countries over the years. And I also couldn’t go to bed at 9:30 or 10pm. 10:30/11:00 was my norm. But everyone’s circumstances are different. Although in my peer group I can’t think of anyone who would have needed to get up at 6; whether they chose to or not I have no idea! I wouldn’t be spending much time worrying about what other do though.

I’m 42! Eyes shut at 10.30 and up at 6am every weekday! Always have a lie in til about 9am Saturday and Sunday!

Bedtime has to be based on getting up time to a point t least other wise it’s personal preference. We generally go to bed about 10 though not to sleep until after 11 out of choice, especially in winter as it’s cosy

Completely normal.

I'm bed at 10/10:30pm and up at 6/6:30am. Same at weekends. Been like this for years. Late thirties.

Yanbu, I'm the same, I try to be in work before 7:30 at the latest so find that I need enough time to properly sleep, then to get up have breakfast and get ready for the day. I usually wake up before the alarm goes off at 6 anyway.

I usually go to bed about 10:30/11 but I don't get up until 7/7:30 so that seems similar to you. Before I had DC though I'd stay up until midnight midnight most nights and get up around 8, get into work around 9:30 (fine in my industry) , but I had a lot more down time, come home from work make dinner then nothing to do other than go to the gym if I wanted. Now it's all ferrying around to clubs getting a ND child through the bath bed routine, making sure everything is ready for school etc, so although I go to bed earlier I get less relaxing time

I think a 10:30/11pm bedtime is more normal, 9:30 is very early.

But loads of people seem to get up on MNs at 5am to exercise which I would say is also not the norm.

It is normal, but why on God's green earth do you care what he thinks?

My H is a night owl but now, kids get us up before 6, we have work etc - so he's in bed by 11 these days! Totally normal.

Mid 40s.

I'm a teacher and get up at about 7am every morning in the school holidays! Work days at 6.30pm

I go to bed at 10pm then read.

Sounds normals.

In an ideal world, I would be early to bed and late to rise. So you’re both being unreasonable.

In the real world, unfortunately, it’s early to bed and early to rise. So YANBU, although staying up late doesn’t mean he’s living like a teenager.

Don’t listen to the skimmed milk lecture. It is terrible for you and is what is keeping people overweight.