AIBU to think a 10pm bedtime and 6am start is relatively normal in your 40s?

YANBU - I go up to bed at 8.45/9 asleep by 10/10.30 and get up between 5-6am and that’s by choice! I wfh 99% of the time! Love an early night, love an early morning!

Really? Interesting. I remember when I used to wake up at 6am. It was when I was in hospital for 5 weeks, then I kept on doing it for a couple of years. It felt horrible! So yeah, I did wake up early but not on purpose. Thankfully I broke the habit.
I kind of think if it's due to peri or illness etc then it's not really by choice!

In bed for 9:30pm up around 5:30am everyday. It suits my lifestyle and that golden sunshine with a coffee in hand is one of life’s joys. I have reached that point in my life where staying in bed feels like I’m wasting the day, it’s not for everyone but my life has improved so much since getting into this routine.

Sticking to a consistent schedule like you do is good for your health and your sleep.

He sounds like an irritating know it all who you're better off without.

100% disagree. My husband and I are polar opposites. He can go to bed at 9.30, get up at 4/5 am, be at work by 6 and home by 3. This means I could go to bed later, be up at 8 to do school drop off at 9, be at work at 10 and home between 6&7. No daily childcare required for out of school hours. Even during the baby stage when I was on mat leave, it worked perfectly. He’d go off to bed at 9.30, I’d stay up until the 12am feed, I’d go to bed and he’d be up at 4am to do the next shift, put the baby back down and I’d sleep until she woke between 8&9. I got a lie in at the weekends, he never had to do any of the middle of the night stuff. It was win win.

LOL I am in my 40s and me and all of my friends in their 40s are similar to the OP.

I dont know anyone going through peri menopause who is physically able to sleep in until 10am- all of us have found we are wide awake at 6am

That's fair enough. Each to their own. I guess I'm naturally drawn towards lazy people or night owls!

My hours at work are 830-5. Wish I could wake up 'no earlier than 8'.

I am 45 and I would hate that

I love waking up naturally at 5.30/6am…. Quiet coffee, quiet dog walk, gym is quiet. Lovely

Not remotely. I've never met anyone in their 40s who chooses to go to bed at 10 and wake at 6.

Everyone I know of all ages would probably wake up no earlier than 8am. But many would prefer 10-11am. With a later bedtime.

I go to bed at about 11 and wake up ideally at 10. But it's usually about 9.30. I wake up a lot and don't have good quality sleep. I feel tired a lot of the time!

I'm a night owl so keep much later hours, and WFH. So bedtime is 11.30pm and I get up at 7.15am to do the school run at 8.30. But I have had much earlier starts in my twenties, commuting to Canary Wharf from the Met line, so I got up at 6am. But there were no children or real responsibilities then, so my life wasn't restricted or dictated to by anyone else.

I've never been an early bird except for when I commuted. My DH is going to bed earlier these days as his blood pressure medication makes him tired, but luckily we don't have early bird children either. 🤣😐🤣

That’s pretty much what my colleagues do. I’m a night owl so usually asleep by 1am and up at 7.30am

I'm a late to bed by preference. But due to real life, am an early riser so have to be in bed for a reasonable time.

FAB if you have the luxury of not being in bed early. But I think most of us have to amend what we do to fit around work.

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I'm asleep by 10 at the latest as my work alarm is 5am during the week. Tbh 10.30/11 is my limit even on weekends as I cannot sleep past 6/6.30am anyway.

OH and I always get in bed super early - why would we sit on the sofa and watch tv when we can cuddle up in bed and watch the same stuff?

The fact you’re even thinking about him let alone agreeing about this 6 weeks later is not a great sign!

I am now in my early 50s but have been doing a 10pm ish bedtime for over 30 years. I get up at 6:45 normally (although that has slipped to 8am recently as I have a much shorter work commute - but I want to get it back to an early start and use that time productively). In fact, in my mid-20s, I was leaving the house at 6:30 daily, from mid-30s it was 07:30 departure but after also getting DD up and ready for the day, and I regularly have early meetings still that mean I need to be up at 6 (or stupidly early flights which can mean anything from 3am-5:30am starts).

Yep bed at 10 sleep by 11 and up at 6 leave for commute 7-40. Weekends up at bit later .

When I was working I used to go to bed around 11-12 pm and get up at 7 am. I regarded those times as pretty normal. Now in retirement I don't have any specific times to get up or go to bed. Today I was up til 4 am.

Some people go to bed earlier but they read or listen to podcasts or radio. Going to bed and going to sleep are two different things.

Congratulations on getting rid of the arrogant micromanaging prick!

I prefer 12-8 but I don't think that's any more or less right than 10-6.
I'd guess 11-7 is the most common schedule but I can't see how it matters!