AIBU to think a 10pm bedtime and 6am start is relatively normal in your 40s?

9.30/10pm is fairly early in my opinion, but in fairness 7 - 8 hours per night is recommended so that’s 10pm / 11pm latest if you wake at 6pm which isn’t far off

Sounds normal to me. I get up just before 7 and aim to be in bed before 11. Doesn’t always happen but 7 hours sleep is ideal

DH follows early to bed early to rise, he is your typical early bird.

I on the other hand am your nightowl. Struggle to sleep before midnight.

We work.

OP - you do whatever sleep schedule works for you! Your partner needs to be accepting it even if it doesnt match their own.

I can understand the frustration of being with a partner who insists on going to bed early as that could get quite boring, then being woken up early is also a pain. But if your work requires that what are you supposed to do about it?
I personally find getting up
at 6 exhausting. I go to bed around 11 and get up around 7.15.,

Yep, bed by 10 at the latest, up at 5.40 for the gym - maybe a little sleep in on the weekend until 6.15 when I wake up naturally (unfortunately)

'Normal'? Why this obsession with conformity? So be unusual, if it suits you! But your hours don't seem ALL that odd.

YABU to think that your wake/sleep pattern is ‘normal’. I know very few people who get up that early, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t if you want to.

Roughly 25% of the population are ‘larks’, who naturally prefer to get up early and go to bed early.

There is no ‘should’ or ‘normal’. It’s a personal preference.

Personally I wouldn’t like to date someone who needed to be in bed by 10pm on a Saturday night though.

Normal ... In Winter id go up get cosy and watch television in bed at 9pm sometimes earlier.summer time i sit outside when its nice until late .

Perimenopause is kicking my arse and has been for the last 5 years. I don’t sleep properly anyway and I have to be up at 6am for work. I’m in bed anywhere between 8:30pm and 9pm. DH starts work at 6 and he’s in bed just gone 9pm. I’m just done and wiped out by 7pm so struggle to get through until bedtime.

Initially it wasnt by choice but now I absolutely love it and 6am is my favourite part of the day- its so peaceful and quiet and I get a work out done. I wont ever go back to lying in - makes me feel groggy and gross now.

Night owl here too. However I wish I was an early bird as think they are usually more productive!

I do think this is quite a fundamental incompatibility actually.

I love a lie in until 10ish on the weekends, but on working days (bog standard 9-5 with a fairly short commute) I keep virtually the same hours as you. I don't get how you would be lying in past 8 most days if you have work!

I'm not sure I could sleep at 10pm tbh. Had an airport run at 4am recently so tried going to bed early as still awake. Usually sleep around midnight/ 12.30 and up by 7.

I'm 55

Neither of your options are correct.

I certainly don't want to go to bed at 10 and get up again 6 and it wouldn't work for me to be in a relationship with someone who did.

That doesn't make them a nun and it doesn't make me a teenager!

Perfectly normal. In fact I get up at 4-30 am and I’m on my feet all day. Normally 11 hour work days. I’m sometimes in bed by 8pm. I go to bed when I’m tired never by the time. Some days I need 8 hours sleep sometimes only 6. On the weekends I’m normally up by 7am

Sorry can you explain this? Why does skimmed milk keep people overweight?

Ignore your ex, he is gone and you are free to live how YOU want it’s your life.

Totally normal. He’s living the life of a teenager. Unattractive, although if he has no responsibilies it’s up to him I guess. How did he get to work on time if he didn’t get up before 7?

10 o'clock is bedtime! A hard line bedtime. I'm often in bed way before that as I'm very tired. 6am is also a normal start time on a weekday.

to get enough rest thats a good time, for me i usually push it till around 12/1am and up at 8am

Neither of you is wrong. Both of you are right for yourselves. I consider 11 am an early night, but I regret that on the days I have 6am gym class.

I feel like the odd one out, just turned 40 go to bed between 8.30 and 9pm! I get up around 5am to workout prior to my 9-5 job, im usually shattered by then

He’d hate my life. I go to bed at 1-2am and get up at 7 due to caring responsibilities. I look as tired as I feel. I dream of a 9.30-6am stretch.

I think it depends on what you do when you “go to bed” too actually. We don’t have a TV in our bedroom, so when I go to bed, I want the light out and to sleep - I don’t read in bed, and my phone goes in a docking station. My DP often goes to bed much earlier than me, but will potter around on his phone and still be awake when I come in, often with a cat needing evicted from my side.