Hi, So this may seem like a pathetic question but my mum has made me feel really awful today so I am looking for some external input.
DH and I are fairly young parents, we have 2 children, ages 4 and 2.
Ever since our eldest was born, we have protected time each week for us to stay fit and healthy, for DH this is Taekwondo, 2 times a week 8-9pm but it is in a different town so he leaves around 7:40 home around 9:20. Our youngest is almost always asleep by then, and DD is bathed, and just needs a story before sleep. I do Ballet 2 times a week too, 7:45-9, it's only a 5 minute drive away and I never linger if I can avoid it so DH isn't alone for too long, but most of the time I get home to both girls asleep.
My mum today said she thinks it's very selfish of us to spend £90 a month of our fairly limited income on this, when we could spend it on DDs or save it. We already own/have a mortgage, and DD1 does dance, ballet and swimming, DD2 baby ballet and gymtots. We manage one holiday a year, like a eurocamp type holiday.
Yes we get most clothes second hand, don't spend big on christmas etc, but I think this time is really important to DH and I, pre-kids we ran marathons together along side our individual hobbies, and I also think it is good for the girls to have active role models.
Other than this the only real spending on us, is I do lunch with friends once a month and DH has a pub night once a month with his friends.
AIBU to do this? Is it selfish? Should that money be going on nicer clothes/toys for our kids?