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hospital and other children are at home and partner hasn't offered to help

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dinosaursroars · 22/08/2026 21:57

currently in hospital with 11 year old ds and were probably going to be staying overnight

at home are my other children including my 7 month old with my eldest and his friend

my bf doesnt live with us he works shifts and is working g tonight but he knew before he started work and didnt tell them he couldnt go in or ask where baby was

im exhausted and have felt unwell myself for over a week and just exhausted so i may be just wrong for feeling like this but am I wrong to be annoying he didn't ask or offer to go to mine to look after the children or just help in sine way

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Silverbirchleaf · 22/08/2026 22:18

How long have you been with bf?

BloomingXmas · 22/08/2026 22:16

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TheWonderhorse · 22/08/2026 22:14

That sounds super stressful OP. Are DS and friend able to manage the baby overnight okay? If this is because you just need some support right now that's entirely justified too of course. Perhaps tell DP that you've told DS1 to phone him if he needs him? If he's NBU then he'll be fine with that and it'll be a weight off your mind.

Does he have the sort of job where he can at least keep in touch?

Floppyearedlab · 22/08/2026 22:14

Either your partner needs to take time off work to look after the baby or you need to go home and do it while DS rests overnight in hospital. Another child should not be minding a 7 month old baby overnight.

PollyBell · 22/08/2026 22:11

Whose kids are whose

Spooll · 22/08/2026 22:08

If your eldest is an older teen or adult and accustomed to babysitting for the baby, then everything is under control. BF isn't really needed and there isn't much he could actually do to help, although I'd expect him to be at least making sympathetic noises and keeping in touch.

RobertaFirmino · 22/08/2026 22:04

Well, it all depends really. Is he the father of any of your children? How long have you been together?

Minnie798 · 22/08/2026 22:04

Is your bf the babies father? If so, it's ridiculous that he has gone to work.
How old is eldest?

Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 22/08/2026 22:00

Wait so who is currently looking after the baby? And is the partner baby’s dad?

Credittocress · 22/08/2026 22:00

Are they his kids?

Fidgety31 · 22/08/2026 21:59

Why didn’t you leave the baby with him ?