I genuinely am at my wits end. And I’m prepare to be told I’m the unreasonable one. Me and ex don’t have a great relationship though we try to get along for ds. He sees ds fortnightly for a night, he doesn’t want more time. Not sure why. He doesn’t have other dc but has always been quite self involved.
Ds birthday is coming up and I asked him what he thought might be good to do (ds will be 6). As is usual, he didn’t offer any suggestions so I eventually asked him to keep a weekend free coming up. He agreed to this but then about five days later I realised it was half term and a few of DS’s friends wouldn’t be around as they’re on holiday. I told ex and suggested a different weekend, to which he said ‘why should I organise my shifts around people’s holidays.’ And ‘it’s clear I’m not the priority as to who is there, it’s about his friends’ availability not mine.’
I reminded him that this is several weeks away and im sure his work won’t mind if he requests this time off given it’s over 7 weeks away. He said I was being demanding and want things my own way. I explained this was for ds and nothing to do with my wants and needs and reminded him that I had done all the legwork in making enquiries as to venue and sorting invites and I will be doing party bags etc, meanwhile he doesn’t do anything so the least he could do is not give me a hard time about changing the weekend.
AIBU? I’m exhausted and feel like I can never win with him. I’d prefer people to be blunt though (hence posting in AIBU), if I’m the issue then I need to know. I’m trying my best for ds but don’t know if I’m too much or too demanding… I don’t know.