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Am I unreasonable to be upset by my neighbour's outside toilet noise?

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RockinRobyn98 · 22/08/2026 16:38

I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable about this because it’s starting to make me feel really uncomfortable in my own home it been a happening for years but last couple weeks got so much worse.

My neighbour has an outside toilet in his garden which is very close to our house as we both had passageway yards he also has a toilet upstairs in his house which I’ll mention again later.
He seems to use the outside toilet constantly throughout the day, sometimes literally every hour. The problem is that the toilet door is often left open while he’s using it, so we can hear everything.

He will be in there from as early as 6:30/7am making very loud noises, burping, farting, spitting/coughing etc anll throughout the day we once counted 27 times in a day of him making what I can only guess is belching noises? It’s like a very loud and deep “OI” we are guessing it’s a type of belch but who knows you hear him doing it all day and he seems to spend a lot of time out there with the door open to 💩 . It’s particularly bad first thing in the morning and has woke me up all this week I’ve had off work.

I’m finding the noise really unpleasant and sometimes they make me feel physically sick especially now I’m pregnant. I know he is obviously entitled to use his own toilet, but surely leaving the door open and making very loud bodily noises when it’s right next to neighbouring houses isn’t particularly considerate? I sat in the bath last night relaxing to his farts.. he does have a toilet upstairs and once in a conversation with him he mentioned how he sleeps in the living room as he can’t make it up the stairs (he’s late 60s) but I’ve often seen his upstairs lights come on so don’t believe this to be fully true.

It’s getting to the point where I dread hearing him go out there because I know what’s coming!
Would this bother you or am I being unreasonable? And is there anything I can actually do about it if it continues?

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Toodoloo · 22/08/2026 16:53

I'd just tell him to shut the door as you can hear everything. He might not realise.

RockinRobyn98 · 22/08/2026 16:51

UsernameHoarder · 22/08/2026 16:43

Does he know how much you can hear?

Who’s knows but I assume so it’s terraced houses and it’s probably 4/5 foot from his toilet door to my back door. Paper thin walls we can hear his television most days.

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Mycatisreal · 22/08/2026 16:44

Classy

UsernameHoarder · 22/08/2026 16:43

Does he know how much you can hear?

RockinRobyn98 · 22/08/2026 16:42

user1471538275 · 22/08/2026 16:39

where do you live?? This sounds very unusual for the uk

I live in a town in Norfolk.

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user1471538275 · 22/08/2026 16:39

where do you live?? This sounds very unusual for the uk