AIBU to insist my parents book a hotel for their visit?

At least read all OP's posts, then you would know the answer to this.

I agree, I can't believe these posts!

But why can’t the Op give uk her room for her parents?

never seemed to have occurred to her

Unfortunately, the parents don't feel the same way. Never mind a bridge, OP's parents refuse to even stay in OP 's spare room, because it's not good enough for them.

They have a clear choice. The spare room or a hotel. It's not down to the grandchildren to free up a 'better' room for them, to their own disadvantage.

She hasn't made "a confusing thread". As per usual, there are Mumsnetters not reading what she's written, writing their own narrative and suggesting solutions that have already been covered and discarded.

You're only 3hrs away & they don't want to stay for less than 2wks?

Bloody hell!

The “need” is your daughter need to study and your son needs his gf around?

why can’t you sleep in the spare room out of interest?

There’s a beautiful irony in that post 😆

how old are your folks Op?

RTFT.
And take a fucking chill pill.

OP, I really do understand parents stuck in their ways and how hard it is to get through to them without feeling rude

Mum was as bad. The storm of last winter ment we had no heating or electricity for 10 days. me and he, fully mobile so whilst uncomfortable , survivable. Mum was 85 , so I found an air bnb in an area where power was restored, would she go??

Worrying about her caused me more stress then anything those 10 days

Howabout a compromise for this one time? You as a family go down there and stay overnight in an Airbnb so your parents have plenty of time with DS before he heads for uni and then invite them for Christmas for 3 or 4 days? And perhaps a week at easter to go the sight seeing when the weather is better?

Set the amount of days mind. When we lived in London. we invited mum and Step dad for christmas - thinking Christmas Eve to day after Boxing Day. still there 2 days later, we were flying to visit his for new years, and we had to pack our case, get them to drop as at the airport on their way home and jumped on a train home ourselves

Oh for God's sake. The OP has explained that they are getting a new ensuite fitted, when the parents want to stay and it's a 7.30 start. The parents won't get up for that time. The DD is back at school and her room is set up for her to get ready/study etc in. The son has his GF staying. There is only room in the spare room, or they go to a hotel.

They sound like they’re in their 80s not their 60s!

@WalkBackwards : The spare rooms aren’t ready, so ideally we’d like you to come when they are. If you come now, you’ll have to stay in a hotel.

Parents: are there beds in your spare rooms?

@WalkBackwards: yes, but they’re very messy and being used for storage, which is why I have said you’ll need to wait or stay in a hotel. I guess you can stay in a guest room if you don’t mind roughing it a bit?

Parents: what about one of the teens staying there and we kip in their room?

@WalkBackwards : No, the rooms aren’t properly set up and that’s not fair to them. You can choose to be uncomfortable, if you like, but there’s no reason for them to be uncomfortable when you can just come later or stay in a hotel.

Agree the bedroom thing is a bit of red herring.

Your parents are insisting on visiting for two weeks at a really busy time, with work on the house, preparing for uni and both working full time.

you need to just say two weeks won't work but a few days will be fine

What's wrong with the spare room that means they can't sleep there? I find it so odd that they'd rather sleep in one of your DC's room!

YANBU btw

Yes! Yes! All people who don't respect boundaries, should go to hotels! Those who do not respect geographical boundaries, are already in hotels, and those who do not respect psychological boundaries, must go there too!

Hello, you are getting a really hard time here, I think most people are missing is that they want to come for two whole weeks. both sets of our parents are over age 70 and live 2 to 3 hours away and come for the weekend stay two nights and then leave. I wouldn’t want houseguests for more than a few nights. Two weeks is a lot. Three hours away is not a long journey, and if they don’t like driving they can get a train.

You could suggest this stay at yours for the first two nights and then have two or three nights in a hotel and then get themselves home. I presume you and your partner Work, and having houseguests is stressful whilst working.

It is quite an old fashioned idea to kick children out of their rooms when visitors come. It belongs to theera of children should be seen and not heard. When my kids were at home I did not have room for my mother to stay so she slept on a sofa bed downstairs. My mother did not approve and told me that when we were young we were expected to double up in our beds for visitors. I told her yes, I hated it and that is why my children would not be doing the same.

It sounds as though they are close and they want to see the new house and their grandson before he goes to university. That's understandable.
Are they struggling foe money? Can they afford a hotel?

Oh I’ve just read through properly, they either stay in the spare room or get a hotel. All sounds like hard work.

I think if you agree to the two week stay this will be the duration of future visits as well. Is that what you want OP ?

It has jumped up a lot from a day visit only
(when you lived closer) to a two week stay !

Why do your parents want to visit whilst you are having your ensuite replaced? Won't this mean six adults sharing one bathroom? Or are the rooms all ensuite? It seems the worst time to visit, for fussy people.

If your parents refuse to sleep in the spare room, what will happen another time? If they visit at Christmas your DC still will not want to vacate their rooms.