AIBU to insist my parents book a hotel for their visit?

I think your later posts have painted a very different picture from what you asked in your title and your opening post.

Like some others, I find it really bizarre to ask family to stay in a hotel or Air b'n'b when visiting.
BUT
I find the idea of going to stay with my dd and d-son-i-L for 2 weeks equally bizarre (if not travelling from other side of the world).
I do understand it makes sense to come before your ds goes to University. but not why it isn't a weekend or 3 or even 4 days.
I think your Mum was very wrong to ask the dc behind your back after you'd said no, even though I think (from your original information) it was strange of you to not let her visit.
I don't understand why she can't stay in your spare room though.

You are absolutely not being unreasonable!!

We moved last year and my parents came the weekend after we moved to help with anything we needed (unfortunately DIY is not hubby’s forté!)

It was never even a discussion - my mum and dad offered to stay at the Premier Inn over the road when they said they would come and help, I kept saying I felt awful but they insisted to make things easier for us!

We had a friend and her husband land on us for New Year just like this some years ago when we were half way through an enormous renovation - she said she'd rather stay with us than in an hotel though we said we weren't ready for guests.
She did nothing but moan the whole visit and threw every log on the living room fire when the temperature in the room was 25 degrees. She was sleeping in the warmest room in the house which had both central heating and underfloor heating, also running at 25 degrees. We've barely spoken since she left.
Tell them to book into an hotel.

Sadly you’re between a rock and hard place! Older people do get rather stuck in their ways and can make life tricky without realising it/ meaning to. Their lives once they retire become easier and they don’t remember the hard bits of working and having kids etc when they have all the time in the world. I’m sure we’ll all become the same when we get to their age.
Can you say to DS (as he hasn’t started uni yet so doesn’t need his room for studying) Fred, granny and grandpa are being a pain in the ass would you and GF mind sleeping in the shed/ spare room until the en suite is finished then granny and grandpa can have that room.

This is really unfair.

This isnt what the OP said at all. What she said was “Those 2 weeks arent great for us because the spare rooms are not ready yet. Why not delay your visit until they are or stay in a hotel to be more comfortable?”

OP’s parents then said “No! We wont book a hotel and it must be those weeks” so OP said “Well you can stay in the spare rooms but theyre a mess” and her parents said “No - your children need to give us their rooms.”

Whether you are a parent, child or non-family member, you dont get to call the shots like that when you are a guest in someone else’s home. Just imagine someone treating their parents like that. Courtesy and respect should still operate in families.

FFS. They have two choices.
A) They can come and rough it in the spare room.
B) They can hang on until you are ready and make their visit more of a comfortable holiday.

It doesn’t need to be more complicated than this

If they won't sleep in your spare room, why do they think it's ok for your kids to do so? Especially if they are studying.

Total rubbish! We are not in Victorian times. OP has explained why the children very reasonably need to be in their own rooms. Her parents do not need to come. We do not give in to seniority, especially if they are being unreasonable. We are all equal. I am quite senior!

I do know why this isn’t an option I was responding to another person who quoted me and said why wasn’t I suggesting the OP share their room so you obviously haven’t RTFT!!!!!

I was responding to another person who quoted me and said why wasn’t I suggesting the OP move out of their room!
Jesus wept!!!

This thread is ridiculous!! Everyone just needs to bloody compromise!! And that’s not just aimed at OP but at the parents too!! Such a lot of drama over a bloody visit!!

And your rudeness is shocking!! So we’re even Steven’s!!

Do you have a rudeness problem??
I don’t have a reading comprehension problem!!
It just seems as though no one involved is willing to compromise! No one is willing to move out of their room, book a hotel, get up early or do anything to make anyone else in the scenarios life easier!!

In my opinion you are being unreasonable. Your parents are the senior members of the family so absolutely the younger members should move out to the storage rooms while the elders visit. It is the right thing to do and if you don’t teach your children that then be ready for the lack of respect you will get when you are the senior family members. Good luck with your decision.

OP has said that the ensuite in her bedroom is being replaced during the time that her parents want to stay and the workmen start work at 7.30 am.

For someone so invested in this thread and so determined to put OP in the wrong, I'm not sure why you don't read all OP's posts before asking questions that she has already answered.

Yes I've read them all.

The OP was frustrated as people are focused on that her posts changed. Did you not see her post I quoted when I replied with her own words?

The thread started with her saying they couldn't not stay, not the parents refusing.

OP has said that they are in their 60s.

What’s the problem? Is it the money? 2 weeks in a hotel might cost £1400? I don’t blame you for not wanting them staying all that time, why does it have to be two weeks, are they abroad?

OP has said that is having a new ensuite bathroom being fitted in her bedroom so workmen will be there during the day.

Did you not read any of the OP's other posts?

I suggested my parents that they sleep in the spare room but they didn’t want to

We are willing to let them sleep in the spare room but they won’t

We have said they can sleep in there and we will sort it out enough for them to do so

I'm sorry, but your parents are being very selfish.

You've offered them the spare room, but they refuse. That is their choice.

To go behind your backs and directly message your children asking them to give up their rooms for two weeks shows a serious lack of boundaries, especially as you had already told them no.

Your parents are only thinking of they want. It's important to stand firm and protect what your children want.

Since they don't want the spare room that is available, or to wait until your new house is better fit for guests, then they can stay in a hotel or stay home.

Your reading comprehension skills are shocking @Loulou4022

Do you have a severe reading comprehension problem?

I'll spell it out for you in the smallest words and shortest sentences possible:

The ensuite to OP's bedroom is being ripped out.
A new one will be fitted during the period her DP want to visit.

Work will start at 7.30am every morning

DP do not want to have to get up and out of the bedroom by 7.30am.

So DP do not want to sleep in OP's bedroom.

HTH.

You can ask for a discount, which the host may or may not agree to.

I agree that the timing of the visit for two weeks is awful.
You have work, your daughter needs to get stuck in with her A levels, your son wants to enjoy his last days at home and needs to sort himself and his stuff out before he goes to university. That’s besides all the workmen around.
How much do the parents want to see of their grandchildren?
I would suggest they have just a couple of days nearby to see you all and wish your son well, then come for a proper stay with you when your house is straight. Anything else is excessively inconvenient.

Im glad you've found a way through it OP.

I was going to say that time speeds up when you are preparing for a uni departure and each of your family unit will want time with him. He will have all kinds of social stuff planned with all his mates saying goodbye to each other .. and then there's the sourcing all the bits and bobs for his digs..

Make sure you have a bit of one and one time with him. Its a big change in the family dynamics and your DD will feel it too.. that's probably when it would be more useful to have the GPs around.

But it won't be long before he's back for Christmas. Wishing him all the best