To have yelled like absolute hell at my five year old

The joys of being a parent.

YABVU. A five year old being a five year old does not deserve verbal abuse. I hope you’ve apologised.

I think we need to bring back shouting at kids

It's that stage of the summer holidays, it's been hot and tiring and everyone's tempers are getting frayed. So long as you're not yelling all the time - not nice for the kids and also loses its effect - YANBU.

If he was jumping on the sofa, then no, of course you weren’t being unreasonable. If an apology is needed from anyone, it’s from your son - at five he’s perfectly old enough to know thst it’s not acceptable to jump on furniture

Ditto. Shouted at mine a lot, they are all now in their thirties and show no sign of having been harmed by it at all.

They were a right lot of little buggers and if I hadn't yelled now and again I doubt I would still have a house.

Look, small kids know how to push boundaries and press our buttons. Never in the history of the world would anyone have thought it was wrong to shout at a small child who wasn’t behaving. In past he’d have got a smack as well.
As long as you are clear and consistent, that is what matters. If he’s allowed to run wild most days but one day you yell at him, that’s confusing. Set clear boundaries and stick to them.

I’m so glad parents were allowed to shout when mine were little - even in public!

It won’t do him any harm at all. Stick Bluey on and have a chocolate/gin/fag break..

I don’t think shouting is ever great (it can literally rewire their brains if it happens a lot) but also hate the mumsnet shaming of women who are clearly at the end of their tethers.

Saying that, my kid is autistic and would never ask me to look at something they are doing, and can’t talk. So without wanting to be a dick about it, I’d be trying to practice gratitude in your situation.

Doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to be frustrated, but try and keep some perspective. Life isn’t as hard as all that.

Re the shouting, sounds like you need a break!

There could be an underlying reason for his hyperactivity if it has been going on since he was born but some children just need to be ‘trained’ to be calm rather than pick it up instinctively.

Does he have lots of drawing, crafting, reading, puzzles, board games and things to get on with? Once it’s time to be calm DC knows it’s either playing nicely with toys or sat doing a quiet activity like these, running and jumping around is for outside.

Sometimes parenting is hard, as long as you apologise and explain his behaviour made you frustrated you aren’t unreasonable to have shouted and it teaches him that adults have to manage their feelings too. It’s just when it’s a pattern of shouting that it becomes a problem because they won’t listen until you get cross.

Honestly it's been a long summer and it's OK to lose your cool sometimes. I know MN doesn't allow it and I'm not "normalising" shouting at children but it happens.
You're worrying about it which shows you care. 5 year olds are relentless, ungrateful beasts sometimes! It doesn't matter how many things you plan/ trips out you have/ money you spend, it's exhausting keeping them entertained and engaged and it's OK x

Can your 5 year old occupy himself at home? You sound like you are putting yourself under pressure to entertain and provide activities.
Is he generally very energetic and is there space outdoors at home to play?

At 5, if typically developing, he should know not to jump on and off furniture.
If there are clear rules and boundaries and positive rewards in place there should be no need for shouting. By then you’ve lost control and there’s no benefit to anyone.
I know it’s exhausting but nearly the end of the holidays.

With the repetitive questioning you can set a limit e.g.same one twice then ignore or say told you. If about when where etc use a visual family calendar with plans to direct him to. You can use planned ignoring for some low level behaviour but obviously not jumping on furniture.

I know it’s hard, but who’s won that you’ve yelled at him, and now you’re here cos you’re not sure how you feel.

whst did he have for lunch because you said that’s when the problem started.