AIBU to feel fed up with my husband on holiday?

OP sounds like because you don’t like him you’re being a bit sharp. All you list are very minor issues. It’s not fair to nitpick just because they do your head in. He probably feels he can’t do right by you, then overcompensates which in turn does your head in more. Be kind but leave if he’s not the one for you.

Why are you with someone you do not like? Why marry someone and reproduce knowing he needed copious amounts of sleep and can’t even get himself up?? You’re mothering him, stop. It’s just making you more resentful.

I like my husband so I don't have this issue although he does irritate me sometimes, that's normal. Clearly you have bigger issues and this holiday has brought them to the fore.

I don’t think OP is planning on being with DH for next years holiday!!

@Itsa10fromLen how long have you been married? How long/well did you know him before marriage?

Are the DC yours/his/joint?

You sound like you are completely over this relationship and should be making plans to separate.

Tell him your booking a holiday in the Artic for next year just for him so he's not hot

Bloody hell just divorce him already.

If my husband were sleeping (not simply lying in bed on his phone) 10+ hours a day, I’d think he was either exhausted or ill and be pleased he was able catch up on rest. I wouldn’t be calling him lazy. But I love him.

You have no right to dictate how much sleep he gets. Maybe he's tired, having worked the rest of the year.
It seems there are other problems though.
Going on about being hot does sound annoying - tell him to buy a fan (if it isn't obvious). And dress sensibly, if he hasn't realised.
Maybe think of a separate holiday you could do.

I envy your husband 😂 I wish I could go to sleep for 10h when I am on holidays. Both me & my partner we are always up at 6am to catch the sunrise and back after sunset and dragging 3 kids along haha Noone forces as to do so we always want to do things but i secretly admire people that they dont have the fear of missing out and just sleep 😂

A week or so ago you weren’t married and it was your house. If you aren’t happy, kick the fucker out!

I doubt him catching up on some rest would matter if you liked him.

Just see it as more time without him? Get up, head out for a coffee or something to eat and come back for the kids later / leave a note telling him to bring them to X.

How long have you been together? Surely you knew what he was like before you went on holiday, unless it's a new relationship?! I think once you dislike someone this much there is no going back from it. If you love someone but they just irritate you a bit then you can tell them and not spend your whole time seething. I'm single thank God so I don't have to deal with any of this lol

Don't forget the snoring and farting.

Imagine your DH wishing you dead because you dared to have a lie in on holiday 😕

Can I be honest here? In any marriage or long term partnership we all get on each others nerves from time to time. It’s normal - even if you got stuck on an island with the world’s bestest husband (as voted by all womankind) chances are you, and all the rest of us, would get pissed off with him and want to shove him onto the nearest rescue boat (or just the sea) sooner or later 🙂.

There might be more to it but it sounds to me like you’re fed up, it can be tricky on holiday and things are getting on your nerves at the moment. I know I do things that annoy my DH and vice versa. There are very definite times of the month more so, when it feels like he’s trying to be annoying (goes on both sides though when hormones slump!) It does pass though (unless this is crossing over to it’s finished and I want to leave territory?). There’s a reason best friends and best partners fall out, even when it’s a wonderful match, people be people. I feel it’s true that the people we love and value most in the world are also the ones that can piss us off the most. More often for me atm thanks to peri 🙃

I think holidays can be a bit like Christmas in that you are in close contact with your family for an extended period of time without the release of day to day life such as going to work, socialising with the others etc. in can bring into focus any issues that are within a relationship that m, day to day, can be overlooked. I agree it’s madness to spend so much money on a holiday you’re not enjoying. Moving forwards either have a conversation about what you both want from a holiday and if it’s deeper than that, what you want from your relationship!

Go out for a walk and a coffee whilst the kids and husband sleep… burn off some of your angst 🤣

Unless there's a specific plan that requires a departure I would leave everyone to it, including my husband. Normally, while on holiday, we decide the evening before what we are doing. The maximum that would happen at the start of the holiday would be I would say if you want breakfast you'll need to be down by . If there was any moaning there would be a question "what do you want to do about that tomorrow?" Or if it's because they are hungry "you can get some food from" . If it's constant I just raise my eyebrows!

You wish him dead - fucking hell why don’t you just leave him then?! You’re being ridiculous - just leave him instead of wishing he was dead you weirdo. Your poor kids.

What time does he normally get up for work at home? Could he be exhausted with the heat?

Let him.

If he’s angry and upset it’s on him. Just arrange your day your way.

Also he may have a condition that makes him tired, maybe he should see a doctor.

Another wind up. So many these days.
The weather's nice. Go for a walk!

It's his holiday too!

People sleep when they need it.

If someone was trying to wake me up early on my holiday, it would do my head in.

Holidays are meant to be relaxing!

Your level of contempt for him is something he can't be unaware of. I'd sleep too to avoid you.

You weren't catfished, he just isn't the same man you met 20 years ago.

People change.
You can choose to stay or leave.

I would carry on with my holiday like he is not their

Ah now we see it! Were you expecting everyone to agree?

because tbh I love sleeping in (and staying Up late) on holiday. I even love a siesta too. Am I lazy? No!! I get up early every week day, I work hard, I exercise hard, I play hard.

so on holiday I like to sleep and laze and generally slob around.

I don’t care if that offends you. If you’ve found someone that thinks you aren’t crazy for not sleeping that long on holiday every night, hang onto them because it’s perfectly sensible.

The reason the sleeping is pissing you off is because you don’t like him. Not the other way round.