AIBU to feel fed up with my husband on holiday?

But you said the kids are asleep! So it doesn't matter that hes on holiday with small kids and asleep if they are too.

You think laying in is lazy. He doesn't

Although its funny you say hes lazy but you must also be asleep as you are moaning his alarm is waking you up?

Make small changes to make the rest of if the holiday tolerable for yourself...

Make it clear that tomorrow you wont be waking him, so if he doesn't get up, he misses breakfast.

If his alarm is genuinely waking you and you don't want to get up, tell him not to set his as he doesn't wake anyway and set your own for whatever time you want

Suggest you each get some time to yourself, whether that be a morning or afternoon and the other plays with the kids.

Stop doing things that annoy you like looking for his lost things, you aren't doing it because you want to or from a place of care, its just irritating you so stop doing in.

And maybe relax some of your ideas. There isn't a problem if he wants to lie in until the kids are awake, why be up before he needs to just because you decide laying in is lazy, but he needs to accept that he may miss breakfast if he does that.

If you still can't stand the bloke, take steps to end things when you get home

Totally agree with you. Holidays with kids are mainly about them having a great time, IMO. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy holidays with my son, but holidays with him are definitely less relaxing than pre-kids holidays 😂

He sounds infuriating, you said earlier you've realised you don't actually like him, so maybe this will be the push you need to leave?

Again, if you posted about DH sleeping in and leaving you to do all the childcare whilst on holiday, we’d all be supporting you. That’s not what you posted.

The children were still asleep at the time, you were apparently just disgusted that he needed more sleep than you deem appropriate.

That made me laugh!

He’s literally setting an alarm that is waking only me! He wants to go for breakfast but he also can’t come round in the morning which is infuriating.

If that was the focus of your post, you’d have very different responses. It wasn’t, though. You were frothing about him having the audacity to sleep 10 hours.

Well, aren’t you the sweetest, kindest person, @Scotlandc.

I don't think that's the problem. OP doesn't like him. If she didn't love him but liked him that would work, but if you don't like someone that's a total ick.

Is this your first holiday together? Is he like this at home?
I think some people need a holiday to catch up on lost sleep if they have been working hard.
However I would turn off his alarm and go to breakfast on my own. No need to do everything together on holiday.

😂 love this answer! Problem solved!

You have no idea how much this resonates. My husband is a low-energy, needs lots of sleep person. I'm the opposite. We are currently on a city break and I've decided to consult with a divorce attorney when we get back. His passivity, neediness and general "I don't mind, what do you want to do?" is making me murderous. No advice but lots of solidarity.

But the children are not up? A couple of times on our recent holiday I woke before DH and DS, I either sat on the patio and read my book or went for a swim (swim up room), and my husband is neither fat nor lazy. I slept 9 hours last night, because ds is with grandparents and DH was out for the night, it was gloriously refreshing. You sound very rude and judgemental.
The alarm going off would surely only be a problem if it woke you but you stated you are already up and at the gym, so what's the issue?

Venting is one thing, viciousness is quite another.

My DH can piss me off but I'd never tell the world he's a fat lazy loser I'd like to murder.

Let him miss breakfast every morning- especially since he's fat he doesn't need it. Turn his alarm off before going to bed.

If you love a person you see more than fat. I have a fat family member and I would not say she's unattractive. She gets lot of attention from men as well because she's pretty and they don't seem to mind her kilos.

No, I don't think they are lazy per se. They have an eating disorder that makes their bodies heavy and therefore suffer in heatwaves and have mobility problems. One could argue that people with anorexia are lazy as well as they are too frail and exhausted to do much.

How long have you known him?

Is he the father of the kids?

Why don't you just get dressed and piss off for the day and leave him n the kids to it?

It really sounds like you met him last week...

Funny how at school it was always the ‘popular’ girls who were the bitchy bullies.

Sensing a pattern here.