AIBU to feel fed up with my husband on holiday?

OP you can call it a dark sense of humour - but I'm willing to bet in real life you're a bit of a bully...

If it's 40 C, you should have gone out on your own before he woke up.
You are not joined at the hip.

So you’ve gone somewhere where it’s too hot to do anything after dawn with someone you clearly despise but can only be bothered to complain about it rather than take any positive actions. Mind you, at home you spend the week seeing people you don’t want to see and just carry on who going about that as well.

You can’t be that old if you have young children (but I think you also have adult children). And I doubt you’re actually that popular given the way you post on here.

You can carry on being the modern day Sisyphus if you like of course…….. or you can woman up and sort your life out.

It’s not though, because it’s far less hassle for you to do something about it than if you were married.

What makes you think he was maintaining a lie for 20 years? Do you think that maybe he is just going though a normal process of ageing?
20 years ago I would have told you I was a party girl. Was it a lie? Not a bit. At 43 years old I am categorically not a party person. Not even close. Doesn't mean I would be lying to you at 23. People change, their needs change, their interests change, their energy levels, health and capacity change. If you can't accept this simple fact, you are really going to struggle in life.

I would turn off the alarm as it clearly doesn't wake him up. Don't try waking him up for brekky. He is an adult. Do your own thing. Tell the kids to wake him when they get up and leave them to sort themselves out.

And when you get home. I'd be re-evaluating the marriage. Do you really wet to spend the rest of your life with someone you seem to despise? His sleeping 10 hours a night is really not the issue here. Although I love a good sleep in ….

I can't believe an adult wrote, "I'm actually very popular." 😂

It isn't lazy to sleep for 10 hours if you need that amount of sleep. If you're on holiday, why not sleep as long as you like, especially if you need to be up early for work most days? Is that the case for your husband?

But you've been quite upfront about not liking him. Are you planning on a divorce in the near future? I hope so, for his and the children's sake.

You sound awful. I am sleeping in until 9am every morning. My kids are asleep. My husband gets up and his alarm goes off at 815. I think hes selfish for waking me up. But he gets up.

I work my arse off at home and so do my kids, enough stress at home holidays are generally about relaxing.

Why did you come away with someone you clearly dislike

Complaining about the heat when it's 40 degrees is reasonable. I'm a heat lover and I certainly commented negatively during this year's heatwave.

Sleeping in til 9.30 on holiday is completely normal. If your kids are also still asleep then why is it even an issue? I wake before 7am naturally (not proud, often quite annoyed by this) and I just potter around or go for a run or read a book until other people wake up.

Some would think you lazy to still be asleep at 8am... Different people, different opinions.

Let him sleep till the kids wake up and you crack on with your morning in future.

The only selfish one is you. Jesus let the man sleep. You sound absolutely awful calling your partner fat and lazy. Go on holiday by yourself

Now who’s lazy!?! 😂😂😂

I'd just stop now OP. Each update makes you sound more and more unpleasant. Just divorce the guy and stop wanging on. You very obviously hate him, in addition to pretty much everyone who has commented. Although I am absolutely certain we'd love you to bits in real life (not).

Your poor kids.

I’ll bet you’re one of those people who boasts that you ‘tell it like it is’, aren’t you?

No matter how hard you try you are just coming over as unpleasant here, whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation.

I don’t know how long ago you started hating your husband (please don’t say ‘hubby’, it’s cringeworthy) but every day you’ve stayed after that is a betrayal. Tell him how much you hate him, leave the relationship. Even if it’s not the optimal time for you. You like honesty so much, it’s time to start practicing it a bit more.

Honestly this would drive me mad. Just been away for a week with friends. Me and DH were up early every day and got our kids out for mountain hikes. Friends didnt get up and out til hours later. That works for both our families but I couldn't be married to someone who lazed around for that long (unless health reasons)
You sound incompatible. And you dont seem to like him. I'd be looking to separate

Why are so many people with partners they don't like or who don't like them? As far as sleeping 10 hours - maybe he has an underlying health condition or maybe he has a tiring job or maybe he has decided he wants to lie in on holiday. Whatever - communicate with the man OP, tell him to get himself up in time for breakfast, tell him you know what he ate, tell him everybody's hot, if things don't improve then figure out whether you want to stay married or not.

It really sounds like you should break up.

I love sleeping and I don't get enough sleep in term time (I'm on about 4.5 to 5 hours a night then...). My kids were just on holiday with their dad for 10 days and I'm off work. I went out once for the day to scatter my mum's ashes and other than that basically read and slept the whole time, other than a stroll each evening. At least 9/10 hours at night and a nap in the day (2 naps some days!). My DP didn't give a shit, despite me definitely being lazy. Incredibly lazy really. We're well suited - he's disabled and needs a lot of rest anyway and is rarely up to a proper day out. I work and care for him and the kids, but ANY time my kids are with their dad and I'm not working I'm basically asleep or lounging around the house. I firmly feel there's absolutely nothing wrong with doing absolutely fuck all! I like time in my head, not time doing things.

You'd obviously hate being in a relationship with either me or DP. You need someone busy and active and he needs someone butt lazy in their down time. There's nothing wrong with accepting a relationship is just not well suited and ending it. My exH and I were appallingly badly suited, but only really noticed a year or so after we married... We work well as friends and co-parents but explosively and vindictively as a relationship. It sounds like you've reached the end of the road.