AIBU to feel fed up with my husband on holiday?

i recommend not going on holiday with someone you don’t like

YABVU. Sleep is incredibly important; if he’s sleeping then his body needs it. It isn’t laziness.

You don’t need to get him up for breakfast. If he’s upset then so be it, he’s upset.

But blimey, the kids aren’t even awake yet. Do you realise how horrible you sound?

Sounds likely.

As you like to be busy and have internet access, you could use the time he is sleeping in the morning to find your divorce lawyer, compile a list of all joint and separate financial accounts and policy numbers, apply for a mortgage if you will be buying him out of your home or finding alternative homes for you both. Wouldn't that be more productive and satisfying than grumbling on MN?

Now he's fat too?

You're a fucking peach, aren't you?

Why aren’t you ranting about your children then who were also asleep?
Its actually your pov that’s crazy, you’re absolutely in the minority for being so over the top enraged about someone sleeping for 10 hours on holiday.

Maybe he's staying in bed just to avoid you? I would.

I don't think his behaviours are awful, I think you just don't like him anymore. Holidays are very intense when you decide your companion is too annoying - stop focusing on the behaviours that are irritating you and decide what you want to do with your life going forward.

If you don’t like him, you won’t like any of his behaviours either , at home or on holiday. I assume the close proximity of the holiday is making it a lot more obvious. Time to reassess your relationship.

"I don’t like him, being this close has made that more obvious 😭"

Probably shouldn't have married him then...

LTB (just for the day) and go and do something fun

it’s hard to find a man attractive that needs 10 hours sleep every night

That is one of the strangest things I’ve ever read.

Sounds like a you problem. I guess your kids are "lazy" as well as they are also not awake...
People need different amounts of sleep. 10h a day won't be unusual for me. And I am categorically not lazy - I have full time job, running a small business on top of it and also have a diverse set of interests and hobbies. I am out and about all day and if my partner told me I was lazy just because I need more sleep than average (which was the case for me my entire life) I don't think I'd like him very much either.

Some people sleep longer than others, I am that 9/10hrs sleep a night,(when I am not working) you may think it is lazy, no problem with that.

If he misses breakfast, that is on him. He has two choices if self catering he can cook himself something and tidy up the areas after eating.

If food is supplied by hotel, he will either have to wait till lunch or get something from the snack bar.

From reading the op there are more deep rooted situations to be looked at

If you don’t like him you might as well divorce him.

So the kids are allowed to sleep in but he's not.

10 hrs - well you know

id be annoyed if he stayed up till 2 and then didn’t get up till 12 because I like to get going by lunch but we would communicate

Yes but that one is a you problem.

He is also an adult and gets to decide how much sleep he has.

If he doesn’t wake up for breakfast then that’s not a you problem and i wouldn’t allow him to make it so. I’d take a book and go and eat alone if the kids were also still asleep.

I think the biggest issue is you don’t like him. So you’ve decided to judge perfectly acceptable decisions to justify that.

Well you admit you don't like him. Therefore everything he says and does is irritating you. Not entirely the guys fault here that you dislike him. Does he know this?

Do some things on your own? Why do you have to get up together and do everything together anyway? Especially if you don't even like him.

That way you will stop stressing and focusing on all the negatives about him and maybe even enjoy yourself a bit.

Once home I think you need to be honest with him in how you feel about him as he must feel he can't do anything right by you.

Then you can make the decision to split, which surely must be your only option, if you dislike the man you are married to.

In a jokey way, think gavin and Stacey, I always tell my husband he’s boring me if he starts to repeat himself about something totally boring. You don’t sound like you want to joke though so you really need to do something about it. Life is too short to be lumbered with someone you tolerate. I adore my dh and the best part of my day, any day, is being with him. You need that.

Isn’t being lazy part of being on holiday ? I am
just heading home from 2 lazy weeks - I’m back at work Monday, and need to be up every morning for that, so holiday lie-in’s are great.

Luckily DH is on the same page

I would be very irritated if my holiday lie ins were being monitored and deemed "lazy".

Tell him you are going for breakfast at 9 or whatever. If he moans about missing breakfast just tell him to give it a rest, if he wants breakfast with you he needs to get up in time.