AIBU to get sick of DH strop

What makes you say that? Do you know him?

'Deep down I know my Dd and DH really do appreciate it.'

Really? Because I think your DH is a spoilt child who needs to grow up and appreciate the world doesn't revolve around him.

I doubt that this man would be happy to do the supporting role and then soend the day in his own getting bored.

@Fizzyrosie ive been where you are now.
You organise yourself so that your dc has a great time and it means you carry all the ‘mum’s duties’ and then you’re left to wait having nothing to do but all the responsibility to sort everything out for others.
Even down to not raking that many/enough clothes because ‘they’ needed space for their stuff.

By experience, no one is going to thank you for the work you’re doing.
And no one is going to remember you were there either
Because all the focus is on ‘The Walk’.

I would leave your dh sulk.

Then have a word with your dh and remind him of all the stuff you did for him whilst you were the waiting on your own for most of the hols. And that a bit of appreciation would have been good.

I would also refuse to go away with them on a walking hols again.
Let them go together. Let your dh do all the organisation, food shopping etc…
And then you’re left to go away on your own with your dd to do something you’ll both enjoy. And your dh can look after the dog.

I think you are in quite a different income bracket to the majority of the population.

No, next time it can be you doing something with your daughter and him running about supporting you !

How far did they walk each day/in total and on what sort of terrain?

Leave them to it next time.

No need for him to behave like a petulant child when OP has bent over backwards for them.

Why is a spa day always the solution to everything…

Move on let it go but next time be more organised.

He’s tired and hungry - it was a silly mistake though to get the time wrong

Lots of posters telling the OP that she should have found a launderette, a nice spa, a gym, etc, etc. In my experience, these places tend to be a bit rare along most of the long distance walk routes that are of the type described by the OP.

Sounds to me that if OP hadn't met them with the support vehicle each day, her husband and daughter would have had to carry a tent, sleeping bags, clothes, water and all their food for the week. I guess her husband was tired and hungry, and possibly had his own expectations which weren't met, but he'd have had it a damn sight harder if his wife hadn't given up a week off holiday to run about after him.

The whole thing sounds quite miserable. I guess your husband's stroppiness was a bit much but hunger and tiredness can do that to someone. Your daughter and husband could have also been more attentive about the reservation time. It's not entirely your fault and you should let them know that. Perhaps in future you should not be accompanying them on such trips. They can get it organised through a travel agent.

How could she do a bloody spa day with a bloody dog in tow? 🤔

Sounds like a completely shit “holiday” for you, OP. I would be miserable and resentful too. Tell him to get a fucking grip and do all the donkey work himself next time. He’s the one who wanted to do a massive walk.

Probably because she'd rather spend a fiver and five minutes on supermarket knickers than spend the same on a laundrette and have sit there for hours.

She was already running around after the walkers doing all the camping chores, I think she can allow herself the luxury of a packet of knickers.

FFS at all the references to the op's "job" being to support her husband and daughter. And all the criticism about how she could have done it better/had a better time herself 🤯 Although amusing to see the legendary spa day trope being wheeled out again 🤣

She's his partner and it's her holiday too, a bit of fucking gratitude wouldn't go amiss! @Fizzyrosie I hope his attitude has improved this morning and you have actually received some thanks for everything you've done to support them. I'd lose my shit if not!

I think he is stroppy because he is tired, was likely spending the walk keeping an eye on the teen and possibly realising that he isn’t as young and fit as he used to be.

I hope this is chat gpt, otherwise what an odd post.

Yes it’s an irritating mistake but it’s not the end of the world. Mistakes happen and you’ve done your best to arrange and support a good trip, which was a kind thing to do. You’ve apologised and tried to make-good; what else could you do?

I’d be telling him to snap out of it and if he doesn’t I’d be buggering off to a spa hotel by myself (or maybe with dd).

Why not find a launderette on one of those days you're hanging around?

Then he can sort himself out in future or pay for the support. The only word he should be using right now is thank you.

I think you’re both probably knackered for different reasons, he was disappointed about dinner and didn’t manage that very well and you’re annoyed that it’s come off as not being appreciated.

You need to apologise for cocking up the booking, he needs to apologise for being a mardy twat, you both need to probably have a big hug and say well done/thank you as appropriate and agree to start over again tomorrow and have a second celebratory arrival dinner.

Mistakes happen and people react badly when they’re tired/hungry/haven’t processed what’s going on, it’s how you communicate afterwards and resolve it that matters.

I have done long walks like this.

you really do need food at the end of it.

it’s not really like a normal holiday where there’s time to amble around and look at a few restaurants and decide where you want to eat.

yes, you have done a lot to support both your dh and your dd but in all honesty I’ve been in similar situations (no food at the end of a long day walking and I just burst into tears),

obviously ideally he wouldn’t strip but there is a reason hangry is a thing,

Yes I agree. This is a VERY selfish type of holiday if it requires the other family member to support like this. Where's their holiday?!