AIBU to get sick of DH strop

What are you talking about? It's not a case of her not enjoying "that type of holiday" anymore, it was a specific trip to allow dh and dd to do a particular long distance walk like Lands End to John O Groats or similar.

She was acting as their support crew so they didn't have to carry all their shit with them. It wasn't like a normal camping holiday at all. 🙄

I agree with this. Ungrateful twat.

It’s like MN bingo on these threads to see how quickly someone says ‘cut some slack’. Honestly, other expressions are available

That was the plan, they were going hiking. They own a camper van and have a dog, none of this would have come as a surprise. If the OP isn't enjoying that type of holiday anymore, she can say that she doesn't want to go, next time.

Oh come off it, it's like she's been on a campervan trip on her own, except she's been picking up after her dh and dd and doing all the donkey work to enable their trek, and no choice of destination. It's not exactly a relaxing holiday.

I'm failing to see what's been so hard about your sit off in a camper van, with a occasional dog walk, that you couldn't double check the time and put it in your phone. If this was the other way round, Mum and DD walk, you'd be getting told that he wanted to burst your bubble etc. Describing yourself as a sherpa is ridiculous. You have a camper van, so what's it's like to holiday in one, can't have come as a surprise.

You are a people pleaser and he feels very comfortable using you as his emotional punching bag clearly.

Your daughter is watching this.
Is this the future you want for her?

She is highly likely to end up with a selfish spoiled arse, just like your husband.

You cannot change him, but you can change you, and take responsibility for your people pleasing that is giving him the clear message that he can treat you like this.

You are behaving as is you have neither self esteem nor self respect.

This is not good for your daughter to witness.

Have a good long think about how you allow yourself to be treated and stop it.

Bending yourself out of shape for a selfish spoiled man child is utterly thankless, as last night showed you.

You deserve better.

I was responding to the person saying OP should have done spa days, not suggesting them. 😀

Them in bold, me not in bold.

Take it up with the person I quoted. 😂

Do you know where it was? Because some treks are in fairly remote places with not a lot to do on the way except walks and looking at scenery. West Highland Way used to be like that. Not sure now but Apart from Tyndrum and Kinlochleven, there was a lot of nothing but a few small hotels in between ..nothing being stunning scenery but no beach or spa, pottery workshops etc

Responses on this thread are typically mumsnet 🙄 yanbu @Fizzyrosie people make mistakes and you sorted it, your husband's behaviour is out of order.

Fine to pull him up on it. You're only being a martyr if you think his mammoth strop is acceptable.

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"Hangry" is an annoying portmanteau but it is useful with some children and young people. My daughter (autistic) has very little sense of hunger and you can see her mood degenerate along with her blood sugar.

No excuse for adults though. They should have some Trek bars or whatever in case of emergency!

I hate "hangry" as an expression. It's just an excuse to be an arsehole and take out ill-humour on family members.

It's not OK to be a pissy little bastard because you haven't eaten.

I’ve done MANY walking hols. Heck my honey moon was a walking holiday!
And so did my dh and my two dcs

No one has ever behave that way over a mistake over booking a restaurant. Despite being tired, achy and all the rest of it.
No one has been moody because of a walk.

As for ‘very hungry’, you eat a bar of cereal. You take energy gels. That’s pretty basic. You dint want to be hypoglycaemic in the middle of a walk. So why would you allow it to happen as soon as you’re back to the campsite?

It's called 'Hanger' and I think you need to let it go. An understandable reaction given the circumstances, just as your mistake was also understandable.
PS Get some sort of portable shower to use when campervanning, it will help you feel better if you do any future trips like this.

And most people would also forget all the help they’ve received on that same day? All the support etc….

Youre just proving that the OP should refuse to ever go away with him on a ‘walking hols’ where her only role is to be there as support (and to be told off for making a mistake)

You are not his mother!

And he does what????

Your DH is a miserable arse for not appreciating your support over the last week.

I'd get on the next train home and leave them to it.

P. S. And never offer this level of support again, if he is likely to strop about a single mistake instead of thanking you for the stuff you got right.

I think most people would have had moody strop about dinner plans being ruined.

In a pretty unique situation where he would likely be very tired, sore and very hungry he got a bit moody at a mistake. Yes, taken as a whole that was an unreasonable reaction but nobody is always calm, reasonable and non-reactionary in every situation. Humans sometimes make mistakes in how they react to situations, just as humans can make mistakes in restaurant bookings.

To take a single poor reaction to an unusual scenario and invent an entire character assassination around that is also a mistake.

This.

Tough 🙄

as it turns out his partner wasn’t that happy either !

Because
1- he is acting like a petulant child for a mistake
2- at no point has the OP mentioned that they did things together as a family but rather that she was only there as ‘Sherpa’. I doubt that someone who didn’t think ‘oh that’s going to be a shit week for my dwife’ is going to willingly put themselves in that very position.