Impossible bed dilemma— AIBU? Am I missing the solution?

I have linked this video to show you one of the suggested beds, Dusk The Madison so you can see it comes in lots of parts meaning you can see if you could get it up the stairs or not.

The main issue might be the headboard. You can choose a different bed with a smaller headboard.

They did manage to get a king sized mattress up your stairs though so there is some room. They can also bring things in through windows. Drastic but doable. My Mum had a sofa in through her window opening which the removal men did because her hallway was too narrow for the sofa. They removed the whole window and then put it back in but it did need a little work to pretty it back up.

Again, this is something that can be found on youtube, how to replace a window so you can see how it is done.

The trouble with the bed in the corner (I tried this because of the smallness of the room) can be that it makes making the bed harder. That's why I eventually opted for the small double rather than the king sized bed pushed into the corner - I was having to clamber onto the bed to make it and it was hard on the back!

I’ve got a wooden bed from Feather & Black (the Sienna) and it’s been solid as a rock and I was a very large 21stone-plus person for many years. I also put it together myself (while pregnant which I wouldn’t advise) - I used a beanbag for the bit where you would otherwise have another person hold one end a foot into the air.

Some online bed companies offer delivery and assembly.

I’ve recently bought a lovely rattan double from Dusk with attached headboard. I’m in an old house with narrow stairs and the delivery men took everything up to the first floor. It took ages unpacking but I then managed to put it together myself ( im
generally hopeless)

You dont mention budget (apologies if you have and ive missed it!)

I have a cast iron framed bed. Heavy, but literally in 7 pieces (head end, foot end, two rails that slot into the head and foot, and then 3 wooden slat things that slot on the rails). I easily assembled it by myself (including carrying it up a dog legged staircase). It wasnt cheap, but we'll never need to buy another bed in our lifetime.

We’ve got Malm ottoman beds from Ikea. They are very, very sturdy and don’t squeak at all. They were the only ottoman beds that I could lift by myself when we went looking for beds.

Dusk do reasonably priced Ottoman beds so you could have storage underneath. The one we got was flat pack and has a lovely padded headboard. I would get a double x

If it’s just you, go down to a double and put the bed in a corner as you don’t need both sides to be accessible. I bought myself a bed in a hurry a couple of years ago. I highly recommend using John Lewis, M&S etc WITH assembly included, packaging removal, lugging upstairs

I had one attached to the wall but the bed kept moving forward and the pillow dropped between the two . I've got a small double which is perfect for me . I'm little though !

Honestly, get someone in to make the bed! I always buy beds from Ikea or have them made Rustic Roots for example, they are very sturdy and comfortable - we’re just upsizing and giving our 15 year old frame made by a furniture maker near where we live, to our son, it’s still in perfect condition, had a few mattresses but frame is brilliant still and easily comes apart / back together, moved it 4 times and it’s still sturdy as the day we got it

Take a look at Warren Evans as suggested by people - they deliver and assemble - there’s a sale on at the moment. Stick to double as people have said.

Good luck hopefully when you get a bit more sleep everything will feel a bit easier.

Divan bed with storage drawers? Cones in two halves and light as a feather with the drawers out.

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I have a small double because my bedroom is tiny (as is my staircase). It came flat packed in various boxes that I hauled up the stairs and built it in situ (which did, admittedly, take me a very long time). If you get a fairly common make you can find YouTube videos on how to put them together, or some firms will build it for you. Then I bought a new foam mattress and now I love my bed!

I did have a metal framed bed before, but it was too big for the room and it made the most horrific amount of noise every time I turned over, plus the headboard bit was metal and not very comfortable to lean back against.

An ottoman bed is the solution here I think. If you buy from a furniture shop/ bed shop they will send ppl to put it together

We've gradually changed all the beds in the house to ottoman beds as and when they needed replacing. So much storage and it doesn't take up any room in the house like cupboards and trunks do.

Would something like this work for you, OP?

EMODA 46 cm High Metal Bed Frame 160x190 cm, Black | Heavy Duty Platform Bed Frame with Steel Slats Support, Large Underbed Storage, Noise Free, Easy Assembly
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Wooden frame - with legs so there is space underneath. Don’t get one with draws etc you want all the floor space accessible . Headboard built into bed. You can just get one second hand in face book market place and see if you like it.

also go double if you are single. I am recently single and have gone from a super long to a double- changing the bed is now a doddle- god I hated the super king bed change and washing .

Warren Evans beds are great substantial last foreever easy to put up.

Lots of great ideas for the OP - it’s what’s fabulous about mumsnet - and I have always managed to assemble flat pack furniture by myself (and quite enjoyed doing so)!

Just one word of warning to anyone who has the lift-up type storage bed with pistons……. I have one in my guest bedroom, and one day the pistons failed, causing the top frame and mattress to come crashing down quite spectacularly. Fortunately, I wasn’t scrabbling around underneath looking for something, I was just about to load in my winter bedding. I dread to think what might have happened if I had been ‘inside’ at the time.

I know I could buy replacement pistons, but I certainly wouldn’t be able to fit them by myself - definitely a 2 person task - but I don’t know whether I would ever feel safe afterwards unless I had someone holding on to the top frame as well, just in case.

DD has recently got an ottoman bed from Argos (Pandora?), DH and I were able to get it upstairs and build it easily enough. She got the pink which looks lovely in her room but it does come in other colours. Came flat packed in 2 boxes and if the staircase is really tight you could take the pieces out and carry them up individually. Admittedly it's only my tween sleeping in it but it seems sturdy enough, no squeaks and lots of storage space underneath.

IKEA. I realize IKEA has its haters but I love it.

If you google the Guardian mattress recommendations, one IKEA mattress was rated particularly highly. All our mattresses come from IKEA, as do all our bed frames, I've never had a reason to complain.

That said, my personal preference is a mattress on the floor, so that's what I do.

Various styles/wood finishes, flat pack, option to get them to assemble, frequent sales!

I got a bed from here, got friends to help assemble and a mattress from elsewhere.

www.getlaidbeds.co.uk/bed-sale

DD has this bed. Very sturdy and would hands down recommend. We have different now discontinued metal (inc the swirly one you’re referring to I think and a black one) in DS’s room and the spare room too. They’ve all been great. As with all flatpack beds though assembly requires a second person. Think you can add it on to your delivery though? Or how old are your kids? A 10YO+ would suffice- it’s mostly just to hold in place as you screw.

Package dimensions will include any additional packaging that protects the contents. You can unpack the package downstairs and take it up piece by piece (learnt from living alone in a top floor flat) so you just need to know the dimensions of the bed which will give you the maximum length and/or width of any pieces.