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AIBU to be angry that my husband is unconcerned about women’s safety?

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Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 19:59

To be pissed off with my husband. I said how upset I am that the child abuse and rape leaflet from the government is judged as necessary and we are continuing to let these men into our country who pose a threat to women. He just shrugged - I said doesn’t it bother you these men are coming into our society. We have daughters , I am a woman. I absolutely do not feel safe anymore where we live and would not walk on my own anymore. He said no not really. Absolutely furious with him. Does he not have to care as he’s a big tall man? I’m so pissed off, I’ve walked off and he’s given me the ick.

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Switchnow · 27/08/2026 11:03

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 09:53

Ok you’ve said nobody is ok with it in your pp, so why put up barriers to change?

If there could be an asylum system that prioritises women and girls why would you oppose it?

Where have I proposed a barrier to change? I’ve said the only way - given the scale of existing checks and the inability of any check to predict with 100% accuracy - is to ban all men from perceived high risk countries. That means from seeking asylum, coming here on a visa for work or education, or coming for a holiday. That’s quite a big change. I’m asking if you support that.

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 11:05

Nuthatch26 · 27/08/2026 10:03

I'm not a politician so no point making suggestions. All I can do is vote accordingly for the best option to stop these men arriving in their thousands.

We can vote on suggestions at the next election. Three word slogans like smash the gangs won't wash this time, many people have had enough.

Everyone can do their bit to campaign for things they think matter, whether that’s writing to their MP or putting up a banner or whatever. If all anyone did was vote for one of the options nothing would ever change.

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 11:13

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 11:03

Where have I proposed a barrier to change? I’ve said the only way - given the scale of existing checks and the inability of any check to predict with 100% accuracy - is to ban all men from perceived high risk countries. That means from seeking asylum, coming here on a visa for work or education, or coming for a holiday. That’s quite a big change. I’m asking if you support that.

Is that what you want?

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 11:28

Surely you know your own mind, you don’t need to know what I think?

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 11:34

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 11:28

Surely you know your own mind, you don’t need to know what I think?

Of course. But you are proposing ideas so I’m interested if you really believe in them.

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 12:17

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 11:34

Of course. But you are proposing ideas so I’m interested if you really believe in them.

I don’t think it’s necessary, because as I’ve said all groups of men come with risk and reward and there is no perfect system.

For those of you who consider all men from these countries dangerous, I can see no other solution.

I wonder why you’re so reluctant to support that.

EvieBB · 27/08/2026 12:21

LittleEsme · 27/08/2026 09:19

Your post is tiresome. Shutting down her legitimate concerns by labelling her as racist is a shitty tactic.

It's not. Hers and your post is tiresome. Don't quote flawed stats. It is racist if the figures don't add up!

EvieBB · 27/08/2026 12:23

LittleEsme · 27/08/2026 09:21

Way to go deliberately ignoring her point and trying to highlight a miss-spelled word. Shitty, underhand tactic.

Will you go away? I've already raised my point earlier, I'm not going to repeat myself. Her poor spelling and grammar tell me all I need to know about her and her ilk.

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 12:25

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 12:17

I don’t think it’s necessary, because as I’ve said all groups of men come with risk and reward and there is no perfect system.

For those of you who consider all men from these countries dangerous, I can see no other solution.

I wonder why you’re so reluctant to support that.

I’m trying to understand what you are actually proposing.

You say you do want change, what is that?

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 12:34

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 12:25

I’m trying to understand what you are actually proposing.

You say you do want change, what is that?

You’re perfectly capable of reading it again.

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 12:40

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 12:34

You’re perfectly capable of reading it again.

You’re a bit muddled in the posts. Your suggestions are not what you believe should happen, so what is?

From your last post it looks like it’s back to no change.

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 13:39

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 12:40

You’re a bit muddled in the posts. Your suggestions are not what you believe should happen, so what is?

From your last post it looks like it’s back to no change.

I’m not sure why my beliefs are so important to you that you need further clarification. I have explained what I think. If you’re confused by that, it’s not a problem for me.

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 13:43

Switchnow · 27/08/2026 13:39

I’m not sure why my beliefs are so important to you that you need further clarification. I have explained what I think. If you’re confused by that, it’s not a problem for me.

Ok if you say so. You want change in one post but then don’t want it in another.

I guess it’s one or the other.

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