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AIBU to be angry that my husband is unconcerned about women’s safety?

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Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 19:59

To be pissed off with my husband. I said how upset I am that the child abuse and rape leaflet from the government is judged as necessary and we are continuing to let these men into our country who pose a threat to women. He just shrugged - I said doesn’t it bother you these men are coming into our society. We have daughters , I am a woman. I absolutely do not feel safe anymore where we live and would not walk on my own anymore. He said no not really. Absolutely furious with him. Does he not have to care as he’s a big tall man? I’m so pissed off, I’ve walked off and he’s given me the ick.

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LuckyHazelFox · 22/08/2026 14:02

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 12:59

Of course it is, who said otherwise? What are you doing to protect women and girls in your area/family/networks?

What am I doing? Staying living in the real world and keeping me and mine safe from any threats, domestic or foreign.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 14:00

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:55

Not sure what you think there is to report - it was you that described them as puppies, like it’s all a joke. You’ve no idea who else in the thread suffered from their actions and yet here you are minimising it and championing mobs of men marching the streets. I wonder how many of your community feel unsafe as a result of those actions.

You edited so I’ll respond to your edit. I’m sure the people terrorised by the IRA aren’t relieved because ‘at least it wasn’t Muslims’. Absolutely disgusting. 🤮

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I have listed to areas , search them up, the vandalism of the grave yard, parks overtaken, young girls being followed home, 10 year old sexual assaulted in the grounds of the hotel. I mean you’d be looking at anywhere between 400 thousand to over a million for a home in this area. It’s not a thug town. Sorry to disappoint you.

Nuthatch26 · 22/08/2026 14:00

WatermelonSalad1 · 22/08/2026 13:44

I'm so glad the thread police have arrived
Is there a list of poster countries that can't comment on this issue? Or any other issue? I must've not got the guide when I registered.

Me neither. Apparently Irish posters are insulted and laughed at for having an opinion.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:57

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:48

How are men patrolling the streets ‘creating awareness’ of anything other than that they have a lot of free time on their hands? This is just mob behaviour and you’re justifying it. How many of those men have never laid a hand on a woman or child?

Most if not all, they’re not thugs. Newcastle Saggart and Rathcoole in Dublin are actually very nice areas, sorry in the past, until they replaced the convention centre, ballroom, hotel 764 rooms into an international protection centre.

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:55

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:49

The IRA were not and are not puppies. How interesting that you minimise the bloodshed of a group you maybe feel an affinity with.
Wow just wow. If you knew anything you would know that the Catholic people in NI suffered the most at the hands of the IRA.
please no one report her comment. It shows exactly what she is
my point about puppies was in comparison to Isis, Hamas, etc.

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Not sure what you think there is to report - it was you that described them as puppies, like it’s all a joke. You’ve no idea who else in the thread suffered from their actions and yet here you are minimising it and championing mobs of men marching the streets. I wonder how many of your community feel unsafe as a result of those actions.

You edited so I’ll respond to your edit. I’m sure the people terrorised by the IRA aren’t relieved because ‘at least it wasn’t Muslims’. Absolutely disgusting. 🤮

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:49

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:45

Always the same, anyone with a different view is ‘insulated’ (I assume you mean sheltered, protected?)

I’m not sure I’m following your logic - England had to experience terrorist atfacks, Irish people hated the English, therefore we should learn from that and never let ‘foreigners’ in to either country?

The IRA were not and are not puppies. How interesting that you minimise the bloodshed of a group you maybe feel an affinity with.

The IRA were not and are not puppies. How interesting that you minimise the bloodshed of a group you maybe feel an affinity with.
Wow just wow. If you knew anything you would know that the Catholic people in NI suffered the most at the hands of the IRA.
please no one report her comment. It shows exactly what she is
my point about puppies was in comparison to Isis, Hamas, etc.

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:48

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:09

Creating awareness. There is men patrolling areas in the cities in Ireland. They would be referred to as far right but they’re parents who are sick of immigrants sitting in children’s park, using drugs, smoking crack, leering at women. They don’t approach anyone as there has been a few occasions if immigrants carrying knifes. It’s more to create a visual awareness.

How are men patrolling the streets ‘creating awareness’ of anything other than that they have a lot of free time on their hands? This is just mob behaviour and you’re justifying it. How many of those men have never laid a hand on a woman or child?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:47

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:38

I don’t find funny necessarily, maybe insanely hypocritical that she’s been talking about NIMBYism when this isn’t her backyard, and not wanting foreign men when, again, she is not even here to be affected.

Oh my goodness. Are you really that ignorant to believe that this is only a problem on the UK? Or just England??? Seriously. First funny, now I’m a hypocrite.
You are an apologist. Any reason to defend your position.

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:46

WatermelonSalad1 · 22/08/2026 13:44

I'm so glad the thread police have arrived
Is there a list of poster countries that can't comment on this issue? Or any other issue? I must've not got the guide when I registered.

Anyone can say whatever they like, and anyone else can say they find it laughable.

Hope that helps.

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:45

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:22

Do you think this is an England problem. I get that you’re pretty insulated in your views. This disgusting problem is happening all over Europe.
There was also a time in Ireland when English people were not welcome, attacked and even executed, so I can understand the worry in England as the Irish people did wish harm on them and did cause harm.

It was standard practice to hate the English people. We moved on, not without a lot of pain and bloodshed but sounds like you’re happy to repeat the experience this time around with the Muslim extremism, Ireland were puppies in comparison.

Always the same, anyone with a different view is ‘insulated’ (I assume you mean sheltered, protected?)

I’m not sure I’m following your logic - England had to experience terrorist atfacks, Irish people hated the English, therefore we should learn from that and never let ‘foreigners’ in to either country?

The IRA were not and are not puppies. How interesting that you minimise the bloodshed of a group you maybe feel an affinity with.

WatermelonSalad1 · 22/08/2026 13:44

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:38

I don’t find funny necessarily, maybe insanely hypocritical that she’s been talking about NIMBYism when this isn’t her backyard, and not wanting foreign men when, again, she is not even here to be affected.

I'm so glad the thread police have arrived
Is there a list of poster countries that can't comment on this issue? Or any other issue? I must've not got the guide when I registered.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:43

chirrupybird · 22/08/2026 13:29

The IRA? They were pretty good terrorists, bombings all over England and killings all over Ireland. I don't think you would have called them puppies at the time and I wouldn't say it loudly in some Irish pubs now.

Likewise the British army side terrorist groups who slaughtered many Catholics, and the many IRA members eventually employed by the British government, informants, The British government had prior knowledge of many deaths in NI but let them go ahead in the name of intelligence gathering Like Stake-knife Freddie.

I will say what I like in an Irish pub or to my DH from Belfast. ☘️

Anyway if you want to start on thread on the IRA work away. This isn’t it.

Womanofcustard · 22/08/2026 13:43

Jeez, the ‘white men rape’ apologists are out in force here!
just stop making excuses!

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:40

Nuthatch26 · 22/08/2026 13:24

Oh I understand exactly what you meant. You're gaslighting.
If you can explain how we sort out the Afghan men who treat women worse than livestock from those who don't, I'm all ears. As abusing women is virtually encouraged there, I doubt the Taliban keep records. We don't deport them either way btw, even after they've committed a crime. If we wait until they commit a sexual offence before we find out, the damage is already done.

I’m not at all, I’m telling you my point of view very clearly. Maybe you can’t imagine a woman thinking differently to you.

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:38

Nuthatch26 · 22/08/2026 13:27

Why do you find it funny that the pp is not in England, but in Ireland? They are also facing the same issue, as are Scotland and Wales.

I don’t find funny necessarily, maybe insanely hypocritical that she’s been talking about NIMBYism when this isn’t her backyard, and not wanting foreign men when, again, she is not even here to be affected.

chirrupybird · 22/08/2026 13:29

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:22

Do you think this is an England problem. I get that you’re pretty insulated in your views. This disgusting problem is happening all over Europe.
There was also a time in Ireland when English people were not welcome, attacked and even executed, so I can understand the worry in England as the Irish people did wish harm on them and did cause harm.

It was standard practice to hate the English people. We moved on, not without a lot of pain and bloodshed but sounds like you’re happy to repeat the experience this time around with the Muslim extremism, Ireland were puppies in comparison.

The IRA? They were pretty good terrorists, bombings all over England and killings all over Ireland. I don't think you would have called them puppies at the time and I wouldn't say it loudly in some Irish pubs now.

Nuthatch26 · 22/08/2026 13:27

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:15

You’re not even in England? 🤣 Oh god what a joke. There was a time when people called for internment for all the Irish in England off the back of a handful of violent ones. And now here you are saying you don’t want them ‘here’ (there?)

Why do you find it funny that the pp is not in England, but in Ireland? They are also facing the same issue, as are Scotland and Wales.

Nuthatch26 · 22/08/2026 13:24

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:13

No, I thought I’d make it easy by saying what I meant.

Feel free to engage with what I actually said, or not. But we’re a bit old for guessing games.

Oh I understand exactly what you meant. You're gaslighting.
If you can explain how we sort out the Afghan men who treat women worse than livestock from those who don't, I'm all ears. As abusing women is virtually encouraged there, I doubt the Taliban keep records. We don't deport them either way btw, even after they've committed a crime. If we wait until they commit a sexual offence before we find out, the damage is already done.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:22

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:15

You’re not even in England? 🤣 Oh god what a joke. There was a time when people called for internment for all the Irish in England off the back of a handful of violent ones. And now here you are saying you don’t want them ‘here’ (there?)

Do you think this is an England problem. I get that you’re pretty insulated in your views. This disgusting problem is happening all over Europe.
There was also a time in Ireland when English people were not welcome, attacked and even executed, so I can understand the worry in England as the Irish people did wish harm on them and did cause harm.

It was standard practice to hate the English people. We moved on, not without a lot of pain and bloodshed but sounds like you’re happy to repeat the experience this time around with the Muslim extremism, Ireland were puppies in comparison.

Lexibletheflexible · 22/08/2026 13:21

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:13

Local addicts don’t sit in children’s parks, they sit in laneways, hide from public view.
There has been a huge increase of men sitting in play parks, that was never socially acceptable in the past, nor was 20 people a day using the bush area in the park as a toilet.
Even addicts have social skills.

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Oh stop

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:15

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:09

Creating awareness. There is men patrolling areas in the cities in Ireland. They would be referred to as far right but they’re parents who are sick of immigrants sitting in children’s park, using drugs, smoking crack, leering at women. They don’t approach anyone as there has been a few occasions if immigrants carrying knifes. It’s more to create a visual awareness.

You’re not even in England? 🤣 Oh god what a joke. There was a time when people called for internment for all the Irish in England off the back of a handful of violent ones. And now here you are saying you don’t want them ‘here’ (there?)

chirrupybird · 22/08/2026 13:15

I think it's very sensible to explain to men requesting asylum that the laws and expectations of behaviour in the UK may be very different than their home countries. Many of them will already be fully aware but explaining in detail what is considered rape and what is consent, what is domestic abuse, what is harassment etc, etc in UK law, seems like a good idea. It doesn't mean the government thinks all of these men are a danger to women.

Switchnow · 22/08/2026 13:13

Nuthatch26 · 22/08/2026 13:10

Are you about to try and say that the men arriving in Europe from Afghanistan are leaving because they don't like how women are treated in their own country? Does that really make sense to you?

No, I thought I’d make it easy by saying what I meant.

Feel free to engage with what I actually said, or not. But we’re a bit old for guessing games.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:13

Lexibletheflexible · 22/08/2026 13:10

Why didnt they patrol when it was local men taking heroin and doing pretty much the same things?

Local addicts don’t sit in children’s parks, they sit in laneways, hide from public view.
There has been a huge increase of men sitting in play parks, that was never socially acceptable in the past, nor was 20 people a day using the bush area in the park as a toilet.
Even addicts have social skills.

Lexibletheflexible · 22/08/2026 13:10

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/08/2026 13:09

Creating awareness. There is men patrolling areas in the cities in Ireland. They would be referred to as far right but they’re parents who are sick of immigrants sitting in children’s park, using drugs, smoking crack, leering at women. They don’t approach anyone as there has been a few occasions if immigrants carrying knifes. It’s more to create a visual awareness.

Why didnt they patrol when it was local men taking heroin and doing pretty much the same things?

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