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AIBU to be angry that my husband is unconcerned about women’s safety?

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Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 19:59

To be pissed off with my husband. I said how upset I am that the child abuse and rape leaflet from the government is judged as necessary and we are continuing to let these men into our country who pose a threat to women. He just shrugged - I said doesn’t it bother you these men are coming into our society. We have daughters , I am a woman. I absolutely do not feel safe anymore where we live and would not walk on my own anymore. He said no not really. Absolutely furious with him. Does he not have to care as he’s a big tall man? I’m so pissed off, I’ve walked off and he’s given me the ick.

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allgoodhere783 · 21/08/2026 20:14

Bogliasco · 21/08/2026 20:08

There's plenty of White British men raping women so perhaps this leaflet could be posted to all UK men to remind them not to rape because lord knows they need it.

You're sayting the rape gangs were all made up of white men? And they got off because they were white? Hmm

OP YANBU but instead of considering this, your husband thinks you have been brain-washed by right wing media and have since become hysterical... sorry. He's probably not a bad guy. Just not very bright, like a lot of men on women's issues. And lots of women too...

Marroon · 21/08/2026 20:13

Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 20:07

Happily say I’m culturist- we have a safe culture for women and women are seen as equal. Women here are respected.

He wouldn’t think I’m racist as we are black and are legal immigrants who work hard and are high paying tax payers.

Given the huge numbers of child abuse, domestic abuse, rape within a relationship and sexual violence towards women in general I honestly can’t understand how you can say women in the UK are safe and respected within UK culture.

titchy · 21/08/2026 20:13

Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 20:07

Happily say I’m culturist- we have a safe culture for women and women are seen as equal. Women here are respected.

He wouldn’t think I’m racist as we are black and are legal immigrants who work hard and are high paying tax payers.

You really think the UK has a safe culture for women? You really think all sexual assaults and rapes are committed by overseas nationals? Wow - delulu.

The VAST majority of perpetrators are British.

(Which you really know but any exclude for an immigrant bashing thread eh?)

Marycontrarygarden · 21/08/2026 20:11

fumingrightnow1 · 21/08/2026 20:10

Black people can be racist too

And THIS, Black people AND immigrants can be racists, imagine that.

Xkk · 21/08/2026 20:11

I get what you are saying but I don't think you have the right to impose someone to feel the way you feel. Me and my husband disagree on many things and soemtimes it makes my blood boil but he is his own person and he has the right to think and feel the way he wants so we just agree to disagree.

Marycontrarygarden · 21/08/2026 20:11

Bogliasco · 21/08/2026 20:08

There's plenty of White British men raping women so perhaps this leaflet could be posted to all UK men to remind them not to rape because lord knows they need it.

This

fumingrightnow1 · 21/08/2026 20:10

Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 20:07

Happily say I’m culturist- we have a safe culture for women and women are seen as equal. Women here are respected.

He wouldn’t think I’m racist as we are black and are legal immigrants who work hard and are high paying tax payers.

Black people can be racist too

Bogliasco · 21/08/2026 20:08

Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 20:05

I feel so cross about it. I have no problem with safe legal migration- but that isn’t what’s happening. I feel our government are not protecting us women who live here and it’s scaring me. And for a man to not get it. When I grew up we could go to night clubs, walk round parks on our own etc now I wouldn’t dare where we live. We’ve had so many incidents reported here. I’m just cross I think and sad.

There's plenty of White British men raping women so perhaps this leaflet could be posted to all UK men to remind them not to rape because lord knows they need it.

Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 20:07

fumingrightnow1 · 21/08/2026 20:04

Its very very rare for child abuse and rape to be committed by a random stranger he probably thought you where being racist and didn't want to get into it

Happily say I’m culturist- we have a safe culture for women and women are seen as equal. Women here are respected.

He wouldn’t think I’m racist as we are black and are legal immigrants who work hard and are high paying tax payers.

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Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 20:05

12234m · 21/08/2026 20:03

Men can't fully get it, obviously, but they should bloody well try!

I feel so cross about it. I have no problem with safe legal migration- but that isn’t what’s happening. I feel our government are not protecting us women who live here and it’s scaring me. And for a man to not get it. When I grew up we could go to night clubs, walk round parks on our own etc now I wouldn’t dare where we live. We’ve had so many incidents reported here. I’m just cross I think and sad.

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fumingrightnow1 · 21/08/2026 20:04

Its very very rare for child abuse and rape to be committed by a random stranger he probably thought you where being racist and didn't want to get into it

BoredZelda · 21/08/2026 20:03

Peedoffdoesntcutit · 21/08/2026 19:59

To be pissed off with my husband. I said how upset I am that the child abuse and rape leaflet from the government is judged as necessary and we are continuing to let these men into our country who pose a threat to women. He just shrugged - I said doesn’t it bother you these men are coming into our society. We have daughters , I am a woman. I absolutely do not feel safe anymore where we live and would not walk on my own anymore. He said no not really. Absolutely furious with him. Does he not have to care as he’s a big tall man? I’m so pissed off, I’ve walked off and he’s given me the ick.

Are these leaflets going in to schools?

12234m · 21/08/2026 20:03

Men can't fully get it, obviously, but they should bloody well try!

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