We are staying at an AirBNB in France. A few days ago, a male neighbour (relevant as we are women/girls) just appeared, came through the garden gate without shouting hello or anything, and suddenly was standing next to me (I was relaxing in a lounger). His breath smelled of alcohol. He asked me if I was there alone, then asked if I had children with me. My French is rubbish so I tried to avoid answering, then was boring enough that he left. I only found out who he was after asking another neighbour, who assured me he's just nosy/interested in new people.
Then a few days later he appeared with his young daughter and tried to come in (pointed past me and started to move towards the door opening, where he could see my two teens). I said no, and waffled on about them being busy. (Quite proud of myself for saying no, I am such a people pleaser usually that I find it hard to say no when I know it's the right thing!)
So my question is – is it normal in any culture to just appear at someone's door and invite yourself in? When the people staying in the house don't live there? (Or even if they live there!) Wouldn't it be more friendly/normal to INVITE someone over if you wanted your kid to meet someone else's kids?
I suppose I'm just looking for soothing answers, lots of YANBU, telling me I wasn't outrageously rude and that my response was perfectly natural, and that this neighbour won't have it in for us now and do something awful!
Changed a few details in case this is outing.