AIBU to be angry about comments on my granddaughters' names?

Agree!

Aw Barry! It doesn't end well for poor Lola does it...
"Still in the dress she used to wear, faded feathers in her hair, she sits there so refined, and drinks herself half blind. She lost her youth and she lost her Tony. Now she's Lost. Her. Mind. at the Copa!"

My friend's bulldogs are called Lola and Roxy

There are some exceptionally rude people on here. I don't know what they get out of it.

The original comment made was ill-judged, probably not meant to be offensive, but I can understand you feeling sensitive about remarks about the names of children you love.

My daughter said the name of my new granddaughter (her niece) was a "middle-aged woman" name 😄 which I was a little miffed about. (I don't agree by the way, I think it's a beautiful and classic name!)

Ignore the hurtful comments. We all have such different taste in names. I was reading a thread yesterday in which both of my children’s names had been listed as names people don’t like. They are quite standard names but still not liked!! I don’t care!

So she’s a …. Showgirl 🤣🤣🤣

They’re also (esp Lola and Ruby) pretty common names for girls nowadays so anyone associating them with showgirls rather than a popular name for girls in the 2010s/20s is just showing their age!

This OP.

Yes, there is a showgirl link. Yes I think your friend, given her age, probably intended to be a bit snide (if I am honest)

BUT for all of that, and putting aside that incident, I don't think you need to worry that too many people will think anything too negative - certainly not in your granddaughters' worlds. Those names are back in circulation and relatively uncontroversial. Having three of them together amps up the associations a bit, but they are nonetheless not particularly eyebrow-raising in and of themselves - a bit like John doesn't scream Biblical, but if his brothers were Matthew, Luke and Mark it amps up that feel. But again, normal names in and of themselves.

I think it was a neutral comment personally and you are overreacting. Having revealed the names they are ‘showgirl’ names but that doesn’t automatically mean negative! Could have meant glam, etc

I really like their names.

Your friends comment was ill judged but sometimes it happens.
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I think it is the opposite. 'Showgirl' used to have more negative, sexualised connotations, but in recent times, those connotations are not there in the same way.

A lot of people on this thread have said they don't think that showgirl is a negative term. It just means a glamorous dancer/singer in showy/glitzy surroundings. The sexual meaning is not there like it had been in the past.

Even Taylor Swift describes herself as a showgirl. She is as modern and contemporary as you can get!

the angwr should be with your daughter/son for saddling the poor little girls with such awful names

her name was Lola, she was a showgirl

Roxanne! You dont have to put on the red light!

goodbye Ruby Tuesday

nah, not snowgirl at all

I don't get why you are annoyed or shocked, they are literally showgirl names. Also pet names because I know a fair amount of dogs and cats with these names 😂
One puppy is Lola after the showgirl song!

Jeez 😂

I think they’re great names OP. I was going to call my kid Roxy if he’d been a girl. They’re also (esp Lola and Ruby) pretty common names for girls nowadays so anyone associating them with showgirls rather than a popular name for girls in the 2010s/20s is just showing their age!

Why are people on MN so horrible? Genuinely curious. The OP’s come on here upset about her friend commenting on the names, she’s looking for advice and reassurance. And you make this comment that you know is going to cause another woman who has done nothing to you, to feel more upset. Just why? Is your life really so shite that the only way you can find a scrap of joy is to make someone else feel rubbish? (But of course only on an anonymous internet forum cos you wouldn’t have the guts to do it IRL)

I think (maybe I’m wrong) but how you interpret “showgirl” depends on your age. I’m early 40s and I’d get pornstar vibes from it. But maybe if you’re older (assuming you and your friends are a couple decades older being a grandma of 5) a showgirl is seen as more innocent entertainment/positive. Correct me if I’m wrong, it’s just a theory. If I am wrong then yes I agree with you, I’d be pissed off if someone said that about my daughter’s name too. I can’t understand why anyone would say anything other than an obviously positive comment to a parent or grandparent about their kid’s name. It’s so obviously going to cause offence. Maybe your friend is just not very good socially. I’m not an overly sensitive person but if anyone says anything negative about my kids it hurts and my protective mum heckles get raised. It’s normal. Someone made a ginger joke about my 4 yo son’s hair the other day that I was meant to find funny. I wanted to punch him in the face.

Whatever the names are, its not a kind or appropriate thing to say to the grandmother of those children.

It was just a stupid snobby comment. A. Bit like saying someone is common. Rude person.

You could have said ' oh really, rather like yours back in the day '

Lola, Roxy and Ruby? I feel like I’ve just stepped into Eastenders ~20 years ago 😂

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this ole line gets thrown around all the time and in this day and age its frankly boring. What would you do if you were in a board room meeting and someone stood up to present and said "my name is Ruby" what would your reaction be? Because I wouldnt bat an eyelid.

Fine names for little girls but when you are 45 and doing a presentation to the board of directors?

Well considering the Lola in the Kinks song wasn't even female,yes!

My neighbour has had dogs with all three of those names.