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AIBU to be angry about comments on my granddaughters' names?

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Ellenay · 21/08/2026 17:59

So, I have 5 grandchildren, this weekend I’m looking after all of them, my daughter and her husband are away to a wedding in France and my son and his wife have booked a little spa weekend.

I popped in to see some of my friends with them as I don’t often have the children and my friends like seeing them.

One of my friends had some other friends I’ve not met before over but we joined them. After introducing the children and then being sent to the kitchen to get a lollipop, one of these friends said oh don’t all the girls have little showgirl names, I must have looked a bit shocked as someone else then jumped in and said oh she doesn’t mean p*rnstar just very moulin rouge.

I just said I thought their names were lovely and moved on but now I’m back home I’m furious, I’m furious I didn’t give her a piece of my mind.

AIBU to think this is an absurd thing to say about children’s names?!

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MelonSorbet · 21/08/2026 18:14

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Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:14

Nofeckingway · 21/08/2026 18:12

It is very unkind to make a negative comment about a little girl's name . Especially to the grandmother . How ignorant of her . I would be annoyed too.

Why was it negative?

In my mind they were saying they had glamorous names 🤷‍♂️

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Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:14

Johnogroats · 21/08/2026 18:13

Life of a showgirl…. Her name was Kitty?

No, not Kitty. I fear this thread is just going to turn into a guessing game of their names instead of actually discussing the woman’s manners so I will share their names.
Lola, Roxy and Ruby.

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oviraptor21 · 21/08/2026 18:13

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:09

Irrespective of whether they are or aren’t showgirl names, I just don’t think it something you say out loud. I wouldn’t say out loud if I thought a name was pretentious or tacky or whatever as it’s just not a helpful or needed comment.

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Why would a showgirl name be pretentious or tacky? I think you are showing your own prejudice here OP.

I think of performers very positively so names in that field are lovely.

Mumalala · 21/08/2026 18:13

Our DDs both have nicknames like these used at home, and out of the house for one of them. A relative once said it sounded like we were starting a French dance troup. It never occurred to me to be offended, it's just true.

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:13

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:09

Irrespective of whether they are or aren’t showgirl names, I just don’t think it something you say out loud. I wouldn’t say out loud if I thought a name was pretentious or tacky or whatever as it’s just not a helpful or needed comment.

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But how is 'showgirl' anything like pretentious or tacky?

Why are you taking it as an insult?

And more importantly if you were so 'furious' why didn't you say anything instead of running home to tell Mumsnet?

Coinkidinki · 21/08/2026 18:13

As one of the names suggested was correct, then at least that one is a showbiz type name.

Obviously you're Gran, you didn't choose the names, but if parents give their children this type of rather exotic, attention-grabbing name, then they shouldn't be surprised with that kind of association.

I think you may be looking for offence where none exists - is there something deeper going on within this group of friends?

Johnogroats · 21/08/2026 18:13

Life of a showgirl…. Her name was Kitty?

Upyermonkey · 21/08/2026 18:12

It was a bitchy comment IMO

Nofeckingway · 21/08/2026 18:12

It is very unkind to make a negative comment about a little girl's name . Especially to the grandmother . How ignorant of her . I would be annoyed too.

OvernightBloats · 21/08/2026 18:12

I don't think calling a name 'a showgirl name' is an insult. You shouldn't be so upset by the comment. The name must be well known from a play or something.

Screamingabdabz · 21/08/2026 18:11

Yes she was being slightly bitchy. Maybe they didn’t want to be around 5 children on their get together?

I think you are overreacting though - I would’ve just ignored the comment. You don’t need to take it so personally.

Pedant61 · 21/08/2026 18:10

I think you nsed to find a sense of humour, OP. It's just a throwaway remark, it's not about your grandchildren as people. Just laugh it off and say "yeah, you should have heard the God-awful names that were rejected!".

nrp2 · 21/08/2026 18:09

Your way overreacting.... It's not really something to get so worked up about

Makepumpseleven · 21/08/2026 18:09

I think it was a rude thing to say out loud. YANBU.

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Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:09

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:07

What, that they have showgirl names?

Why were you 'shocked'?

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Irrespective of whether they are or aren’t showgirl names, I just don’t think it something you say out loud. I wouldn’t say out loud if I thought a name was pretentious or tacky or whatever as it’s just not a helpful or needed comment.

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Raptors · 21/08/2026 18:08

I genuinely don't understand why you'd get annoyed over this comment let alone furious and why you'd want to give her a piece of your mind which honestly sounds pretty irrational over a throw away comment.

takealettermsjones · 21/08/2026 18:08

Is it possible that she meant it as a compliment - as in very glamorous, film star sort of names?

HumberSquid · 21/08/2026 18:08

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:04

One of these names is correct.
Im not sure it really matters what they are called though?

I don’t think it’s a nice comment to make about little girls.

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Really, why not? What's wrong with being a show girl?

If they dont have show girl names its just a silly remark, if they do well presumably their parents like them so what's the problem?

Dankanddrear · 21/08/2026 18:07

It was a crass and rude comment to make to the children's grandmother.

I'm sure your mutual friend was cross too.

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:07

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:04

One of these names is correct.
Im not sure it really matters what they are called though?

I don’t think it’s a nice comment to make about little girls.

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What, that they have showgirl names?

Why were you 'shocked'?

Thundertoast · 21/08/2026 18:07

I would only be insulted if I personally for some reason had a negative view of showgirls... but then this isnt the 1900s and im not a wealthy landowner hoping my eldest grandson will marry a girl of good breeding and stop chasing moral-less, common dancers who will bring shame to our entire family meaning we'll be cast from society....

Lomonald · 21/08/2026 18:07

Op your friends friend meant what she said ! Sneery nonsense.

canklesmctacotits · 21/08/2026 18:06

It’ll be Roxy probably, which tbf is a bit of a showgirl name 😳. I do agree with not saying it out loud though. No good could come of doing so!

Dooferer · 21/08/2026 18:04

ExtraOnions · 21/08/2026 18:03

What are they called ? Star? Dita? Fifi ? Roxy? Kitty?

Are they theatrical names ?

Don’t understand why you are furious ? I’m sure they weren’t intimating they were named after porn actors.

I’m betting on Lola!

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