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AIBU to be angry about comments on my granddaughters' names?

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Ellenay · 21/08/2026 17:59

So, I have 5 grandchildren, this weekend I’m looking after all of them, my daughter and her husband are away to a wedding in France and my son and his wife have booked a little spa weekend.

I popped in to see some of my friends with them as I don’t often have the children and my friends like seeing them.

One of my friends had some other friends I’ve not met before over but we joined them. After introducing the children and then being sent to the kitchen to get a lollipop, one of these friends said oh don’t all the girls have little showgirl names, I must have looked a bit shocked as someone else then jumped in and said oh she doesn’t mean p*rnstar just very moulin rouge.

I just said I thought their names were lovely and moved on but now I’m back home I’m furious, I’m furious I didn’t give her a piece of my mind.

AIBU to think this is an absurd thing to say about children’s names?!

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IggyAce · 21/08/2026 18:22

Some people just have no filter, my ds name sounds like an American pornstar apparently! I laughed and decided it said more about them as a person.

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:22

columnatedruinsdomino · 21/08/2026 18:21

Interesting that both your children gave their children showgirl names! They obviously weren’t bothered about the ‘negative’ connotations so why would someone else pointing it out make you ‘furious’ and ‘angry’?

These aren’t from both of my children, these girls are all sisters, my other two grandchildren are my sons.

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columnatedruinsdomino · 21/08/2026 18:21

Interesting that both your children gave their children showgirl names! They obviously weren’t bothered about the ‘negative’ connotations so why would someone else pointing it out make you ‘furious’ and ‘angry’?

Pistachiocake · 21/08/2026 18:21

Dooferer · 21/08/2026 18:04

I’m betting on Lola!

Well, you've probably got that stuck in everyone's head now!
People always do make judgments based on names-even children do it, despite us warning them not to.

wizzywig · 21/08/2026 18:21

But lola was a showgirl

PinkyFlamingo · 21/08/2026 18:20

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:04

One of these names is correct.
Im not sure it really matters what they are called though?

I don’t think it’s a nice comment to make about little girls.

Well when parents call their children names that may stand out as a bit "different" their choice of course they need to expect comments I think.

Lomonald · 21/08/2026 18:20

Lomonald · 21/08/2026 18:19

Strippers/burlesque dancers/ low class a bit common girls& women is what it means.

Oh you mean the actual names, pp have posted them.

WaffleCity85 · 21/08/2026 18:19

At least she didn’t say they sound like dog names, which is what I’d have thought. Now I have the song Lola, she was a showgirl.. song in my head all night.

lottiegarbanzo · 21/08/2026 18:19

Tallulah, Delilah, Savanna, Sienna.
Amirite?

Rainbowstarssunlight · 21/08/2026 18:19

I mean I think it you call your kids Lola, Roxy and Ruby you must assume people are going to think that?

InterestedDad37 · 21/08/2026 18:19

Dooferer · 21/08/2026 18:04

I’m betting on Lola!

I wonder if Tony and Rico feature at all?

meganorks · 21/08/2026 18:19

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:14

No, not Kitty. I fear this thread is just going to turn into a guessing game of their names instead of actually discussing the woman’s manners so I will share their names.
Lola, Roxy and Ruby.

I mean, come on now. There's literally the song 'her name was Lola, she was a showgirl...' I'm sure that just popped into her head. Probably should have stayed in her head but I'm not sure you need to be so angry about it.

Lomonald · 21/08/2026 18:19

Wingedharpy · 21/08/2026 18:04

What are "showgirl names"?

Strippers/burlesque dancers/ low class a bit common girls& women is what it means.

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:18

curtaintwitcher78 · 21/08/2026 18:17

It could have been worse. They could have pointed out that they're names from Eastenders.

Snap! Lol

Coinkidinki · 21/08/2026 18:18

"Her name was Lola, she was a showgirl" - even Barry Manilow agrees!

They're nice names, pretty but with an exotic touch - like the usual image of a showgirl.

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:18

Although now I know the names are Lola, Roxy and Ruby I'd have marked their parents down as Eastenders fans.

All you're missing are Phil and Grant 😁

Impossiblyme · 21/08/2026 18:18

Just think - if they ever formed a singing group, they could do a Barry Manilow medley.

IglesiasPiggl · 21/08/2026 18:17

It's the sort of comment that one might think privately that most people wouldn't voice out loud. Does this woman have no social filter? It was a bit crass but there's no point getting angry about the associations people make with names, especially if it's a common association.

curtaintwitcher78 · 21/08/2026 18:17

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:14

No, not Kitty. I fear this thread is just going to turn into a guessing game of their names instead of actually discussing the woman’s manners so I will share their names.
Lola, Roxy and Ruby.

It could have been worse. They could have pointed out that they're names from Eastenders.

ExtraOnions · 21/08/2026 18:17

…at least it’s not Lolita

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:16

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Lol at you calling rudeness while being totally ageist 😁

Jewelanemone · 21/08/2026 18:16

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:15

So they were right then.

Showgirl names 🤷‍♂️

I agree.

Great names, though.

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:15

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:14

No, not Kitty. I fear this thread is just going to turn into a guessing game of their names instead of actually discussing the woman’s manners so I will share their names.
Lola, Roxy and Ruby.

So they were right then.

Showgirl names 🤷‍♂️

Screamingabdabz · 21/08/2026 18:15

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:14

No, not Kitty. I fear this thread is just going to turn into a guessing game of their names instead of actually discussing the woman’s manners so I will share their names.
Lola, Roxy and Ruby.

But put together…op you’ve got to admit that does sound like a troupe of showgirls…😆

itsgettingweird · 21/08/2026 18:14

Like with anything anybody else says some will people will be offended by it and others won’t.

Personally unless someone is racist etc then I choose not to be offended and assume it’s just a comment that’s offended me but was intentionally meant to do so.

I also assumed Lola and Roxy. I have friends with kids names this.