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AIBU to be angry about comments on my granddaughters' names?

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Ellenay · 21/08/2026 17:59

So, I have 5 grandchildren, this weekend I’m looking after all of them, my daughter and her husband are away to a wedding in France and my son and his wife have booked a little spa weekend.

I popped in to see some of my friends with them as I don’t often have the children and my friends like seeing them.

One of my friends had some other friends I’ve not met before over but we joined them. After introducing the children and then being sent to the kitchen to get a lollipop, one of these friends said oh don’t all the girls have little showgirl names, I must have looked a bit shocked as someone else then jumped in and said oh she doesn’t mean p*rnstar just very moulin rouge.

I just said I thought their names were lovely and moved on but now I’m back home I’m furious, I’m furious I didn’t give her a piece of my mind.

AIBU to think this is an absurd thing to say about children’s names?!

OP posts:
mixingplaydoh · 21/08/2026 18:37

takealettermsjones · 21/08/2026 18:08

Is it possible that she meant it as a compliment - as in very glamorous, film star sort of names?

I wondered this too. A bit clumsy but not intentionally derogatory.

I can understand why OP felt offended though, especially given this woman doesn’t know her granddaughters well to say it in an affectionate kind of way.

Imupforthat · 21/08/2026 18:37

Regardless of your own personal feelings the only acceptable comment on hearing a child’s name is “oh isn’t that pretty” or a bland remark about how much you like it/have never heard that before how lovely and unusual/ or I know a “insert name” it’s sweet.

I didn’t name my child and it’s one that features regularly here as “chavvy”. It’s really nasty to hear. It might be to you taste but thank goodness we are all different otherwise wouldn’t life be boring.

That person was very rude.

ginasevern · 21/08/2026 18:37

It obviously wasn't a compliment OP. "Showgirl" names is a derogatory comment whichever way you look at it. It was rude and they should've kept their thoughts to themselves or at least until after you'd gone.

takealettermsjones · 21/08/2026 18:36

Hardware252525252525 · 21/08/2026 18:33

Is it not just because of Copacabana and Chicago? Can’t see how Ruby is a showgirl name though.

There was an actress/singer called Ruby Keeler. And she was in Showgirl! 😁

LimpRat · 21/08/2026 18:35

I don't know why everyone's pretending you're being unreasonable OP.

Obviously it was an intentionally barbed comment. That person is nasty and badly raised. And also out of date in their views, names don't have to be Edwardian to be perfectly pleasant and valid.

Put them from your mind and enjoy your GDC and just don't be around that person again. And be honest with your friend who brought them about why you don't want to see this person, if they enquire.

Iocanepowder · 21/08/2026 18:34

Well it’s telling that 2 posters guessed 2 of the names isn’t it op.

Surely you’ve heard of Copacabana?

Also yes Roxy Hart from Chicago.

Hardware252525252525 · 21/08/2026 18:33

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:14

No, not Kitty. I fear this thread is just going to turn into a guessing game of their names instead of actually discussing the woman’s manners so I will share their names.
Lola, Roxy and Ruby.

Is it not just because of Copacabana and Chicago? Can’t see how Ruby is a showgirl name though.

AlwaysExtraHot · 21/08/2026 18:32

It was rude, because it's always rude to say anything about someone else's choice of name unless it's a compliment or (if you hate it) carefully bland e.g. 'That's unusual!'
'Showgirl names', for those affecting wide-eyed confusion, are things like Lola and Coco and Fifi.

Rizzz · 21/08/2026 18:32

lottiegarbanzo · 21/08/2026 18:31

Ok so one of your children has showgirl tastes. Have you honestly never noticed this before?

Ruby not so much but Lola and Roxy?

Could be Eastenders.

lottiegarbanzo · 21/08/2026 18:31

Ok so one of your children has showgirl tastes. Have you honestly never noticed this before?

Ruby not so much but Lola and Roxy?

MatchaTea1 · 21/08/2026 18:31

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:14

No, not Kitty. I fear this thread is just going to turn into a guessing game of their names instead of actually discussing the woman’s manners so I will share their names.
Lola, Roxy and Ruby.

Oof your friend was not wrong!

SummerNocturnal · 21/08/2026 18:31

takealettermsjones · 21/08/2026 18:28

Well I mean they all have songs...

Her name was Lola, she was a showgirl
The name on everybody's lips is gonna be Roxie
Ruby Ruby Ruby Ruby.... ah ah ah ah ah ah!!

Indeed
And it could be worse
Roxanne, you don't have to put on the red light
Ruby, don't take your love to town

👀

takealettermsjones · 21/08/2026 18:29

OP, I genuinely don't think this was derogatory. I just think Copacabana popped into her head. It's not any more deep than that!

IStillHearTheWaves · 21/08/2026 18:28

Wingedharpy · 21/08/2026 18:04

What are "showgirl names"?

Lola

takealettermsjones · 21/08/2026 18:28

Well I mean they all have songs...

Her name was Lola, she was a showgirl
The name on everybody's lips is gonna be Roxie
Ruby Ruby Ruby Ruby.... ah ah ah ah ah ah!!

Coinkidinki · 21/08/2026 18:27

PinkyFlamingo · 21/08/2026 18:25

I'm hearing Barry Manilow "her name was Lola, she was a showgirl".

I think we all have a Copacabana earworm now.

Lararoft · 21/08/2026 18:26

Their names seem quite normal really, that woman was being bitchy.

Likeiloveyou · 21/08/2026 18:26

It’s just a throwaway comment. You are being over sensitive.

Is that because you find the names a bit embarrassing? Ruby is quite normal though isn’t it?

Roxy and Lola does sound like a burlesque double act tbh.

poolshoes · 21/08/2026 18:25

I wouldn’t worry, she sounds out of touch even the word showgirl is a little dated.

PinkyFlamingo · 21/08/2026 18:25

Screamingabdabz · 21/08/2026 18:15

But put together…op you’ve got to admit that does sound like a troupe of showgirls…😆

I'm hearing Barry Manilow "her name was Lola, she was a showgirl".

Becuriousnotjudgemental1980 · 21/08/2026 18:24

That’s a bit weird. Although, one of the kids on our street is called Lola and the only other Lola I’ve known was a stripper. So I guess it’s what your mind associates names with.

VestibuleWeaver · 21/08/2026 18:24

Ellenay · 21/08/2026 18:14

No, not Kitty. I fear this thread is just going to turn into a guessing game of their names instead of actually discussing the woman’s manners so I will share their names.
Lola, Roxy and Ruby.

That does sound like a wee dance troupe, TBF.

poolshoes · 21/08/2026 18:24

It’s a little rude but i’m sure she didn’t mean it

Mumalala · 21/08/2026 18:23

Roxy reminds me of Chicago, which makes it pretty showgirl.

lottiegarbanzo · 21/08/2026 18:23

They’re not commenting on little girls, they’re commenting on their parents’ choices.