AIBU to be angry about comments on my granddaughters' names?

Wasn’t there a Ruby in Upstairs Downstairs? She wasn’t a showgirl.

Like in the song "Her name was Lola she was a showgirl" probably came into her mind.

Agreed! It was very rude to comment whatever the names.

Barry Manilow actually sang it..

"Her name was Lola , she was a showgirl.."

I think she just meant they were glamorous, musical names. They are all lovely names.

Aside from all of this I just want to say what a fab Nanna you are to have 5 DGC all at the same time.
Good for you.
Xx.

I can see why that popped into her head but it wasn't necessary to say it.

They are nice names and I wouldn’t take offence

Oops you have

🎵"Her name was Lola, she was a showgirl..." 🎵

Why not share the names

I think this is not an offensive comment. "They've all got stripper names" yes that would be rude. "Oh what lovely classic film star names" more of a compliment. The comment about showgirl was somewhere in between. I wouldn't take massive offense over it. People say daft things often, this is not a direct insult so don't take it as one.

I don’t think Roxy is that attention seeky or exotic tbh.

Brits really aren’t ready for American names if they think Roxy is exotic 😂

Those are beautiful names and I don’t associate them with showgirls, except maybe Roxy. But Roxy is a kick ass name!

I imagine she just meant they were names from shows and Lola being a 'showgirl' put that name for them in her head. I certainly wouldn't have been furious about that comment

Why is it negative ? 🤔

There’s a lot of wilful ignorance on here this evening…

Of course it was a rude comment, OP, and I would have been offended too - there’s no way this woman meant it in a complimentary way, and therefore she should have kept her mouth shut.

They are showgirl names imo but I like them all. Why have you taken it as an insult?

In all honesty, if you’re going to make a thread about criticism of your GC’s names, then you’re inviting people’s opinions on here really.

Go look on the Baby Names board - there’s such a huge variety of opinions over names. People never agree. Roxy is a less common name that not everyone will love but does it matter? Other people’s opinions are just that - opinions.

And in fairness, if I heard the name Lola, my mind would immediately go to the song and internally sing the next line “…she was a showgirl”…. And for Roxy, I instantly think of Chicago, the musical - the main character Roxie, who was a chorus girl.

So yes, I don’t think the description of “showgirl names” is far off the mark but that’s not a bad thing? Honestly not sure why you’re upset.

I think your response was fine and you didn't need to say any further. I wouldn't give it too much thought

We ruled out so many names based on lyrics in songs! Lola was a girl option for us as it was my grandmothers name but I couldn't get Kinks Lola song out of my head!

My MIL had a comment about my daughter's name for a friend about it being a bit "ridiculous". I think people think it's a safe to make this comments to grandparents as they didn't choose their names. When her grandchild came along with equally "modern" and less classical names she said to my MIL "don't, I know". My MIL wouldn't have ever mentioned anything but it was a lesson to her friend to keep her mouth shut as you never know when you might find yourself in the same situation.

My daughters name isn't common but it's a fairly normal name, my son's name is a common name but one that has fallen out of favour in the last 30 years. I've had people raise eyebrows at it. It isn't a particularly baby name but children are babies for such a short space of time. Names come in waves, my name was in the top 100 for most of the 1800 and 1900s but now would feel odd if I heard about a baby being called that. You just stay quiet when you hear other people's names!

Lola, Roxy and Ruby are names that could be considered showgirl names. At least she didn’t say hooker 😂

I’d just laugh it off.

It was tactless and pig ignorant for this woman to make negative comments about the little girls names Ellenay.

I can understand why it upset you. I’m glad your granddaughters didn’t hear her hurtful remarks. Enjoy your special time with your grandchildren and try not to let it bother you any further. This ugly natured woman isn’t worth it.

I don't see that's the thing people have different opinions than the offence shouldn't be taken.

I'm glad I don't have that name considering the profession.I've ended up in.It would be a bit ridiculous to introduce myself as Roxy.

Maybe they meant Barry Manilow, Copacabana for one lyrics go Her name was Lola, she was a showgirl.

People aren't necessarily being malicious.

How? Showgirls are awesome!

It’s rude to comment but they are all showgirl names and Roxy/ Lola are popular stripper names. Likelihood is it slipped out before she could think. I wouldn’t take offence